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My brother's two ex-fiance's are hanging out.

Yes, he has two ex-FIs! 

The first one - Samantha - he was with for 11 years. They started dating when they were teenagers. Her and I didn't get along, for a variety of reasons. But once they got engaged, I put on a happy face. She asked me to be a BM, and I visited venue sites with them. Anyway, they relationship ended because of her serious pill addiction. She refused to get help, and this was after she crashed her car, lost her job, stole money from my brother, told her crackhead friend she could move in to their 1 bedroom apartment. She was sneaking out in the middle of the night to go do drugs, and was also cheating on my brother. The cheating wasn't a new thing, though. I caught her cheating on my bro years before this, which is one of the reasons I disliked her. 

So, the relationship ended. It was messy. My brother was heartbroken and didn't go on a date for over a year. 

Then he met up with Nicole. They started dating and moved pretty quickly. If you'll remember, we had an intervention for them last January (one week after they got engaged). My brother's drinking had gotten out of control, as did Nicole's. At that point, she'd also lost her job because of her drinking and was being investigated by CPS (she had a 5 year old daughter). The intervention worked, and they both started attending meetings and straightened our their lives. 

Well, it didn't last long for Nicole. She started drinking again, and drugs were involved this time too. She tried to hide it from my brother for a while, but he eventually found out. Nicole and her daughter lived with my brother, so he was hesitant about throwing them out. He tried to help her, but it was no use. 

During this time, Samantha also started contacting my brother again. She wanted to get back together with him, and was trying to convince him to break up with Nicole. Sam had no idea about anything that was going on with my bro and Nicole. Oh, and Sam had/has a boyfriend that she lives with, that she met in rehab. 

The proverbial last straw for Nicole was when my brother caught her smoking crack in his bathroom. He kicked her out the next day. This was early September.

Again, this was a messy breakup. My brother was heartbroken. Honestly, I was heartbroken too, because I really did care for her and her daughter. Nicole will not leave him alone. She's still calling him and even showed up at his house on NYE. She was also calling me and my mother on Thanksgiving. 

Apparently Samantha and Nicole are now BFFAE ZOMG! They're posting literally dozens of pictures of themselves together on FB (I'm not friends with either of them, someone has been sending me screenshots). It's just so icky. It's icky, right? Is it just me? I feel like they're doing it to mess with my bro. There's no way this is an actual true friendship, you know? Maybe I'm just cynical. 

Re: My brother's two ex-fiance's are hanging out.

  • That is SO weird. I have a friend who is friends with another girl who also dated my ex. My friend keeps insisting she's a nice person and I would like her. I'm sure she is, but other than having the same ex what do we even have in common? I'm not interested in bonding over exes. Weird and awkward. 
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  • This happened when my dad divorced my stepmom. She and my mom were BFFLs for a while. I think they bonded over how BSC my dad is. So maybe these girls are bonding over how BSC they both are? Who knows.

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  • Definitely icky. And weird. Is Nicole the chick with the crazy long scary fingernails? 
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  • It's definitely creepy and weird....

    That said, one of my closest friends (a BM) I met through an old BF. They dated for years in high school, I started dating him 8 or 9 years later. They remained friends and their friendship dissolved (for mostly unrelated reasons) around the time he and I split up. We're still very close. I'm guessing he'd feel that it's weird too.
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  • Definitely icky. And weird. Is Nicole the chick with the crazy long scary fingernails? 
    The scary long fingernail girl is my BIL's girlfriend. They broke up! 


    This happened when my dad divorced my stepmom. She and my mom were BFFLs for a while. I think they bonded over how BSC my dad is. So maybe these girls are bonding over how BSC they both are? Who knows.
    That's what I'm thinking! Obviously I'm biased, but my brother is a pretty nice guy. He's not crazy. Well, except for his extremely poor choices in significant others. Honestly though, I think it might be drug related too. It's a small town, and people talk, you know? I've heard some things. 
  • Definitely icky. And weird. Is Nicole the chick with the crazy long scary fingernails? 
    The scary long fingernail girl is my BIL's girlfriend. They broke up! 


