Wedding Invitations

Re: Wedding Invitations

• banana468 member

  

  December 2014

  
  

  Knottie69940534 said:

  Both of my fiancee's parents passed away this year and I want to include their names on our invitations, what is the proper wording to use for this? 
  

  There really isn't a proper way to do this.   The purpose of the invitation is to list the hosts and the event to which the guests are invited.   

  
  

  If you wish to include the names of your FI's parents in a printed location, that's best reserved for the program. 

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• AddieCake member

  

  December 2014

  You could say Knottie  Numbers, daughter of Jack and Jill Numbers and Fiance Jones, son of the late Ann and John Jones.....

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• Jen4948 member

  

  December 2014

  I'm very sorry for your losses.
  
  That said, the best ways to honor your parents at your wedding would be to wear or carry items they owned or are associated with them, to have food, drinks, decorations, and/or entertainment they would have enjoyed, to mention them in speeches and/or appropriate prayers, and to give them tributes in a program if you are having one.
  
  But the invitation isn't the right place to list them because the only persons who should be listed on a wedding invitation are the hosts and the couple. Only living persons can be hosts. Also, the only persons "honored" by the invitation are the guests.

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• mikenberger member

  

  December 2014

  http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1044338/how-to-word-your-wedding-invitation

  
  

  I'm sorry for your losses, but deceased persons cannot be on the invite as they cannot host an event. Programs or other trinkets, foods etc are the proper way to honor them at a wedding.

  
  

  
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  December 2014 edited December 2014

  This is a quote from the Blue Book of Invitations (Crane's), one of the highest authorities on wording wedding invitations:
  
  My father passed away last year, and I’d like to include his name on my wedding invitations. How is that done?
  Wishing to include a deceased parent’s name on a wedding invitation is a lovely sentiment, however it’s not proper to do so (except in Latin America).

  The essential purpose of a wedding invitation is to invite your guests to your wedding and to tell them where and when it’s taking place. It lists the host or hosts of the event, what the event is (your wedding), and the date, time and place.

  The only logical place to list your father’s name is on an invitational line. This is improper, however, as he’d be listed as one of the hosts of your wedding. Since he is deceased, he cannot be a host.

  Your father’s name is, of course, mentioned in your newspaper announcement and may also be mentioned in the wedding program and during a prayer said during the service.

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  I am very sorry for your fiancee's loss, but it is completely improper to put her parents' names on your wedding invitations.
  

  

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