Friends of your SO that you don't like.

climbingsingle · December 2014

My H has sailing buddies. They race sailboats from May through September every year. They've been doing this for 14 years, so way before I came along. Most of them are OK, but they're not people I'd ever choose to spend time with for various reasons.

Back in April, we took a sailing trip with one guy and his wife. After spending 5 days straight with them, I contemplated jumping overboard. The wife, I'm sorry to say, is a dud. We have nothing in common, which I can usually work past. But any time I tried to strike up a conversation with her, it went nowhere. She also was a pretty crappy host, and not only did she not make me feel welcome on their boat, she actually made me really uncomfortable. I ended up spending a lot of time reading by myself, which was OK! But not the way I expected to spend 5 days on a boat.

The H also rubs me the wrong way. He talks down to his wife a lot, and his words pretty much bordered on misogynistic. I also didn't care for the way he treated my husband, almost like he was hired help. He wasn't. My husband has his captain's license and helped him sail the boat up to NY as a favor.

Anyway, they invited us on the boat a few times this summer and I declined. Now, we've been invited to the wife's 50th birthday party this upcoming weekend, and I'm dreading it. They came to our wedding, and gave us a very nice gift, so I feel that it would be rude of me to not attend her birthday. There's no real point to this point. I just wanted to whine and complain and then have you guys comiserate with me. So, tell me about a friend of your SO's that you don't like.

novella1186 · December 2014

Bleh. That couple sounds super lame.

Aside from Jen who I posted about yesterday (and I guess I can't really count her as FI's friend cuz he doesn't like her) his best friend-- and best man in our wedding-- can be kind of an asshole sometimes. I really disliked him at first until I realized that's just his personality. He always has to be super sarcastic and critical, and gives FI a ton of shit for EVERYTHING. But they've known each other since they were little kids, so it doesn't bother FI most of the time. He's just used to it.

Now best man is engaged (happened recently) to a girl I really don't like at all. She's much younger than me, and she definitely acts her age. Not that it's a bad thing; I'm sure I acted that way when I was her age, but I just can't relate to it anymore. Last time we hung out, I was stressed about finishing my master's while working my full time job. She was stressed about which sweater to put on her dog, and had quit her part time job because it was "boring" and was then making best man pay for everything including their rent and her manicures, etc (which I know is none of my business; it's their life so they can earn and spend money however they want, but FI was so annoyed that she was treating his friend that way. She just seemed really spoiled and lazy, and seemed to have latched onto the relationship really fast just so she could stop working. Moved in with him without being asked after like 1 week of dating). She's really dramatic, screams and yells at best man all the time over total nonsense, and then pouts and gives us all the silent treatment if things don't go exactly her way. Not to mention, she way over-shares on facebook and posts negative stuff about best man. Even when she announced their engagement she said something really ridiculous and negative. Which to me was just like... wow. Then why did you say yes? Ugh.

I've been avoiding hanging out with them because they're also really annoying as a couple. Last time we were at their apartment all they did was make out next to me on the couch while I awkwardly turned the other way, and all they talk about is how much sex they have. Good for you, guys! Tell me more about it cuz that's not gross or annoying at all to hear about constantly!

And since best man has no filter, he makes shitty comments when I decline their invitations to hang out. They live a few hours away from us so it's a pain in the ass to go there anyway, and they NEVER come to our house, so I don't feel bad declining.

Inkdancer · December 2014

H had two roommates for the last 2 years of college who are his very best friends. Roommate 1 and I are good friends, majored in the same thing and got along great when we had classes together. Roommate 2.... well.

First of all, let me establish that this guy has a total baby face. Can't grow facial hair, looks permanently 12 years old. Which would be fine, if his humor had matured along with it.

