Dear Amy: I have been seeing my boyfriend for more than two years. I did most of the pursuing in this relationship. He said he only wanted to be friends and was not physically attracted to me but later we got closer. He recently obtained his divorce because his ex-wife initiated it. These past years have been nothing but drama with his ex. (I admit I may have caused some of it.)
He has two school-age children from this marriage and they hate me. I know his ex has poisoned them against me. They have literally kicked me and told me to get out of his house when I have visited. Still hanging on the wall is a family picture with his ex and kids, but I don't think he has really moved on. He still seems very angry with her. I have been nothing but patient with both my boyfriend and the children. We have chosen not to be together when he has the children for visitation. It will be at least six more years before they go off to college (if they do).
I wonder if I am wasting my time? I really want to be with this man, but my friends are saying I will only get hurt. I wonder what our chances are for having a successful relationship with these problems? — Hurt Girlfriend