This... could end badly.

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

So... if you spotted it in my last thread, work SUCKS right now. It has sucked for a while, it's not what I was hired to do, I don't like my team, I don't like my client, etc. I'm not happy. Someone was reaching out to me for a job elsewhere, which I considered for a moment... but it requires +50% travel... to Asia. And H and I were planning on starting TTC after the holidays. And those two things don't sound like they go together super well.

But I'm so desperate to get out of here that I applied.

I guess I don't really need advice right now... maybe just hugs. And good mojo that maybe they say "we like you so much we'll throw bags of money at you to NOT travel, just work here in the same office as your BFF." Or "it's cool, you just get to go to Asia once or twice and then you're donesies! Yay sushi!" Or "just kidding, we'll give you the Toronto territory instead." Or that the job with the half hour commute that I also applied to today - which also happens to be the place I left in Feb of last year - comes through with a better offer, and I don't have to work with the people who were the reason I left there in the first place.

Wah.

Here's a sad cat.

sophhabobopha · November 2014

No advice from me. But I'm such whatever happens will work out for the best!

emmaaa · November 2014

That kitten makes me just want to hug something! Hugs to you and I hope everything works out for the best.

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

Hugs and good luck! I hope it all works out.

esstee33 · November 2014

If you get the job offer, can you use it as leverage at your current company to get more money / better responsibilities / someone else to do the shit they're supposed to do so you don't have to?

DanikaMarie0227 · November 2014

Hoping it all works out for the best!

PrettyGirlLost · November 2014

Aw good luck, I hope it works out the way you want it too ><

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

esstee33 said:

If you get the job offer, can you use it as leverage at your current company to get more money / better responsibilities / someone else to do the shit they're supposed to do so you don't have to?

I don't think I'd want to. The money is good, and I don't see how I could negotiate the rest into improving. I'm just wholeheartedly unhappy here.

novella1186 · November 2014

Good luck! At least you're taking the right steps to make your current crappy situation way better! You're a really sharp, intelligent, no nonsense lady so I'm sure any company you apply to will know they'd be lucky to have you!

Hugs!

holyguacamole79 · November 2014

Is there ANY way you could be on a less-travel role? I moved in our organization earlier this year to a non-traveling role because we are looking to start a family. Management & HR were very understanding.

Until then -

lurkergirl · November 2014

Ugh, being stuck in a job you hate is a complete soul-sucker. Praying and sending good vibes that this all works out for you!

levioosa · November 2014

Good luck, and hugs!

blabla89 · November 2014

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

holyguacamole79 said:

Is there ANY way you could be on a less-travel role? I moved in our organization earlier this year to a non-traveling role because we are looking to start a family. Management & HR were very understanding.

Until then -

Probably, eventually... my friend works there and has shifted her role to a more consistent/more home-based role since she had her baby. But I'd need to get hired first... not like I can tell them in interviews/negotiations that I'd like to get knocked up soon.

I wish I had already learned Portuguese so I could shoot for the position supporting Brazil instead of AP! Shorter flight and the same time zone.

The recruiter did say in the initial email that the travel may only be 25% - so if it's like 1 week a month, I can probably handle that. I just don't want to be gone 2/home 2 weeks. That would be miserable. I believe that after an initial ramp-up phase, travel will become less frequent.

amelisha · November 2014

At least fight for the kind of travel that can be upgraded to business class if they won't spring for it up front

. Good luck!!

esstee33 · November 2014

lolo883 said:

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esstee33 said:

If you get the job offer, can you use it as leverage at your current company to get more money / better responsibilities / someone else to do the shit they're supposed to do so you don't have to?

I don't think I'd want to. The money is good, and I don't see how I could negotiate the rest into improving. I'm just wholeheartedly unhappy here.

Yeah, definitely time to peace out, then. Hugs and good luck!!

holyguacamole79 · November 2014

lolo883 - yeah, you don't want to say that now. I guess if it does work out and you do travel, you'll rack up good miles!?

I was extended the offer for my current 100% travel job on the day that H & I had our first date. So I had no idea that I'd be asking them to move me back home (because I didn't expect him to propose 3 months later).

It'll work out, I'm sure.

JCbride2015 · November 2014

Hugs and good mojo!

CMGragain · November 2014

Awwww! Hugs! Things will change for you when the time is right.

chibiyui · November 2014

Here. Have some cuteness.

flyingfoxes · November 2014

Good luck! I know the feeling, I'm really unfulfilled in my current job and want to change too. Being unhappy every day at work is no way to live life. Hopefully something great will come out of this for you!

KatieinBkln · November 2014

Good luck to you! You never know what the specifics of the travel will be--it's possible it will actually work out nicely and in a way that will work for you. Or they may offer you the travel-heavy position, you'll politely decline and cite the travel as the problem, and they may come back to you with another non-traveling position, especially if they really like you.