At random times during the day, he would just look up from whatever he was doing and shout, "buttsex!" It wasn't funny the first time and it really wasn't funny the hundredth time. He never cleaned the apartment, interrupted me to make stupid jokes, and was generally an annoying little shit. I think what annoyed me the most is that they all worked at the radio station together, and he acted like I don't know anything about music (which is NOT TRUE).

And then he got this girlfriend. I don't know how, because she is a quiet, classy, gentle lady. And I hardly had to see him anymore. It was awesome. They're married now, and he's matured a ton, but I still can't be around him for long periods of time.

larrygaga · December 2014

SO has this friend that EVERYONE hated in grade school. He was obnoxious and rude. I once punched this kid so hard in the mouth for making fun of my best friend that he bled and had to go get his braces fixed. FI was the only one ever nice to him, so he let him hang out once in awhile. When FI and I started dating, this friend already hated me, obviously. He still hates me to this date, and it was the only real thing FI and I ever fought about. A million little annoyances really build up. I have a horrible gut feeling about him, like I'm 99% sure this asshole would murder me if he could get away with it. I refuse to be with him alone.

FI trusts my gut feeling so he doesn't talk to this guy hardly ever, and he knows he is not to bring this guy over to our house or let him anywhere near me if he can help it. Of course I am not sure if I just still hate him from high school, so I won't tell FI he isn't allowed to see this guy. FI says he doesn't like to hang out with this guy, but will once in awhile go play hockey with him or something. I also wanted to be a good partner to my FI, so this guy is invited to the wedding. I figure I won't have to be near him and I will have him kicked out if I feel like it. This is the one time I will be a DIVA.

Before you guys go into how FI should choose me over him or some shit, think about how I'm holding onto a stupid grudge from high school. The worst thing he has ever done to me is interrupt me at every second for FI's attention. I hate this guy as a person, but he's a good friend to FI. It's a me problem, not a FI problem. /tampon

The good thing is that they have lost touch with each other and really only see each other at Christmas, when they are both in the same hometown.

AddieCake · December 2014

The girlfriend of one of my husband's good friends fits this bill. Aside from the drama she caused over our wedding weekend and actually at our wedding, in general, she is just very immature and difficult to take in large doses. She is much younger than the rest of the people in our group, and she gets pouty if we are talking about things she doesn't understand and used to whine that we need to change the subject so that she can be included. She has gotten better over the past year, but I still ask, "Is Jane going to be there?" before get-togethers just so that I can mentally prepare myself.

mrsk616 · December 2014

my fi has at least 2 maybe 3 i dont like.

the one tries to sleep with all these girls and says he will settle down yet he cheats on every girl he says this about.

another one is sarcastic (a little to much) and thinks everyone is out to get him. we have gone on vacation with this guy and he has money yet wont pay a dime for the room. i have told my FI that if they cant afford to go they should not be going at all in the first place. (think FI has finally realized this)

and the possible 3rd one is another sarcastic one (and used my FI for a place to live and trashed the whole place never paid rent and ruined a lot of his tools that were his fathers)

buttercup1958 · December 2014

Honestly I like all V's friends. Maybe its because I'm not really exposed to them that much. They live hours and hours away. They do have faults but they are funny, and nice to me and V so oh well! I'll see them again this summer and I'm sure it will be fun!

ashley8918 · December 2014

I HATEHATEHATE all of H's friends from his most recent job. They are all pretty young (19-21ish) and just a bunch of morons. But, one in particular really bothers me. He is 21, has 4 kids with 4 different women (which gets minimal judgement from me), doesn't see any of them (max. judgement), and doesn't pay child support for any of them (super max. judgement). Oh, also, he deals drugs (pot, but still).

To be honest, the few times I have begrudgingly hung out with him, he has been perfectly nice to me, but knowing all of those things about him, I still hate him.

