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  • kat1114 said:
    I just found out that we have off Dec 24 & 25 for work.  Which is great - yay Christmas.  BUT it means that I have to take Dec 26 off if I want a long weekend.  My former employer gave us Christmas + the day before or after.  So, if CHristmas fell on a Tuesday or Thursday, you'd get the Monday or Friday off to give people a long weekend.


    Grrr...
    Ewwww. Work for the auto industry - we're off 12/24-1/2.


    Or the aviation industry. We're also off those days.

    Today my stomach is pissing me off. My lower right abdomen has been hurting constantly for over 3 years. I've been to several doctors, done lots of tests, and they can't seem to figure it out. Sometimes it hurts less than others, but it always hurts. It seemed like it was at least getting manageable for a while, but it has come back with a vengeance this week. Having stomach issues at work is so incredibly uncomfortable.
    Did they check diverticulitis? Sounds like it adds up to that. You can try going on a low fod map diet and see if it helps. It's hella restrictive, but helps me a ton. 

    ashley8918 hugs :(
    One of the girls I work with had some serious pain every time she had her period. They did shit tons of tests and couldn't figure it out. 3 years later, it turns out that (don't laugh at my lack of lady part knowledge) whatever part of your lady insides swell when you're on your period gets so big it pinches a nerve near her spine, thus causing the pain. She needed a couple massages and she was fine.  Hopefully it's something easy to fix!
  • Got the call that my dress is in! Which is awesome. And exciting.

    But I'm annoyed that I live 8 hours and a province over from where I ordered it so who knows when I'll actually get to see it and try it on. (My mum is picking it up for me and storing it at her place).

    I just want to see my dress.... Im also super hormonal this week so It just kinda hit me hard that Im so far away from my family. (FI and I moved a year ago for work. It was supposed to be a year adventure. Its looking like its going to be another 2 at least...)
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  • Also: What's making me mad? Getting paid 50 cents more than when I was hired 2 years ago and doing 5x the work. FRUSTRATES. And when I asked bossman for a raise, he laughed at me :(
  • DF took a new, more high-profile position at work a few months ago, and the added stress and hours have severely worsened the underlying anxiety that he's dealt with for most of his life.  As in, he's now suffering from multiple panic attacks a day sometimes.  On top of the emotional TLC he's needed, I've picked up more of the housekeeping duties because he's working longer hours and more physically and emotionally tired when he's home.  After much gentle prodding, I finally convinced him that this level of anxiety was not healthy or normal for him and that he needed to talk to a therapist to help him come up with coping strategies.  He made an appointment for this Friday.  I'm so proud of him for taking that step.

    What happens this week?  He comes down with a bad cold.  So he feels terrible, and I'm bringing him tissues/making tea/heating up soup/dealing with typical sick-related neediness on top of everything else.  I love FI dearly, and I feel terrible that he's going through this.  I will gladly do whatever I can to help him, and as exhausting as this is for me, it must be even worse for him.  I get that is part of being a couple--we're vowing to love each other in good times and in bad, and support each other through the rest of our lives.  And I'm 110% on board with that.  I'm just feeling a bit spent these days.
  • @Ashley8918 Sorry, hope you feel better soon!

    @KatWAG WTF?!

    Nothing really bugging me at all, I have to say I'm quite happy. Except the thought of job searching in late January come looming into my head from time to time and cast a gloomy cloud on my bright parade. On a happier note, I just made pear and chocolate pudding so that's making me cheerful!
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  • Bugging me:

    I still haven't found a job after 4 months of unemployment and 6 interviews. I got one job offer but declined it as it was a 17k pay cut (BOO TO YOU FOR MISLEADING THE PAY SCALE)

    It's cold. But I really want sushi. But I need to shower. But I want my hair curly. But it's REALLY cold outside so I can't let it air dry, so I have to blow dry, which means my hair will be flat because it's so dry outside. 

    The laundry just finished and my laundry fairy quit.

    My Mom wants me to come and visit her for a week but that means leaving FI for the holiday. He doesn't care, but I do. But then I wonder why he doesn't care? (It's really just because he couldn't give two shits about any holiday.) 

