Not sure this is the correct forum for my question/issue, but thought I'd give it a try. My son will be getting married in a year. While I adore my FDIL, I really don't like her mother. I find her controlling, rude, disrespectful. She is very aware that I cannot afford to contribute much to the wedding (I am divorced and on a limited income), but continually makes comments about my lack of financial participation that I find condescending and out-of-line. She is also very competitive and has made remarks as to where our shower will be held (at my niece's home), to where we have chosen the rehearsal dinner to be (thinks it is not fancy enough). I also know that she bad-mouths me to my son - she is so domineering that no one ever stands up to her. I have dealt with her by just smiling and not engaging in any arguments. The issue is that my son and FDIL want our families to be close and I, truthfully, have little desire to do so. My goal is to just get through the wedding and move forward from there. I would never speak poorly of this woman to my son, FDIL, and am resentful about her behavior toward me, and involving my son in the process. My intention is to behave like a lady and not stoop down to her level. Any thoughts, suggestions, comments would be appreciated!!!