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LadyMillilLadyMillil member
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I got a hand delivered wedding invitation last night for a wedding that happened 3 months ago. It was a lace wrapped burlap tied with twine invitation.
Back in the summer Bride gave the invitation to a mutual friend that was coming to BC for a business trip and meeting up with me for dinner one night. Mutual friend wasn't invited to the wedding. The business trip was cancelled. Mutual friend tried to give the invitation back to bride but bride said she didn't want it back so mutual friend either needed to deliver it on her next business trip or mail it herself. Mutual friend gave me the invitation details via email per my request and delivered it last night because she was finally in town.

The invitation was the most useless wedding invitation I have ever seen. It said the date and time of the ceremony. Location was "At the home of Groom's Parents" with no address. No reception information, not even "reception to follow". No RSVP deadline, card, mailing address, email address, phone number or wedding website for RSVPs. 

I don't know what the proper etiquette is for this situation, but the way it was set up seemed wrong to me. 
They had "FOB and the late MOB invite you to the wedding of their daughter Bride to Groom". 
 MOB passed away many years ago and FOB has been remarried for 5-6 years now. I understand wanting to mention MOB but it seemed like a snub to SMOB that she wasn't mentioned, particularly if FOB is hosting the wedding and I would presume hosting with his current wife.

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  • beachyone15beachyone15 member
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    Ugh! How do people get this stuff so wrong?! I just don't get it.


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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    Wait.... you were supposed to be invited to a wedding that occurred three months ago because Bride was too lazy to stick a stamp on it and mail it herself? Do I have that right?  Or it sounds like you got the details over e-mail in time anyway. Sorry for my confusion.  

    The fact that bride was too lazy to mail it herself takes my WTF cake for the day. 
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  • KytchynWitcheKytchynWitche member
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    I just... What the WHAT?!

    There is not enough nope in the world. I get hand delivering, we did it too because a) money and b) postal strike, but hand delivering means from my hands to yours, not from my hands to a friend of yours on the assumption that it'll make it to you. 

    Also, so much nope for that invitation wording. Rude much? Not just to the guests but to FOB and SMOB too. I would've turned that down so fast it would've burst into flames.
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  • LadyMillilLadyMillil member
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    thisismynickname said:
    Wait.... you were supposed to be invited to a wedding that occurred three months ago because Bride was too lazy to stick a stamp on it and mail it herself? Do I have that right?  Or it sounds like you got the details over e-mail in time anyway. Sorry for my confusion.  

    The fact that bride was too lazy to mail it herself takes my WTF cake for the day. 
    Invitations were oversized. Bride was too cheap to mail it so she passed the invitation to mutual friend to hand deliver because mutual friend was supposed to be visiting me in the summer. Mutual friend's trip was cancelled. Bride didn't want to pay for one more stamp so she said mutual friend was responsible for getting the invitation to me. Mutual friend told me, I said bride was being cheap and rude and to just email me the details and give me the invite the next time we meet up. Mutual friend wasn't invited to this wedding.

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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    I'm gonna go ahead and make a blanket statement that I don't intend to ever attend something to which I've been invited by a dead person. That wording is just so, so wrong.
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  • blabla89blabla89 member
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    So I just realized that invitation postage is going to cost way more than we budgeted, can I make other people hand deliver them??

    (Seriously though...what the actual fuck?)
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    All of this. 

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  • novella1186novella1186 member
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    "Sorry we didn't send a gift. I guess the invitation you sent us got lost in the mail so we didn't have any info." 
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  • lovegood90lovegood90 member
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    Ahh! I can't unread this fuckery! Whyyy people, just whyyy?

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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    I had to read your post over a few times to understand this fuckery. Wtf???


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  • misshart00misshart00 member
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    mikenberger said:
    "Here's a wedding invite to a wedding you're not invited to. Please deliver this to our out of town mutual friend. BTW- I'm a total asshole. Thanks!" What is WRONG with people? On what planet does that make sense?

    This! How awkward to hand an invitation to a friend that's not invited and ask them to deliver it to someone who is.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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  • novella1186novella1186 member
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    mikenberger said:
    "Here's a wedding invite to a wedding you're not invited to. Please deliver this to our out of town mutual friend. BTW- I'm a total asshole. Thanks!" What is WRONG with people? On what planet does that make sense?
    No kidding. I would feel bad even MENTIONING my wedding to someone I couldn't invite. Let alone forcing them to do my bitch work for me. Wow. 
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  • emmaaaemmaaa mod
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    WOWWW! How rude!

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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Did you say and I just didn't notice, but did you go to this wedding?

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  • LadyMillilLadyMillil member
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    Maggie0829 said:
    Did you say and I just didn't notice, but did you go to this wedding?
    I didn't go but I did send something small off the registry. 3 months out and no thank you card. Wedding was an etiquette train wreck of cash bar, long gap, not enough chairs and not enough parking. Burlap and lace threw up all over everything. I saw a video of the bouquet toss and bride taunted the single ladies with the bouquet, waving it around in their faces and searching out every.single.lady and literally pulling them up for the toss.