Luckily, once H quit that job to stay home with my daughter, those work friends all but faded away, and he is back to hanging out with the great group of guys that he has been friends with since high school. I would never have forced him to end that particular friendship, but I made my feelings known.

flutteringinfl · December 2014

My FI has several friends from his high school and army days, and of the couple I've met I've really liked them. Two of them came to visit us for a few days and they were both very nice. One of them came during the week so there were a few days where he and I would be on our own after I got out of work and FI was at his job, but luckily it wasn't awkward at all and we had some good "getting to know you" time.

But FI has one coworker friend who I'm not too fond of, and FI seems to go back and forth between opinions on him. He's older than us by about 30 years, but like us he's a huge geek, so we kind of bonded that way. He's pretty misogynistic and likes to blame women for his lack of wife instead of his poor social skills.

Once I locked myself out of our apartment and FI was at work and stuck at a site 30 minutes away. The coworker graciously offered to drive me there to get the key, which was nice, but it was a pretty agonizing hour. At one point he said, "I've told your FI how lucky he is to find a girl who's into nerdy things and doesn't weigh 600 pounds." I told him I have plenty of nerdy friends who don't weigh 600 pounds and he said, "Can you introduce me???"

He also literally interrupted our conversation to openly ogle a woman who was jogging.

By the end of the drive I began to realize he had no interest in getting to know me as a person or using me as anything other than someone to listen to his ideas. He makes (or tries to make) short films about superheroes, both established and ones he made up, and he spent a good portion of the drive describing the plots of his planned films to me, none of which, I have to say, sounded that great (they were pretty much just opportunities for him to see women half-naked and live out his own fantasies of getting to be with hot women and put down "jocks"). When I tried to tell him about my own stories that I'm working on, he basically had nothing to say and it was really obvious he didn't care.

FI thinks he's harmless, though this guy used to be the one we'd ask to watch our dog when we went out of town, and now FI doesn't seem keen on asking him anymore. I think he's mostly harmless too, but I sure don't want to be stuck in a car with him for an hour again.

JCbride2015 · December 2014

I like most of Fi's friends. We are a pretty close group. There is one guy who is a great friend to both Fi and me, but I have seen him be absolutely terrible to every GF he's ever dated. Then he calls them crazy. No, dude, you cheated on her, lied to her, and talked down to her... you make them crazy. I really don't like his current GF but they've been together a few years and we think a proposal is coming. At least he's been faithful so far?

Fi also has this friend who I am totally convinced is in love with him. They aren't close-- she's the best friend of one of his best friends, if that makes sense, so she is just around a lot when we're in a group. She's juuuuust a little too touchy feeley, a little too much with the "You're so lucky JC! You have such a great guy! Fi is the BEST! Aren't you lucky!" I trust Fi 100% and I know he would never ever let her get away with anything inappropriate. She just gives me the heebie jeebies. Mostly we are friendly to her but don't go out of our way to hang out with her.

[Deleted User] · December 2014

My fiance has 3 good friends who live in IA where he we went to college. We rarely see them; the few times I've spent time with them, they seem very nice.

My fiance is not the type to put up with BS though. He's a very good person, and I don't think he'd maintain a friendship with someone who was a douche.

sarawifenow · December 2014

There is a girl that I really don't like. I guess she isn't technically H's friend, but more a friend of H's friend. Every time she is in the same group setting that we are in, she blatanly hits on H and has even tried to tell me that there is no way that H is faithful to me. H has told her off multiple times, but she still tries every time she is at an event with us. It is super annoying.

WinstonsGirl · December 2014

There was only 1 friend of DH's I didn't like, and I'm not sure they're even friends anymore. He lives about 3 hours away, so we didn't see him often. I had met him once, and he seemed nice. The second time, he was in town with another friend and the 3 went for a boys night out while I went to bed. Friend and the other guy decided that scouring downtown for drugs would be a good idea and they all ended up with ecstasy. They then came back and continued to drink and smoke pot and do whatever else they had picked up that night drugs wise. DH (BF at the time) wasn't feeling up to it and just stayed drinking.

