BM robes

nicolie1125 · January 2015

Just because the majority of people on here think that they will hate being in robes does not automatically mean that my girls will. And yes I was asking where people may have gotten certain robes I was not asking if it was a good idea or not. I personally have a couple of robes that I lay around in, one for the winter and one in the summer. If any of my girls does have a huge problem with them then I wouldn't force them to wear them. I've gone above and beyond trying to make sure my few girls are comfortable in each of their dresses even.

I'm thinking of maybe the PJ/shorts combo. Or who knows. I feel like everyone here has now taken all the fun out of us getting ready together. I thought it was going to be a good moment for all of us to be together getting our hair and makeup done drinking a little and just having fun being together. Apparently me asking them to get ready with me is a terrible idea. ugh. I've never minded getting ready when I've been in a wedding. I've had some annoying photographers who try to force certain moments but luckily I don't plan on mine doing that. She's not into setting up things that are posed..

Again I opened it up to hear what you ladies had to say though and thank you for your opinions.

plainjane0415 · January 2015

nicolie1125 said:

Just because the majority of people on here think that they will hate being in robes does not automatically mean that my girls will. And yes I was asking where people may have gotten certain robes I was not asking if it was a good idea or not. I personally have a couple of robes that I lay around in, one for the winter and one in the summer. If any of my girls does have a huge problem with them then I wouldn't force them to wear them. I've gone above and beyond trying to make sure my few girls are comfortable in each of their dresses even.

I'm thinking of maybe the PJ/shorts combo. Or who knows. I feel like everyone here has now taken all the fun out of us getting ready together. I thought it was going to be a good moment for all of us to be together getting our hair and makeup done drinking a little and just having fun being together. Apparently me asking them to get ready with me is a terrible idea. ugh. I've never minded getting ready when I've been in a wedding. I've had some annoying photographers who try to force certain moments but luckily I don't plan on mine doing that. She's not into setting up things that are posed..

Again I opened it up to hear what you ladies had to say though and thank you for your opinions.

You have to have matching clothes to have fun getting ready? I don't know about you, but when I hang out with my friends we never have on matching outfits and we still tend to have a pretty good time.

Jen4948 · January 2015

You're overreacting.

We don't think you're a terrible person for wanting some bonding time with your friends before the ceremony.

But we do think that just because you want to give them embroidered robes and take photos of them wearing the robes with, apparently, little or nothing else, doesn't mean it's something they'll like or appreciate. We know that we ourselves wouldn't like or appreciate that as bridesmaids, though we might not say so out of respect for the feelings of the bride.

And no, sorry, but if we're presented with an idea that we don't think is a good one, then we're not going to endorse it, let alone tell you how to do it, regardless of whether or not you asked about it. That's our privilege, and it's something that anyone living in a free society who wants to ask strangers questions of needs to accept.

All this "I'm such a terrible person" whining because most of us didn't validate your idea sounds like immature pouting and makes us want to help you much less than when you first asked the question.

AddieCake · January 2015

You continue to miss the point. Nobody begrudges you getting ready with your bridesmaids and having fun. It's just that most of us don't understand why you have to dress alike in order to do that.

southernbelle0915 · January 2015

Dramaaaa.... No one is saying you can't have fun. For pete's sake! You can have a lot of fun without asking or suggesting that people wear matching outfits.

theartistformerlyknownas · January 2015

If a few people saying "that might not go over well; maybe focus your attention elsewhere, and also get a bagel" has "taken all the fun out" of the morning of your wedding, the internet might not be the best place for you.

Buy robes at fucking Kohl's. Nobody cares if you don't take our advice. Your money, your friendships. You asked for help; we're trying to provide it.

ohannabelle · January 2015

I don't think anybody said it was a terrible idea to have fun getting ready together.

It is, however, a terrible idea to dress in matching cutesy robes for contrived cutesy poo pictures. Is matching shorty pajamas supposed to be a better idea? It isn't. Yikes. That's worse.

Your friends won't say this to you, because they don't want to poke a pin in your fun, or be the one girl that says "hell, no."

But they'll say it behind your back. I've never, ever, heard one bridesmaid like this idea.

I love robes. I wouldn't wear one for pictures, and I am partial to very good quality. If someone gave me a cheap little robe like the ones I see on Pinterest, I'd probably use it for paint rags.

velvethelicopters · January 2015

We'll be going between the spa and my in laws villa, so robes are out. Curse Pintrest because my girls keep asking what I want them to wear. Why is "Clothing you're comfortable in." not an acceptable answer? I don't care..... I don't even know what I'm wearing yet - probably capri yoga or pajama pants and a tank top.

Fun is getting pedicures while enjoying adult beverages. I can do that in shorts or pants. I do not enjoy that in a skirt. Just saying.

Maggie0829 · January 2015

So the only way you can have fun getting ready with your friends is by being in matching clothing? Interesting.

plainjane0415 · January 2015

I'm doing this whole "friends" thing wrong.

badbnagdway · January 2015

velvethelicopters said:

We'll be going between the spa and my in laws villa, so robes are out. Curse Pintrest because my girls keep asking what I want them to wear. Why is "Clothing you're comfortable in." not an acceptable answer? I don't care..... I don't even know what I'm wearing yet - probably capri yoga or pajama pants and a tank top. Fun is getting pedicures while enjoying adult beverages. I can do that in shorts or pants. I do not enjoy that in a skirt. Just saying.

