Cuz you can't have a good bachelorette party without some drama, amirite? Okay, so my girls planned my bachelorette party a few months ago, they rented a house, and we are spending a couple of nights in the Hamptons (YAY!). My MOH reached out to everyone, and started a FB group chat so that they could all discuss logistics, throw out ideas, etc. The point was to make sure that everyone agreed and was comfortable with whatever the plan would be. I have a friend, let's call her J Lo. She was my HS BFF, and I wanted her to be invited. A couple of months ago my MOH told me she was having a hard time with her. Apparently, she was involved in the beginning, but once it was time to finalize things and make final decisions, she just went MIA. My MOH messaged her several times, and she could see that J Lo read the messages, but she was not responding. She even texted her privately. At this point, all the girls agreed on the destination, were fine with the house, and they just needed a finalized count. Everyone was in, except for J Lo, who refused to respond to any more messages. MOH tried one last time to get her to respond by saying that they needed the finalized count so that they could tell everyone the final price. 8 girls were confirmed, and she would have been the 9th, which actually drives up the price (which she was told). She said she was not sure, she can't take off work for 2 days, etc. My MOH reiterated that this would need to be a 2 day commitment - as discussed - because anything else would drive up the price. J Lo never responded, so they booked the house, boom. Confirmation messages were sent, everyone was happy, this was in November.
Well, yesterday, she dug up the chat from November, and basically wrote something along the lines of "I don't understand how me going drives up the price, shouldn't it be less money if I go? FYI people have work, family, responsibilities, you should at least let me try to be involved." My BM explained again why the price would change. J Lo then rudely shot back, "So if I go for just one night, what? I'm supposed to just stay at a hotel?" So MOH responded by essentially saying "Hey Jlo, no one said you can't be involved, Pinkcow actually told me she wanted you involved. Like BM said, she had to sign a contract and indicate how many pple were coming. When I started this chat, we involved you, and it took you a while to respond. We needed to have this booked by a certain date. It will be great if you can make it, BM will try and speak with the owner."
My girls handled that extremely well, but I am really annoyed. J Lo and I had a falling apart when I was on college, where she pulled a similar line to the "People have responsibilities, blah blah." We actually did not speak from my sophomore year, until after I graduated. I saw all the conversations, and I saw how many times they tried reaching out to her; I saw that she read the messages and chose not to respond. And for her to act like she is the only one with responsibilities, and this is why she can't make it 2 nights kinda pisses me off. I totally understand that she can't take off work 2 days, even if given advance notice. I know that all jobs are different (she is a teacher). What rubs me the wrong way is that it's as if she is saying her responsibilities are more important than everyone else's. This is exactly why my MOH started the chat, so that they could all discuss things like these, and maybe change dates, or plans. I didn't write her messages verbatim, but they were pretty rude.
I am definitely not getting involved, since I shouldn't, and I know that the BM's are mature enough to handle the situation, but I know that they are exasperated by J Lo. As am I. I don't want to vent to my MOH or cousin (we tell each other everything, which is why I know so many details), because I don't want to badmouth her to them. I just really needed to vent to you guys! Honestly, can't we all just get along?!