    Speaking of FI, the word "etiquette" is not in his wheelhouse. Pretty sure it's in another language to him. This wedding planning is getting interesting. 

    AND WHERE ARE MY BOOT CUFFS FOR MY NEW BOOTS? (Bought with my birthday money - don't side eye my birthday purchase just because I'm unemployed.)

    This became a vent post. Apologies. 
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  • jenna8984 said:
    @lolo883 exactly!!! He doesn't see me compromising but England is a huge compromise for me. If he had no limitations I would not go there, I'd be choosing like Italy, Czech, Bali. I came up with Azores because its beachy/ nature non-stress like he wants but it's international for me. You know what his veto was? That he doesn't eat Portuguese food. What are you even talking about?! I'm sure they have burgers and fries and rice you big baby!!
    Um. I am not even being sassy when I say that you two should maybe consider separate vacations. Go explore the globe with a friend who loves adventure while he takes his best bro to a domestic beach. 

    Obviously you wouldn't be spending that time together, but you'd both get what you need out of a vacation. It would be one thing if he was nervous abroad, and worried about stuff but ultimately tried to have a good attitude. But it sounds like his attitude is shit, even once he's in the place. Which can't be any fun for you, dragging around a sad/cranky husband everywhere and holding his wittle hand every time a proper American burger can't be found.

    If, as you say, the two of you are more likely to do local/beach trips once you have kids, why not go fucking crazy in the remaining year on your own (or with a friend or two)? You wouldn't be foregoing a lifetime of vacations with your husband (who I am sure has many, many compensating qualities), but you wouldn't be waving goodbye to ever getting to see the world before you have children. 

    (Note: I'm not saying people can't travel internationally with young children. But I DO think you'd at the very least have to have a willing and helpful partner to make it feasible and fun.)
    I meant to just "love it" this but hit quote and can't delete it.  I do think this is something to consider though.  
  • jenna8984 said:
    @lolo883 exactly!!! He doesn't see me compromising but England is a huge compromise for me. If he had no limitations I would not go there, I'd be choosing like Italy, Czech, Bali. I came up with Azores because its beachy/ nature non-stress like he wants but it's international for me. You know what his veto was? That he doesn't eat Portuguese food. What are you even talking about?! I'm sure they have burgers and fries and rice you big baby!!
    Has he ever even HAD Portuguese food?! That's ridiculous. Never mind that on our honeymoon in Spain, we had Brazilian food one night, Italian another, and NY style pizza for lunch (don't judge us, we ate lots of Spanish food too). There are options EVERYWHERE. We're not the only country in the world that has caught on to the fact that other cultures have great food, too. 

    What about an all-inclusive? There will definitely be English-speaking resort employees, and a damn international buffet. http://www.clubmed.us/cm/resort-da-balaia-portugal-restaurants-bars_p-115-l-US-v-DBAC-r-3-d-000004-ac-vh.html

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  • Bugging me:

    I still haven't found a job after 4 months of unemployment and 6 interviews. I got one job offer but declined it as it was a 17k pay cut (BOO TO YOU FOR MISLEADING THE PAY SCALE)

    It's cold. But I really want sushi. But I need to shower. But I want my hair curly. But it's REALLY cold outside so I can't let it air dry, so I have to blow dry, which means my hair will be flat because it's so dry outside. 

    The laundry just finished and my laundry fairy quit.

    My Mom wants me to come and visit her for a week but that means leaving FI for the holiday. He doesn't care, but I do. But then I wonder why he doesn't care? (It's really just because he couldn't give two shits about any holiday.) 

    Speaking of FI, the word "etiquette" is not in his wheelhouse. Pretty sure it's in another language to him. This wedding planning is getting interesting. 

    AND WHERE ARE MY BOOT CUFFS FOR MY NEW BOOTS? (Bought with my birthday money - don't side eye my birthday purchase just because I'm unemployed.)

    This became a vent post. Apologies. 
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    Maybe. 