The morning after lead to our first big discussion about drugs. He kept and showed me the pill, and even apologized though I told him there was nothing he had done wrong anyway. We saw friend again at a friends wedding. He showed up about 10pm completely wasted and insisted DH disappear off with him to who knows where.

I've never said anything about him, but DH has kind of let the friendship slide which doesn't bother me in the slightest. We haven't spoken with him in almost 3 years. Now that we've heard more, it sounds like his relationship at the time was tanking and he was losing custody of his kid (GF was moving out), so I do feel bad about that

mikenberger · December 2014

FI has two friends that I hate.

One, I have completely forbidden him to see. And if I find out he's hanging out with him, it will be a serious conversation we have afterwards. I found out this dude, beat a puppy to death. I cannot and will not allow myself or my FI to associate with someone like that. And I would never ever feel comfortable around him.

The other one, he says random shit just to say random shit. I don't know if he does it to get a rise out of people (His famous comment is "I just want a woman to lay there. Like a dead fish. Or a corpse. That'd be cool too.") But one night, he went WAY too far and told me that breast cancer is made up and not that many women get it and it's easily cured. And besides, they're just tits. Who cares? My mother is a survivor and I've undergone many preventative care procedures (Mammograms, biopsies, ultrasounds) and it's not a joke to me and it's not okay with me. He refused to apologized. Now he's no longer allowed in the house. FI can hang out with him on his own time, but I never want to see him again, ever.

Beyond that, we just hang out with a bunch of drunk people.

photokitty · December 2014

DH has absolutely zero friends I dislike.

Now family members....that's another story.......

fwtx5815 · December 2014

Most of the guys that my fiancé considers friends are also his coworkers since he works a shitload of hours and moved around quite a bit for work before we met. They're all fairly likeable, but he knows I prefer not to spend a ton of time around them because all their conversations end up being about work and I end up sitting there like, "more beer please"

He does have some old friends of 15+ years from back home that I haven't met yet and they used to stay in touch until recently. His really close friend and former roommate became a cop and I think my Fi was sort of envious of that for a little while. He was recently sentenced to several years in prison because he and some other cops were selling the narcotics that they'd confiscated in drug busts. I think that cured my fiancé's envy, and I don't think I'll get a chance to meet that friend of his.

vulpiepop · December 2014

Most of my FI's friends are his "gaming buddies". I'm ok with most of them, I don't know them well enough to really say I like/dislike them but they seem like decent folks, but there's 1 guy that bugs FI a lot for attention and sometimes says these borderline sexist things that I don't like.

They play this game online and it used to be with 1 or 2 other guys but the other guys never want to play anymore for reasons that they never explained (I can guess though); so it's become just this guy and FI and this guy keeps bugging FI to play with him all...the...time. FI has now started to refuse all of the invitations to play because, as he says, it's basically going on a date with him.

The main reason I don't like him though is the jabs on feminism. He calls feminists "feminazis", says women have more rights than men, that men should have more than women because that's the natural order of things, etc. I'm 99.9% sure he's one of those chauvinistic men's rights activists that I can't stand. His being annoying just adds to my dislike of him.

southernbelle0915 · December 2014

I'm sorry, Climbing... Hopefully since it's her 50th, she and her H will be really busy making the rounds. You can say hi early and then bug out.

H's token annoying friend isn't as annoying as he used to be. He was a one upper, conversation shifter (to him, of course), put-downer, arguer over everything, ignorant, spoiled as hell, and controversial dude. Oh, did I mention loud? I used to HATE him. Like, I told him I hated him and not to talk to me at gatherings - he's one of those people where you have to be that direct. I get the feeling lots of people did that because he stopped getting invited places and, fast forward 3 years, has really changed for the better. He's actually kind of cool now... Must have just needed the wake up call of people not tolerating it anymore.