Sending good mojo your way--you'll get outta there soon!

natswild · November 2014

good luck, I hope everything works out for you, lolo!

lovegood90 · November 2014

Good luck! That's still very exciting! Maybe the travel got exaggerated, or maybe the travel requirements have changed, you never know.

I'd love to have to travel somewhere cool for my job, but that's because it's been over 2 years in this city and I'm bored.

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

lovegood90 said:

Good luck! That's still very exciting! Maybe the travel got exaggerated, or maybe the travel requirements have changed, you never know.
I'd love to have to travel somewhere cool for my job, but that's because it's been over 2 years in this city and I'm bored.

That's what really stinks... a few years ago, I would have LOVED a travel-heavy job. Even now I'd like to go to cool places ONCE, just not all the time. Still better to have this opportunity now BEFORE there are babies involved... but I want the babies.

novella1186 · November 2014

lolo883 said:

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lovegood90 said:

Good luck! That's still very exciting! Maybe the travel got exaggerated, or maybe the travel requirements have changed, you never know.
I'd love to have to travel somewhere cool for my job, but that's because it's been over 2 years in this city and I'm bored.

That's what really stinks... a few years ago, I would have LOVED a travel-heavy job. Even now I'd like to go to cool places ONCE, just not all the time. Still better to have this opportunity now BEFORE there are babies involved... but I want the babies.

I would've killed for a travel-heavy job too. And I was actually offered one a few months ago. It was with my same company and I would have made a lot more money. BUT I would have had to switch from my awesome boss to a new boss who I already know, and the general consensus around here is that she's a total vindictive bitch. She's been nasty to me plenty of times, and I don't even work for her! And I know other people who are in that position. A few of them have quit recently. Apparently the workload is ridiculous and they got burned out quickly and couldn't take it anymore, plus they were pretty much working 7 days a week every week, and late nights.

I was so sad to turn down the offer. It was NOT an easy decision. But I realized I would probably burn out too, sooner or later, and having that mean lady as my boss would make me completely miserable. It's just not worth it to be miserable at your job every single day. So here I sit, at my same desk, dicking around on the Knot.

SmileDamnit · November 2014

It hurts nothing to go for it. Seriously, you're miserable where you are now and even if you get it, you can still go full steam ahead with TTC. If you get the job, you'll be happier...and when you get knocked up, you can work with the company to figure out how to modify travel schedules.

Staying in a position that you hate is toxic. I know some times it's a matter of necessity, but it doesn't sound like it is for you right now. Go big, girl!

FWIW, DH just got laid off from his job this week. Slightly terrifying, given the current state of our family (e.g. 4 months into cooking Bean), but honestly, I've no doubt it's going to turn into a great big ol' blessing. He, too, was miserable, and I'd much rather have a happy husband and tighten the purse strings a bit than see him so unhappy and unfulfilled on a day-to-day basis.

So yeah, that's my "go find happiness" battle cry for the day

lc07 · November 2014

I'm proud of you for applying and living in the now! It will all work out for the best. Good for you for trying to get the fuck out of miserable-job-land.

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

SmileDamnit said:

It hurts nothing to go for it. Seriously, you're miserable where you are now and even if you get it, you can still go full steam ahead with TTC. If you get the job, you'll be happier...and when you get knocked up, you can work with the company to figure out how to modify travel schedules.

Staying in a position that you hate is toxic. I know some times it's a matter of necessity, but it doesn't sound like it is for you right now. Go big, girl!

FWIW, DH just got laid off from his job this week. Slightly terrifying, given the current state of our family (e.g. 4 months into cooking Bean), but honestly, I've no doubt it's going to turn into a great big ol' blessing. He, too, was miserable, and I'd much rather have a happy husband and tighten the purse strings a bit than see him so unhappy and unfulfilled on a day-to-day basis.

So yeah, that's my "go find happiness" battle cry for the day

Oh noooo I'm sorry about your H!

My H actually said some similar things last night... I was just in a terrible funk and feeling miserable about everything, feeling like I shouldn't even interview anywhere because I don't have the confidence I need to brag about myself enough to convince them to hire me, but at the same time worried I'd just get fired and ruin all our plans for houses and babies and everything... but he was really awesome about assuring me that we'd make it work and all he wants is for me to be happy, and no matter what that takes he'll help me get there.

lc07 · November 2014

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

Thanks @lc07 that's awesome

And seeing "I'm proud of you" honestly made me a little misty. You're totally right. I'm a little more nervous about this change than I have been in the past... I've only been in this position for a year, and 9 months at my job before that (was technically an internal transfer between them since they're sister companies, but still). I don't want to be a perennial job hopper. I NEED for this next move to be something that lasts!

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