This question is not for me. Its for my close friend who is planning an elopement. She really wants to rent out a beach house and have a tiny ceremony on the beach with only her 4 best friends and the grooms 4 best friends (So 8 guests total). She wants to rent a beach house large enough for all of the guests to stay in the night of the ceremony so that they dont have to shoulder the expense of getting a hotel room. (Staying at the beach house would be optional). 3 out of 8 of her guests are in serious relationships (they are either married or live together) and I have told her that she has to invite them. She doesn't feel like she has to invite the spouses since it's "just a small ceremony" but I think she needs to since it's sort of a destination wedding (about a 5 hour drive to the beach) and the guests will be staying over night, plus it just seems wrong not to invite the SOs. She doesn't want the spouses staying in the beach house because she isnt very close to the spouses and it would increase the price for the rental since they would have to rent a place with more rooms to accommodate the couples and give each couple their own room. She was considering inviting the SOs to the ceremony but telling her friends that if they bring their SOs that they are not welcome to stay at the beach house. That sounds a little rude to me but I guess it's an option. Do you ladies have any thoughts or suggestions for my friend? Have I given her the proper advice about having to invite the SOs? Thanks in advance for your help