So my Fiancée and I are very non-traditional. We both have few but very close friends. I have decided to have a Maid of Honor (childhood friend that is unmarried) AND a Matron of Honor (married friend, met as adults). Well my beau decided he wanted to have 2 Best Men(same situation: childhood friend and a friend he met as an adult). If I have 2 why can't he?
Now I am wondering do we have all 4 give toasts? Tell them to decide? Or do we need to pick? If so, how do you choose? I really don't want to make our guests sit though a bunch of toasts, but I want to be sure that if they want to give a toast they can, I mean I don't think I will survive the next 3 months without all their help. What do I do?
I keep being told I worry too much about making people happy, but if I know someone is unhappy with me I wont be able to enjoy myself.
Re: To toast or not to toast...
This isn't as non-traditional as you think. They're just titles of honor.
Just let them know that you'd love for them to give a toast if they want, but that we probably don't want to interrupt the dinner for two long. Then you can suggest they work it out between them, but here are a couple options you'd heard about:
My H has two brothers. The other two have been co-best men for each of the brothers getting married. In a couple cases, one gave a toast at the rehearsal dinner, and the other gave it at the wedding. My sister and friend (co-MOHs) took this option. This time around, though, his brothers gave a joint toast at the reception.
Formerly martha1818
This.
If they all offer, you can suggest that they all do them at the RD or that they split them up between the RD and the actual reception and just let them sort out who speaks when.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
I'm the fuck out.