    My DH works holidays. Last year I went to my sister's for t-day.  He didn't care.   My sister and parents are going to Hawaii for xmas this year.  He keeps telling me to go.  I decided not to go, but he really doesn't care if I went to Hawaii with my family for the holidays. It's just another day to him. 

    We both are about spending time with our families even if the other can't go for whatever reason.






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  • jenna8984 said:
    @lolo883 exactly!!! He doesn't see me compromising but England is a huge compromise for me. If he had no limitations I would not go there, I'd be choosing like Italy, Czech, Bali. I came up with Azores because its beachy/ nature non-stress like he wants but it's international for me. You know what his veto was? That he doesn't eat Portuguese food. What are you even talking about?! I'm sure they have burgers and fries and rice you big baby!!
    Um. I am not even being sassy when I say that you two should maybe consider separate vacations. Go explore the globe with a friend who loves adventure while he takes his best bro to a domestic beach. 

    Obviously you wouldn't be spending that time together, but you'd both get what you need out of a vacation. It would be one thing if he was nervous abroad, and worried about stuff but ultimately tried to have a good attitude. But it sounds like his attitude is shit, even once he's in the place. Which can't be any fun for you, dragging around a sad/cranky husband everywhere and holding his wittle hand every time a proper American burger can't be found.

    If, as you say, the two of you are more likely to do local/beach trips once you have kids, why not go fucking crazy in the remaining year on your own (or with a friend or two)? You wouldn't be foregoing a lifetime of vacations with your husband (who I am sure has many, many compensating qualities), but you wouldn't be waving goodbye to ever getting to see the world before you have children. 

    (Note: I'm not saying people can't travel internationally with young children. But I DO think you'd at the very least have to have a willing and helpful partner to make it feasible and fun.)
    @katieinbkln You make a really good point. We have talked about a friend of ours who only takes vacations without her husband 4 times a year and how we find it totally weird. But I think you're right that maybe it wouldn't be weird to just do it this once. Like I've told him that I've been a lot of places and I will be content staying in the country once children come along, but that I'd love one last hurr-ah before that happens. So maybe we really could agree on that since it would be a one time thing.

                                                                     

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  • lyndausvi said:
    Bugging me:

    I still haven't found a job after 4 months of unemployment and 6 interviews. I got one job offer but declined it as it was a 17k pay cut (BOO TO YOU FOR MISLEADING THE PAY SCALE)

    It's cold. But I really want sushi. But I need to shower. But I want my hair curly. But it's REALLY cold outside so I can't let it air dry, so I have to blow dry, which means my hair will be flat because it's so dry outside. 

    The laundry just finished and my laundry fairy quit.

    My Mom wants me to come and visit her for a week but that means leaving FI for the holiday. He doesn't care, but I do. But then I wonder why he doesn't care? (It's really just because he couldn't give two shits about any holiday.) 

    Speaking of FI, the word "etiquette" is not in his wheelhouse. Pretty sure it's in another language to him. This wedding planning is getting interesting. 

    AND WHERE ARE MY BOOT CUFFS FOR MY NEW BOOTS? (Bought with my birthday money - don't side eye my birthday purchase just because I'm unemployed.)

    This became a vent post. Apologies. 
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    Maybe. 

    My DH works holidays. Last year I went to my sister's for t-day.  He didn't care.   My sister and parents are going to Hawaii for xmas this year.  He keeps telling me to go.  I decided not to go, but he really doesn't care if I went to Hawaii with my family for the holidays. It's just another day to him. 

    We both are about spending time with our families even if the other can't go for whatever reason.
    Oh yeah, he totally doesn't care about any holiday. It's just another day to him. I grew up with tons of family around for the holidays, he didn't. So it's far more of a bigger deal to me than it is to him. Definitely my issue :)

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  • My hair is all staticky because it's so dry out. I used product this morning. WTF hair? Why ya gotta be like this?
  • And people putting spoilers in their statuses on Facebook. I HAVEN'T SEEN SOA YET, THANK YOU VERY MUCH. Geez. It was just on last night.

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  • One of my students is really bugging me. I teach a college freshman seminar course and I get that it's not everyone's idea of a good time, but it's really what you make of it. Most of my students are great but one guy is definitely too cool for school. He likes to act like class activities are beneath him and often just shrugs when I come around to check the homework. 