Now the only one of his friends who drives me nuts is his racist friend who is also dramatic. He always makes comments like "those (insert race) drive their boats like crazy people" or "I'm just going to hire (insert race) because they're illegal and I don't have to pay them as much" or "omg, your sister is dating a (insert race) guy? Why?!" Yea........ I don't think H would stay on good terms with him if they weren't co-workers...

lovegood90 · December 2014

He doesn't actually have any friends that I dislike! I feel really lucky that all of his friends are just good people who welcomed me with open arms. I also get along really well with everyone's SOs, which is great. It makes me feel really happy that he has such a solid group of people he surrounds himself with and that I can be included really easily.

I can't believe some of these stories on this thread though, ack! Some of these people sound like real peaches..

climbingsingle · December 2014

I'm sorry that so many of you can commiserate! These people all sound like jerks.

beethery · December 2014

The Kool-Aid Man hates cats. When FI still lived at home, Kool-Aid Man was over and kicked FI's then-20 year old cat across the room because he hates cats. That's a good reason to kick a cat, right? Yeah no.

Kool-Aid Man is nice to his girlfriend's cat. Probably because I'm pretty sure she'd rip his dick off if he even had a disparaging thought about any of her animals.

He was told as soon as he walked in the door of our house after we got the cats that he should call and get his affairs in order if he even entertained the idea of doing anything more unfriendly than telling the cat to get away from him, because I'd do something that would end up with my mug shot on the news.

I like most of his friends. Kool-Aid Man is nice to me, but his family has big things that they host and if you don't know them, they'll tell your BF or whoever to bring you along but they will barely make eye contact or speak to you at all. That's the older generation in the family. Kool-Aid Man will talk to you, but his siblings and cousins will act like you are the dog that pissed on the carpet. It's fucking weird.

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FI has another friend who screamed at me at a rec soccer game we were playing. I'd never played soccer before, and our first night playing, we had a double header. Ball comes over towards me and friend. Other team is not anywhere near us, I pass the ball to friend, who got in my face screaming at me for doing nothing with the ball. "FUCKING DO SOMETHING WITH THE BALL, B. YOU ARE PLAYING SOCCER AND WE NEED TO WIN."

I explained to fuckin' limp-dick Pele that I have but one momma and he ain't her, and that if he spoke to me like that again, I'd shove the ball up his ass. This shit took place at Tuesday night Co-Ed rec soccer. It ain't that god damn serious. First time playing soccer ever, and he can feel free to shut the fuck up about it. He ran off with the ball and made a terrible attempt at scoring. Didn't go even remotely close to the goal. Nice try, bitch.

Pele will flop over fucking aaaaaanything at soccer. If you're on the other team and walk too close to him, he'll start flailing around acting like you punched him in the dick.

He is also a fan of pyramid schemes and tries to get everyone he knows involved in them. He's lost a lot of money getting involved with that shit. I do not like his ass, and he can fuck off.

LadyMillil · December 2014

DH has 2 friends I really dislike and I avoid being around them as much as I possibly can. The second one DH will only play online video games with now because he can't handle seeing him for more than an hour in person.

One thinks it is so much fun to troll IRL. I can not have a conversation with him because everything he says is trolling. He also comes across as sexist and I can't tell if he actually is or if it is the trolling.

The other says things like "that's retarded" all the time. Besides the fact that that is a really offensive thing to say, I have a disabled (physically and mentally) cousin so it really bothers me and I have told him off several times. This guy is generally just a douchecanoe. He broke up with his gf because she started training for a job that would increase her salary significantly and he wasn't okay with her making more money than him.