So here is one tip from someone who didn't think about it the first time she spent $60 on an updo, wear a top that can be unzipped or unbuttoned to be taken off. Anything you have to pull over your head, even if it has a wide neck, potentially endangers the hair and makeup you just spent money on.

velvethelicopters · January 2015

badbnagdway said:

velvethelicopters said:

We'll be going between the spa and my in laws villa, so robes are out. Curse Pintrest because my girls keep asking what I want them to wear. Why is "Clothing you're comfortable in." not an acceptable answer? I don't care..... I don't even know what I'm wearing yet - probably capri yoga or pajama pants and a tank top.

Fun is getting pedicures while enjoying adult beverages. I can do that in shorts or pants. I do not enjoy that in a skirt. Just saying.

So here is one tip from someone who didn't think about it the first time she spent $60 on an updo, wear a top that can be unzipped or unbuttoned to be taken off. Anything you have to pull over your head, even if it has a wide neck, potentially endangers the hair and makeup you just spent money on.

Oh, good point! Hrm. I'll have to think that through. Ok, pants and some top. Maybe my comfy wrap top.

Maggie0829 · January 2015

velvethelicopters said:

velvethelicopters said:

We'll be going between the spa and my in laws villa, so robes are out. Curse Pintrest because my girls keep asking what I want them to wear. Why is "Clothing you're comfortable in." not an acceptable answer? I don't care..... I don't even know what I'm wearing yet - probably capri yoga or pajama pants and a tank top. Fun is getting pedicures while enjoying adult beverages. I can do that in shorts or pants. I do not enjoy that in a skirt. Just saying.

So here is one tip from someone who didn't think about it the first time she spent $60 on an updo, wear a top that can be unzipped or unbuttoned to be taken off. Anything you have to pull over your head, even if it has a wide neck, potentially endangers the hair and makeup you just spent money on.
Oh, good point! Hrm. I'll have to think that through. Ok, pants and some top. Maybe my comfy wrap top.

I wore a tank top. Just make sure that it is one that you can push down over your body instead of up over your head.

princessofgenovia · January 2015

My best friend came over before our NEY party and she and I got ready together. We had a lot of fun. We did not wear matching clothes while getting ready. Mostly we drank and helped each other with our hair.

Are we doing fun wrong?

plainjane0415 · January 2015

princessofgenovia said:

My best friend came over before our NEY party and she and I got ready together. We had a lot of fun. We did not wear matching clothes while getting ready. Mostly we drank and helped each other with our hair.

Are we doing fun wrong?

I hope not! Because that sounds like a good time!

Dignity100 · January 2015

I THOUGHT about doing robes (the waffle kind), but I couldn't find the length I liked in a price I also liked whenever the thought crossed my mind. I'm SO glad I didn't do robes because with the number of people coming in and out of the room, I would not have been comfortable. I didn't even have a professional photographer for the 'getting ready' pictures, the girls just took random pictures. Looking at those pictures, I'm glad my girls wore what they felt comfortable in because in my pictures - it reflects who they are.

As far as the 'no fun' comments - I've seen comments telling you to spend them $$ on bagels and booze instead; nobody's saying 'don't have a good time'. If you haven't thought about it - a breakfast spread is a wonderful idea (I know after breakfast we didn't eat again until around 5:30).

velvethelicopters · January 2015

Yeah, for as nice of robes as I'd buy - dude, think of the food.

jacobsmawedding15 · January 2015

I found robes for my girls at an awesome price. So I bought them. I'll also be giving my girls something else though that's more personalized and a champagne glass that I'm hand-etching their initials on. Despite what a lot of people here think, I think the robe thing is definitely a know your BM's. I know my BM's will all think it's fun to be matching while getting ready (while doing other fun things like drinking, eating, dancing to music and doing eachother's hair and makeup) so I didn't hesitate to do the matching robes. Just know your crowd. See if you can find a good deal on the Knot or Etsy (those silk flower ones can be really well priced on Etsy) and if everything falls into place, go for it. Just make sure you do something else for them that is more personalized and don't throw a fit if they are super uncomfortable taking pictures in just the robe.

artbyallie · January 2015

I'd just like to know: does anyone ever buy prints of/display/even keep these pictures of your wedding party in robes??? Or the stupid shoe pictures with everyone's feet in a circle or whatever. All these silly things all over Pinterest; surely no one actually frames it and hangs it up in their home?!

And if you don't, then why waste the money and time?

nicolie1125 · January 2015

I really did not mean to be snarky. An Obviously I don't need us to be matching to have fun thing morning. Just not used to having an idea I liked be dragged through the mud. And trust me there will be food that day!! I get hangry and I refuse to be like that on my day!

Jen4948 · January 2015

No reason for you to be. You can have all the food and fun you like without the robes. I promise!

theartistformerlyknownas · January 2015

nicolie1125 said:
I really did not mean to be snarky. An Obviously I don't need us to be matching to have fun thing morning. Just not used to having an idea I liked be dragged through the mud.

And trust me there will be food that day!! I get hangry and I refuse to be like that on my day!

We're not dragging anything through the mud. We're trying to open your mind to the possibility that this isn't as good of an idea as Pinterest would have you believe. Sure, we're blunt. But that's only because we're not as invested in not hurting your feelings as your bridesmaids would be.

714hbbride · January 2015

I actually got my robes from the Knot shop and personalized them with each of my bridesmaids name and was very happy with the results. I got the silk kimonos.

ETA: This is not their bridesmaid gift though as I want to get something for each of them that is a bit more personal.

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