    Yesterday was the group project presentations and it was really obvious that not only had he taken control of the project despite the willingness of his group members to contribute, but he'd done a really poor job of it. I guess what bugs me the most is that as much as I want to tell this guy he's acting like a little s--- and that he needs to grow up, I know that A) he wouldn't listen, and B) I couldn't actually keep my job.
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  • jenna8984 said:
    jenna8984 said:
    @lolo883 exactly!!! He doesn't see me compromising but England is a huge compromise for me. If he had no limitations I would not go there, I'd be choosing like Italy, Czech, Bali. I came up with Azores because its beachy/ nature non-stress like he wants but it's international for me. You know what his veto was? That he doesn't eat Portuguese food. What are you even talking about?! I'm sure they have burgers and fries and rice you big baby!!
    Um. I am not even being sassy when I say that you two should maybe consider separate vacations. Go explore the globe with a friend who loves adventure while he takes his best bro to a domestic beach. 

    Obviously you wouldn't be spending that time together, but you'd both get what you need out of a vacation. It would be one thing if he was nervous abroad, and worried about stuff but ultimately tried to have a good attitude. But it sounds like his attitude is shit, even once he's in the place. Which can't be any fun for you, dragging around a sad/cranky husband everywhere and holding his wittle hand every time a proper American burger can't be found.

    If, as you say, the two of you are more likely to do local/beach trips once you have kids, why not go fucking crazy in the remaining year on your own (or with a friend or two)? You wouldn't be foregoing a lifetime of vacations with your husband (who I am sure has many, many compensating qualities), but you wouldn't be waving goodbye to ever getting to see the world before you have children. 

    (Note: I'm not saying people can't travel internationally with young children. But I DO think you'd at the very least have to have a willing and helpful partner to make it feasible and fun.)
    @katieinbkln You make a really good point. We have talked about a friend of ours who only takes vacations without her husband 4 times a year and how we find it totally weird. But I think you're right that maybe it wouldn't be weird to just do it this once. Like I've told him that I've been a lot of places and I will be content staying in the country once children come along, but that I'd love one last hurr-ah before that happens. So maybe we really could agree on that since it would be a one time thing.
    There's nothing weird about it at all.  SO's mom is a fun loving awesome woman.  His dad, on the other hand, is a crotchety old man who never wants to leave the house unless it is his idea and on his time (which is usually just going to buy parts for whatever his little man-craft is at the moment).  Seriously, he won't even go out for dinner with her.  SMH.  Anyways, so instead of her just being depressed and at home with him, she has a vacation about once a year with her girlfriends and goes out to movies and dinner "dates" with her friends all the time throughout the year as well.  
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  • I am annoyed that I forgot to go run an errand at lunch and now I might not have time to do it. It was a fun errand, too--I'm going to see a basketball game and wanted to buy my team's hat! FOOLISH KATIE, PLAN BETTER.
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    This baby knows exactly how I feel
  • jenna8984 said:
    jenna8984 said:
    @lolo883 exactly!!! He doesn't see me compromising but England is a huge compromise for me. If he had no limitations I would not go there, I'd be choosing like Italy, Czech, Bali. I came up with Azores because its beachy/ nature non-stress like he wants but it's international for me. You know what his veto was? That he doesn't eat Portuguese food. What are you even talking about?! I'm sure they have burgers and fries and rice you big baby!!
    Um. I am not even being sassy when I say that you two should maybe consider separate vacations. Go explore the globe with a friend who loves adventure while he takes his best bro to a domestic beach. 

    Obviously you wouldn't be spending that time together, but you'd both get what you need out of a vacation. It would be one thing if he was nervous abroad, and worried about stuff but ultimately tried to have a good attitude. But it sounds like his attitude is shit, even once he's in the place. Which can't be any fun for you, dragging around a sad/cranky husband everywhere and holding his wittle hand every time a proper American burger can't be found.