Jen4948 · December 2014

My ex-BF has one friend I really don't like. He has other friends I'm not fond of, but their hangups aren't as off-putting as this guy's. He has a tendency to accept invitations and then no show at the last moment or, if we're in public, to walk away and do his own thing.

levioosa · December 2014

SO has a friend I can't really stand. He comes over every year at thanksgiving and he loves to debate. This thanksgiving he started questioning me on my opinions on every political topic under the sun. I don't like politics normally, and I really only like to talk about them with people I am close to (not necessarily because we agree on the topic, but because I can say "agree to disagee" and they're willing to change the topic). But this fool could not let anything go. And we agreed on literally nothing. Plus he is anti-vaccination because "all the rich people in Beverly Hills say you shouldn't, and obviously they know something we don't because they're rich." Um, not my fault there are morons who actually follow and read shit like Goop. Then he went on to say that people in poverty are only in poverty because they don't want out of it badly enough.

Despite the fact that I repeatedly said "I don't agree and I am done talking about this topic" he kept pressing me while being completely condescending. I finally lost my shit and then I was suddenly the bad guy for losing it after two hours of being grilled while repeatedly asking to change the subject. Ugh.

paperpusher · December 2014

H has 2 friends that I really don't like. A lot of it may be just me being judgmental, but damn IDK who wouldn't be. Neither of them work. It's not because they can't, it's because they just don't want to. H goes over there about once a week and when he comes home he reeks of cat piss and chain smoking. I ask him to shower immediately and I put the clothes he wore in a plastic bag until I can get them in the laundry.

I tried giving them a chance. I offered to go over and just hang around while they played D&D. Within the first 5 minutes of me being there they pull out a bong and start loading it. When I realized what they were doing I booked it out of there and started walking home. H and I had a serious conversation after that about drug use and how I will not tolerate it.

Sent them an invite to our wedding. They couldn't be bothered to show up or even let H know they weren't coming.

Aray82 · December 2014

Some of DH's family friends and relatives are really nice people but TERRIBLE hosts! I'm talking like 2 medium pizzas and a salad that barely serves 4 for 18 people terrible. My ILs joke about them being "minimalists" and laugh...but leaving a 3-hour dinner party starving in a town where few late-nite food options exist is not funny!! I've got years of going to these people's houses ahead of me and I guess I'll have to figure out something. Just know to eat a huge late lunch if we're going to their places for dinner. Or bring more food. I know we've talked about how it's rude to bring food to be consumed at a hosted event if host is providing everything...but does this also apply when there's a solid history of poor hosting? It's hard because they are lovely, engaging people in every other way...why can't they just friggin host properly?

lovemyrunner · December 2014

FI has a friend I'm not fond of. Actually, he's more of a friend of a friend. We see him often,like weekly, but rarely without the other friend.

This guy has a huge ego for no discernible reason. He's a racist and misogynist and proud of it. He complained about his wife's weight while she was pregnant. Makes several times more than FI and I do, and likes to brag about it. Seems to think this makes him a worthwhile human being. He also thinks he knows everything and is an expert on every topic that comes up. He point blank told me that, as a volunteer EMT, he is better than me, an RN, because I can't do anything without a doctor's order. What a weird thing to fight about. He also likes to argue with me when I say anything about health related topics. Bitch, I've got 2 bachelor's degrees and 2 Master's degrees, all in health care. I know what I'm talking about.

He constantly makes fun of FI. To be fair, FI is very laid back and can take a joke, so all his friends tease him a lot, cause he handles it so well. But this guy just takes it too far and is always being condescending and insulting. He throws temper tantrums and refuses to talk to anyone when he gets mad. Or he starts fights that wind up ending friendships, like when he called one friend's wife a cunt. It's weird, because sometimes, when he's in a good mood, he can be fun to talk to and be around, but that's rare.

He's also super aggressive and threatening to all of us. He seriously thinks I should be afraid of him. I am not impressed. And if he ever gets me angry enough to actually engage with him, I'll wipe the floor with his ass. Typically, I ignore him because it's not worth my time, but there are a few things he could say that would end in him lying on the floor in a fetal position wishing he was never born.

KytchynWitche · December 2014

DH has two friends I'm not really fond of.