    This happened when my dad divorced my stepmom. She and my mom were BFFLs for a while. I think they bonded over how BSC my dad is. So maybe these girls are bonding over how BSC they both are? Who knows.
    That's what I'm thinking! Obviously I'm biased, but my brother is a pretty nice guy. He's not crazy. Well, except for his extremely poor choices in significant others. Honestly though, I think it might be drug related too. It's a small town, and people talk, you know? I've heard some things. 
    OMG they broke up? Noooo! I was really excited for you to go visit next month and report back on her! (Is it weird that I remembered that?) 
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  • Definitely icky. And weird. Is Nicole the chick with the crazy long scary fingernails? 
    The scary long fingernail girl is my BIL's girlfriend. They broke up! 


    This happened when my dad divorced my stepmom. She and my mom were BFFLs for a while. I think they bonded over how BSC my dad is. So maybe these girls are bonding over how BSC they both are? Who knows.
    That's what I'm thinking! Obviously I'm biased, but my brother is a pretty nice guy. He's not crazy. Well, except for his extremely poor choices in significant others. Honestly though, I think it might be drug related too. It's a small town, and people talk, you know? I've heard some things. 
    OMG they broke up? Noooo! I was really excited for you to go visit next month and report back on her! (Is it weird that I remembered that?) 
    I totally remember her too. Bitch be cray cray.

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  • They just sound crazy to me. Poor brother. He needs photos of him all over havinG SO MUCH FUN OMG
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  • Definitely icky. And weird. Is Nicole the chick with the crazy long scary fingernails? 
    The scary long fingernail girl is my BIL's girlfriend. They broke up! 


    This happened when my dad divorced my stepmom. She and my mom were BFFLs for a while. I think they bonded over how BSC my dad is. So maybe these girls are bonding over how BSC they both are? Who knows.
    That's what I'm thinking! Obviously I'm biased, but my brother is a pretty nice guy. He's not crazy. Well, except for his extremely poor choices in significant others. Honestly though, I think it might be drug related too. It's a small town, and people talk, you know? I've heard some things. 
    OMG they broke up? Noooo! I was really excited for you to go visit next month and report back on her! (Is it weird that I remembered that?) 
    It's very possible that they'll get back together. Don't worry! H and I are doing a sneak attack on BIL's house. We might catch her there. 
  • Definitely icky. And weird. Is Nicole the chick with the crazy long scary fingernails? 
    The scary long fingernail girl is my BIL's girlfriend. They broke up! 


    This happened when my dad divorced my stepmom. She and my mom were BFFLs for a while. I think they bonded over how BSC my dad is. So maybe these girls are bonding over how BSC they both are? Who knows.
    That's what I'm thinking! Obviously I'm biased, but my brother is a pretty nice guy. He's not crazy. Well, except for his extremely poor choices in significant others. Honestly though, I think it might be drug related too. It's a small town, and people talk, you know? I've heard some things. 
    OMG they broke up? Noooo! I was really excited for you to go visit next month and report back on her! (Is it weird that I remembered that?) 
    Now weird at all. Isn't she the one that makes those fancy "redneck" glasses?

    What IS weird is that those 2 exes are now besties. Definitely icky.
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  • Yes, BIL's girlfriend was the one that sent us the broken redneck wine glasses. 
  • This is weird.  All I can think is, "birds of a feather....."


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  • My bestie and I met because we both dated the same douchebag.

    But in this case, given that both these ladies have drug issues, I would be seriously worried.
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  • I broke up with my ex about 2-3 years ago (it was a long messy thing since I lived in his house).  His girlfriend after me dated him for about a year or so, ending things this past August.  She almost immediately sent me a message on facebook, and we met up and have hung out a few times.  We're very alike, even look alike, which is sort of creepy!  It's odd to see your "replacement"! 

    But yeah she's a great girl, and was similarly (but much more spectacularly) swindled by our ex - we have a lot in common so I don't think it's that weird!  She still has a lot of drama with him in court and stuff so we're not flaunting our friendship to him, though.

    The weirdest thing for me is that I sort of feel responsible for the shit she went through with him - like I should have warned her.

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