    If, as you say, the two of you are more likely to do local/beach trips once you have kids, why not go fucking crazy in the remaining year on your own (or with a friend or two)? You wouldn't be foregoing a lifetime of vacations with your husband (who I am sure has many, many compensating qualities), but you wouldn't be waving goodbye to ever getting to see the world before you have children. 

    (Note: I'm not saying people can't travel internationally with young children. But I DO think you'd at the very least have to have a willing and helpful partner to make it feasible and fun.)
    @katieinbkln You make a really good point. We have talked about a friend of ours who only takes vacations without her husband 4 times a year and how we find it totally weird. But I think you're right that maybe it wouldn't be weird to just do it this once. Like I've told him that I've been a lot of places and I will be content staying in the country once children come along, but that I'd love one last hurr-ah before that happens. So maybe we really could agree on that since it would be a one time thing.
    My BFF loves to travel.  Her DH not so much. He will not get on a plane at all.  They have 2 small daughters.  

    She takes a long weekend to travel without him each year.  Right now she is planning on coming out here to see me (she is in Philly).  We've talked about maybe going to the islands for 4-5 days also.  It's been my schedule that has been the problem.

    My sister who has 3 kids (youngest is not 12).  My sister came to see me in the islands without him or the kids twice.  Kids were fairly young then, too.

    I have male friends who have taken hunting, golf or fishing trips without their wives.   

    I do not have a problem with traveling without my husband.  Especially to a place is not interested in going.   Last year I called my DH to tell him I was flying to FL in 2 days to meet up with my sister to go to the Orange Bowl.   He said "have fun".






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  • Ugh my ex never wanted to travel.  He was happy in his own little bubble here.  IT was actually a huge issue for us and I made sure my FI was a fellow explorer like me.

    We have family friends that take separate vacations.  He only ever wants to go to the beach in places where they speak English and she likes to travel the world.  Wouldn't work for me but it works for them!
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  • Yeah H and I travel separately sometimes... he goes to FL every year for Tigers spring training, I go to Traverse City in the fall for wine tasting. Thankfully we align pretty well on what we want out of big vacations, so I'm happy I get to experience those things/places with him.

    If we do another tropical vacation though, we'd probably try to travel in a group, so I can do the water-related things that make him seasick, while he can find a casino or something. We'd still get all the good eats and vacation sex, while also doing things separately that we each enjoy.

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  • One of my students is really bugging me. I teach a college freshman seminar course and I get that it's not everyone's idea of a good time, but it's really what you make of it. Most of my students are great but one guy is definitely too cool for school. He likes to act like class activities are beneath him and often just shrugs when I come around to check the homework. 

    Yesterday was the group project presentations and it was really obvious that not only had he taken control of the project despite the willingness of his group members to contribute, but he'd done a really poor job of it. I guess what bugs me the most is that as much as I want to tell this guy he's acting like a little s--- and that he needs to grow up, I know that A) he wouldn't listen, and B) I couldn't actually keep my job.
    I feel like college students can be more immature than elementary school students sometimes. My friend teaches college courses and vents to me all the time about it. I think my favorite was when one of her students missed an exam because she needed to take her car in to get fixed and then didn't have a way to get to class. Um... a bus? Car pool? Ask a friend? A bike? Take your car in some other time? 

    When my friend said that wasn't a valid excuse for missing an exam and it would not be excused so she'd get an F, the girl flipped out and went to the dean. 
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  • One of my students is really bugging me. I teach a college freshman seminar course and I get that it's not everyone's idea of a good time, but it's really what you make of it. Most of my students are great but one guy is definitely too cool for school. He likes to act like class activities are beneath him and often just shrugs when I come around to check the homework. 

    Yesterday was the group project presentations and it was really obvious that not only had he taken control of the project despite the willingness of his group members to contribute, but he'd done a really poor job of it. I guess what bugs me the most is that as much as I want to tell this guy he's acting like a little s--- and that he needs to grow up, I know that A) he wouldn't listen, and B) I couldn't actually keep my job.
    I feel like college students can be more immature than elementary school students sometimes. My friend teaches college courses and vents to me all the time about it. I think my favorite was when one of her students missed an exam because she needed to take her car in to get fixed and then didn't have a way to get to class. Um... a bus? Car pool? Ask a friend? A bike? Take your car in some other time? 

