Re: Wording and Honoring of Fiance's Deceased Mother on Wedding Programs

• ShesSoCold mod

  

  January 2015

  azilria said:

  Hi Everyone,

  I could use some advice. I am working on the programs for the ceremony and am trying to figure out how to word the Parents of the Groom part. His mother passed away 2 years ago and he never really knew his father. I was thinking of putting something like Mother of the Groom: The late Ms. Groom's Mom. and then also including her at the bottom where we will have a small piece to honor the loved ones that have passed. I wrote this for it: On this special day in our lives, we honor Ms. Groom's Mom, and our Grandparents who have passed. You are no longer with us physically, but your memories live on in our hearts and your spirits will be with us tonight and forever.

  Is it ok to have it twice like that? A lot of examples I've seen have only living relatives listed and then a different part for passed relatives. I would like to have her named in the portion with all the other family members even tho she has passed. The other thing I am wondering, should we include his father's name? As I said, he never really knew him and he won't be at the wedding. What do you think?

  Have you asked him what he wants?

  
  

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• azilria member

  

  January 2015

  Yes, he said as long as she is honored he thinks whatever I do is fine. He isn't sure about including his father's name either and wants to know what the norm is.

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  January 2015

  I would mention his mother in the memoriam section, only.

  I wouldn't mention the father, at all.

                     

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2015

  MairePoppy said:

  I would mention his mother in the memoriam section, only.

  I wouldn't mention the father, at all.

  I agree. Just leave out the "Parents of the Groom" section and list his mother in the memoriam section. Listing her with the living relatives could be confusing as well as macabre.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  January 2015

  If FI doesn't have a relationship with his father & his father won't be there, I would leave him off the program. I agree with PP that I would then just list his mother in the memoriam section. Keeps it simple and still honors her. But if you are still unsure, and you are doing them yourself, do a draft both ways & let him pick since this is regarding his mother. If he prefers to list his mom twice, then list her twice.

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• azilria member

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  Thanks everyone! I did a draft both ways as Erikan73 suggested and will let him pick.

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• hpubride member

  

  January 2015

  We included this on the back of our wedding programs: 
  As we embark upon the 
  Next stage of our lives together 
  We would like to take the time 
  To lovingly remember those close 
  To our hearts who are no longer with us 
  Today We Remember. 
  Grandmother of the Bride 
  Carol Brito 
  & 
  Grandmother of the Groom 
  Joyce Eaton

  Although they cannot be here 
  We hold them in our hearts 
  On this day. we love you 
  And we miss you.

  My Highlight Video 

  Some of my Pro Pics 

  My Pinterest Wedding
  

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