Did the discussion of a power of attorney come up prior to getting married?
Where you aware of what your fiancé/husband/wife/so would want if something happened where they were no longer able to make their own medical decisions? Do you think that this is an important issue to discuss prior to walking down the aisle or important regardless?
We ran into this, and he choose me as his medical power of attorney, and made choices at the time (meaning we didn't really have a chance to discuss prior). Now we have fully discussed to the best of our abilities, and have a current POA both medical and financial. I now have a clearer understanding of his wishes as well. But if something were to happen to me, I cannot leave my care in his hands, yet. My parents/grandparents would step in until he's able to help.