Friend One is this hyper-intelligent guy who looks down on anyone who doesn't have a degree in some kind of science. I don't have a degree at all, so I get an extra helping of condescending. His default setting is "rude and sarcastic". He makes no effort to get in touch/see DH (or anyone in the circle), turns down 4 out of 5 invites, and then gets pissy that he's not being included in things. Oh, and every time he gets a girlfriend he completely drops his buddies and changes his entire being to whatever the girl wants. He is a spineless d-bag and I do not like him.

Friend Two is just a weird little skirt-chaser. We went out to dinner as a group one night, and he was there with his girlfriend (who I believe is now his wife), but he spent so much time scamming on one of the other guys' lady friends. It was unbelievable. He's moved away now so we haven't seen him in ages, but I'm kinda glad. I always got the feeling that I needed to shower after being in the same room as him for any length of time.

SBmini · December 2014

OMG yes! One of my husband's best friends (and one of our groomsmen) is such an asshole. He's entitled, knows everything, is always right, and won't do anything if it isn't exactly what he wants to do. We get in arguments quiet a bit because I also know everything and am always right. So that in itself is fun. But this asshole, also just basically says "fuck you" to anything that isn't exactly as he wants it. This is the guy who went off and bought a light gray suit for our wedding, after being asked to get a charcoal gray one because "he didn't want an interview suit". I made him return it, and DH actually asked him if he even wanted to be a groomsmen over his completely childish behavior.

This stuff happens all the time. Here's the current hissy fit we're dealing with. They are going on a ski trip in March with a bunch of guys. Friend is organizing the whole thing. He decides to rent a house a week before Christmas and demands payment immediately. We had the money, so it's not like we couldn't do this, but seriously dude? You don't have any respect for the fact that this is a tight time for a lot of people and try to be lenient on repayment? Especially considering times are so tight for you that you need everyone's money now.

He wanted DH to pay via paypal, but DH doesn't like tying things to the bank account. So he went over with a check. This guy ridicules him for at least 10 minutes about how ridiculous it is to use a check and says "if it weren't for the fact that I could just take a picture of it to deposit it, I wouldn't even accept it." This was two Saturdays ago. He has yet to take that picture. I'm pretty sure he's just holding onto it as a passive aggressive anti-check move. If he doesn't deposit it in the next few days I'm thinking about canceling it. Because I'm so over his petty bullshit.

l9i · December 2014

H's best man. He's just an asshole and thinks it's fun to be a dick to people, it's so immature and I don't like being around him. H has been friends with him since first grade so I tolerate it. H knows my feelings so they generally hang out as guy time, not all of us.

So the first time I met Best Man he poured water on me. It was summer and for whatever reason he thought it was funny. It wasn't and we left immediately. He just generally puts everyone down constantly. There was a brief time he was nice to me and we were actually friends. He was "talking" to one of my friends and after that the asshole came back. Shortly before the wedding H and friends were at his place and H asked me to pick him up bc he'd had a lot. Best Man tries to argue that he can't leave and tried to shove food in my face. I instinctively back handed that mofo and he's been a peach since. I think I legit scared him and so he's been nice to me.

It's funny because I know it's not just me. Other people have told me what an ass he is after meeting him. Another groomsman commented about how put off he was by how he treated the other groomsmen and H. Another groomsman is friends with Best Man too and was entertaining wanting him to be in their wedding. His FI got so upset bc she can't stand him either. It makes me think what sane person would want to act like this? Idk why H continues to put up with it.... just because you were friends twenty years ago doesn't mean you need to continue... oh well, his relationship, not mine.

FiancB · December 2014

I like all of H's friends. They've been really great to me. The people in his circle that I'm not crazy about are people that he's already distanced himself from anyway. He has a couple friends whose wife or girlfriend I'm not crazy about, only because they each kind of have sticks up their asses. One started a fight at our wedding and while everything was fine, I still kinda resent her for it.

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