    When my friend said that wasn't a valid excuse for missing an exam and it would not be excused so she'd get an F, the girl flipped out and went to the dean. 
    I'm lucky I have the backing of my dean when it comes to my policies. Though thus far, nobody's complained to her so I haven't had any of them tested. The best student in one of my classes is one who failed it in an earlier semester, so she really gets how important it is. The class itself is all about building the skills you need to succeed in college so I tell them from day one, from now on, you're making a series of choices. You can make any choices you want, to be here, or not to be here, and if something takes precedence to you, that's fine. But you'll still have to deal with the consequences.

    (Of course I make exceptions for major things like deaths in the family, but most excuses I've come across are not valid enough for me to look the other way)
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  • I have a contribution to things that are bugging me as well...

    My stupid, ugly Ugg boots broke this morning. The entire seam running across the top of my foot has just split completely, and the shoe repair guy says he can't do anything because of way they're stitched and the curve. They're out of warranty too. They're hideous and I just bought them because they're so warm and comfortable but it's still really annoying. I don't want to have to switch to stupid Sorels or whatever.

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  • amelisha said:
    I have a contribution to things that are bugging me as well...

    My stupid, ugly Ugg boots broke this morning. The entire seam running across the top of my foot has just split completely, and the shoe repair guy says he can't do anything because of way they're stitched and the curve. They're out of warranty too. They're hideous and I just bought them because they're so warm and comfortable but it's still really annoying. I don't want to have to switch to stupid Sorels or whatever.
    Dude. I have Sorels and they are fucking amazing. I'm obsessed with them. And yeah, Uggs are ugly. 
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  • I have a contribution to things that are bugging me as well...

    My stupid, ugly Ugg boots broke this morning. The entire seam running across the top of my foot has just split completely, and the shoe repair guy says he can't do anything because of way they're stitched and the curve. They're out of warranty too. They're hideous and I just bought them because they're so warm and comfortable but it's still really annoying. I don't want to have to switch to stupid Sorels or whatever.
    Honey, you need a gofundme so you can get some new Uggs. I'll start it for you.
    I know! I deserve those $300 boots, right?

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  • amelisha said:
    I have a contribution to things that are bugging me as well...

    My stupid, ugly Ugg boots broke this morning. The entire seam running across the top of my foot has just split completely, and the shoe repair guy says he can't do anything because of way they're stitched and the curve. They're out of warranty too. They're hideous and I just bought them because they're so warm and comfortable but it's still really annoying. I don't want to have to switch to stupid Sorels or whatever.
    Dude. I have Sorels and they are fucking amazing. I'm obsessed with them. And yeah, Uggs are ugly. 
    Sorels are the BEST.

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  • amelisha said:
    I have a contribution to things that are bugging me as well...

    My stupid, ugly Ugg boots broke this morning. The entire seam running across the top of my foot has just split completely, and the shoe repair guy says he can't do anything because of way they're stitched and the curve. They're out of warranty too. They're hideous and I just bought them because they're so warm and comfortable but it's still really annoying. I don't want to have to switch to stupid Sorels or whatever.

    I despise snow but I can't wait for the first snow here so I can wear my awesome, new Sorels hahah

                                                                     

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  • amelisha said:



    amelisha said:

    I have a contribution to things that are bugging me as well...


    My stupid, ugly Ugg boots broke this morning. The entire seam running across the top of my foot has just split completely, and the shoe repair guy says he can't do anything because of way they're stitched and the curve. They're out of warranty too. They're hideous and I just bought them because they're so warm and comfortable but it's still really annoying. I don't want to have to switch to stupid Sorels or whatever.
    Honey, you need a gofundme so you can get some new Uggs. I'll start it for you.

    I know! I deserve those $300 boots, right?

    You TOTALLY do. I can't believe those suckers just split on you, how dare they! And that incompetent shoe repair man obviously doesn't know how to do his job. You deserve brand new Uggs for dealing with this crap.

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