My fiance and I are in college and we have this really close group of friends that we hang out with all the time. They are two other couples and we generally get along fine. My fiance has asked both of the boys to be groomsmen. I have asked neither of the girls to be bridesmaids, and have chosen other girlfriends. However, I am very close with one of the girls- we'll call her Mary- and not as much the other. I would like to have her in my bridal party because she is a dear friend, but would that mean I should ask the other? Sally- let's call her- might be a bit of a problem in the party. She constantly makes things about her and will throw a fit if it's not her way.
So I am struggling with my options. Do I have neither in my bridal party but always wish that I had asked Mary? Can I ask only Mary without making Sally hate me? Or do I need to just suck it up and have both Sally and Mary in the bridal party? Any thoughts would be appreciated, I'm stumped!
Re: Asking Only Part of "Friend Group" to be in Wedding Party?
This sounds like petty high school drama.
You dont need to ask Mary or Sally because their boyfriends are going to be groomsmen.
Ask the people who you are nearest and dearest to. This might be 2 people or it could be 10, only you know. Would you call Mary at 3am to help you bury a body? If the answer is yes, then she is one of your BMs.
It doesnt sound like you want Sally to be a BM, so dont ask her. Because once you ask her, there is no "un-asking." Who cares if Sally gets pissed, that is on her.
If you are unsure about who to ask, wait a while.
You are totally right, I hadn't even considered that. FI and I have been together 7 years, so most decisions are joint.. but in this case; it's all his choice. Thanks!