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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    southernbelle0915 said:

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    I still can't get past the bolded....

    Amen!


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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    LadyMillil said:

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    Invitations were oversized. Bride was too cheap to mail it so she passed the invitation to mutual friend to hand deliver because mutual friend was supposed to be visiting me in the summer. Mutual friend's trip was cancelled. Bride didn't want to pay for one more stamp so she said mutual friend was responsible for getting the invitation to me. Mutual friend told me, I said bride was being cheap and rude and to just email me the details and give me the invite the next time we meet up. Mutual friend wasn't invited to this wedding.

    Oh the levels and levels of stupidity and fuckery. . .I'm getting heartburn.

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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    LadyMillil said:
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    I didn't go but I did send something small off the registry. 3 months out and no thank you card. Wedding was an etiquette train wreck of cash bar, long gap, not enough chairs and not enough parking. Burlap and lace threw up all over everything. I saw a video of the bouquet toss and bride taunted the single ladies with the bouquet, waving it around in their faces and searching out every.single.lady and literally pulling them up for the toss.
    The bolded is obnoxious as fuck. 
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  • novella1186novella1186 member
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    thisismynickname said:
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    The bolded is obnoxious as fuck. 
    Agreed! 
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  • Sugargirl1019Sugargirl1019 member
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    What the whaaatttt? And the mention of the deceased mother actually hosting the wedding? Ugh. So glad you missed this one.

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    LadyMillil said:
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    I didn't go but I did send something small off the registry. 3 months out and no thank you card. Wedding was an etiquette train wreck of cash bar, long gap, not enough chairs and not enough parking. Burlap and lace threw up all over everything. I saw a video of the bouquet toss and bride taunted the single ladies with the bouquet, waving it around in their faces and searching out every.single.lady and literally pulling them up for the toss.
    "Dearly beloved but depressingly single friends,
    In case you weren't aware, you are single. I am tacky. And you are single. And I'm not single. I got married. Look at me. I'm married. And you are still single. I want everybody here to know that you are all losers who can't convince a man to 'put a ring on it'." Then I want you all to fight and tussle and hopefully fall over yourselves to wrangle for the honor of catching my bouquet. Because you're single. And I'm not. Nah nah na boo boo. Suck it!"
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    LadyMillil said:
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    I didn't go but I did send something small off the registry. 3 months out and no thank you card. Wedding was an etiquette train wreck of cash bar, long gap, not enough chairs and not enough parking. Burlap and lace threw up all over everything. I saw a video of the bouquet toss and bride taunted the single ladies with the bouquet, waving it around in their faces and searching out every.single.lady and literally pulling them up for the toss.
    jeeze. Well, since there's not RSVP card.... I guess you could always share it on the invitation forum (personal information removed) as an example of how NOT to invite people to a wedding. 
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  • lc07lc07 member
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    What did your mutual friend think of this? That is so incredibly rude to give the friend the invite to pass along to you.

    I'm with Lolo on the whole being invited to an event by a deceased person. That was horrible wording and probably offensive to those who knew the deceased.


    And the bouquet thing? Oh hell no. I was recently a guest at a wedding for the first time since my divorce and just happened to be out on the patio (big glass windows looking into the reception) during the bouquet toss. Someone suggested we go back inside and my genius instincts that someone would be an asshole and encourage me to go onto the dance floor for it made me stay outside. Later, the MOH came up to me in front of a large group of mutual friends and said she had been looking everywhere for me for the bouquet toss. And where was I? Really? What fucking planet are you from that you think that would be something to seek me out over and encourage me to do. I flat out told her that I'm glad she couldn't find me because that would have been an absolutely horrible experience for me in a pretty firm tone with a deadpan face.

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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    lc07 said:
    What did your mutual friend think of this? That is so incredibly rude to give the friend the invite to pass along to you.

    I'm with Lolo on the whole being invited to an event by a deceased person. That was horrible wording and probably offensive to those who knew the deceased.


    And the bouquet thing? Oh hell no. I was recently a guest at a wedding for the first time since my divorce and just happened to be out on the patio (big glass windows looking into the reception) during the bouquet toss. Someone suggested we go back inside and my genius instincts that someone would be an asshole and encourage me to go onto the dance floor for it made me stay outside. Later, the MOH came up to me in front of a large group of mutual friends and said she had been looking everywhere for me for the bouquet toss. And where was I? Really? What fucking planet are you from that you think that would be something to seek me out over and encourage me to do. I flat out told her that I'm glad she couldn't find me because that would have been an absolutely horrible experience for me in a pretty firm tone with a deadpan face.

    Whoa.  What a fucking bitch!!  I'm so sorry you had to deal with that!




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