Going to therapy...

novella1186 · December 2014

Thanks everyone! I'm actually leaving for my appointment now and I feel like I'm gonna pee my pants I'm so nervous lol. But you guys did make me feel much more at ease about it! (I'm just always nervous anyway)

lacqueredlover · December 2014

novella1186 said:

Thanks everyone! I'm actually leaving for my appointment now and I feel like I'm gonna pee my pants I'm so nervous lol. But you guys did make me feel much more at ease about it! (I'm just always nervous anyway)

Well you should probably pee before you go. It'd be really embarassing to come back here and tell us you peed on the couch :-) Good luck!

KatieinBkln · December 2014

Hope it's going well as I type!

Good for you for taking your health and happiness into your own hands. Hooray for therapy!

novella1186 · December 2014

So I don't know why I thought my therapist was a guy. It was a woman and she was pretty awesome. She called some stuff right off the bat that kind of validated the stuff I was thinking and I definitely walked out of there smiling. And I didn't cry! haha maybe next time. I'm going back next week. I'm pretty excited.

esstee33 · December 2014

novella1186 said:

So I don't know why I thought my therapist was a guy. It was a woman and she was pretty awesome. She called some stuff right off the bat that kind of validated the stuff I was thinking and I definitely walked out of there smiling. And I didn't cry! haha maybe next time. I'm going back next week. I'm pretty excited.

Yay!!! I was thinking about you this evening and wondering how your appointment went. I'm so glad it turned out so well!

novella1186 · December 2014

esstee33 said:

novella1186 said:

So I don't know why I thought my therapist was a guy. It was a woman and she was pretty awesome. She called some stuff right off the bat that kind of validated the stuff I was thinking and I definitely walked out of there smiling. And I didn't cry! haha maybe next time. I'm going back next week. I'm pretty excited.

Yay!!! I was thinking about you this evening and wondering how your appointment went. I'm so glad it turned out so well!

Thanks!

ShellD13 · December 2014

I'm so glad your appointment turned out well. Therapy can make such an amazing difference in life. I know it helped me get over everything I was doing which was keeping me single. I saw a therapist for about 3 years got to a really good place and we agreed to stop scheduling appointments but I could call whenever I felt it was necessary. Well some things blew up about a year or two later and I started seeing him again for a couple of months. I later moved out of state to be with FI and I went into crisis mode when my crappy bio father was in a really bad motor vehicle accident and I was expected to start taking care of all of these medical decisions for him and fighting with other family members that I'd cut out of my life years earlier - my therapist agreed to do a couple of phone sessions because he knew my family story and history - it was just enough to get me through.

Recently, H and I started seeing a counselor related to parenting concerns for his kids. His former wife has been filling their heads with guilt and anger and it was making our household pretty toxic. In this case we asked our pastor for recommendations and I have to say she has been fantastic so far.

melbenso · December 2014

novella1186 said:

I just feel like if I say that to a man (or really any doctor) they will be like "God, what a terrible person, and what a total psycho! I don't even want to try to help her!"

By the way, if you are more comfortable talking to a female therapist, then get a female therapist. That's totally ok. When I started looking for a therapist again, I specifically looked for a woman, because I felt I would be more comfortable talking to a woman than a man about some of the issues I was dealing with.

There are also different kinds of degrees a therapist can have. My therapist is a Psy.D, rather than a Ph.D. Psy.D still have a doctorate in psychology, but their training and education focus on treatment and providing therapy rather than research like a Ph.D's do. There are also social workers who are trained therapists. The couples counselor my husband and I used is a licensed social worker who specialized in couples therapy. The Ph.D I saw years ago was the one who wasn't as helpful to me. I prefer seeing someone whose training and background is in providing treatment, but not everyone has that preference.

ETA - If you are looking for recommendations, ask your friends. You don't have to tell them why you are looking for recommendations. We found our couples therapist - who was wonderful - by asking a few friends who we knew had gotten therapy before who they would recommend. Getting therapy is nothing to be ashamed of. you'd be surprised how many people you know who have done it.

FiancB · December 2014

When I was about 20, I went to therapy. I was really depressed. I didn't feel it helped, in fact I felt more depressed after my session. Decided therapy just wasn't for me, I just hate talking about my feelings and stuff and finding a different therapist wouldn't make a difference.

Recently I decided to begin the process of getting officially diagnosed with ADHD, which is apparently a lengthy process. I told them about my history of depression and they asked a lot of questions about it and the sessions sort of turned into therapy. I'm finding that the people I've been talking to more recently click with me a lot better, and I do feel better afterward even though that's not even the point of my visits now. I really just wanted a script for Ritalin or something.

So it's true, if it doesn't work out keep trying. If I could afford it I'd sign up for therapy for reals. I'm glad it went well for you, and hope it continues to do so!

decembergrl2014 · December 2014

novella1186 said:

I guess I'm really scared of telling anyone the truth about what I think of my dad. I hate him. I feel like I got screwed out of having a decent father, and that pisses me off. I don't ever want to not hate him because he's truly a terrible person and he does shitty things. I could say worse things than this but I won't since you guys aren't my therapist lol.

I just feel like if I say that to a man (or really any doctor) they will be like "God, what a terrible person, and what a total psycho! I don't even want to try to help her!"

But I know you guys are right. It's a judgement free zone, so I'm sure I can say what I need to say...

I spent my last two years of college in therapy about my mom. I told her how I was feeling about her, how she treated me when I was growing up, the name calling, favortism, etc. She listened to me, and tried to help me work through my anger and finally let go and wipe the slate clean, which I did. Any legitimate therapist will not make you feel bad about your current opinion of your father. If he does, run in the other direction and find a new therapist! Any good therapist will listen and try to offer solutions that may work for your situation. If something doesn't work or you don't feel comfortable then they will be patient and try to help you figure out the best solution for you.

JaniV123 · December 2014

I have been to several. When I was a teen I went to help with issues with my mom. That one didnt go so well. When I was in college I found one I clicked with and helped me a ton.

I have always had issues with my parents, both of them, and therapy helped me overcome a massive depression when I was self harming.

Now I am once again goign to therapy for homesickness and school related stress management etc. And I always love going. If you dont click, then search around. It sometimes takes some time but the right one appears, just make sure you feel calm, comfortable and able to be open.

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