Not even a week in and we already had to change the date.

Re: Not even a week in and we already had to change the date.

• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  January 2015

  Before you book any date, it's a good idea to check with VIPs and work to ensure the timing is ok. It's probably good that you know this now versus down the road when you've booked a lot of other stuff.

  
  

  Next time you pick a date, it'd be a good idea to check with these folks before putting down any deposits!

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• rockin30ish member

  

  January 2015

  We didn't put any deposits down on anything, thank goodness.

  
  

  Honestly, his Sgt knew what we were planning. We even all joked about how the shop was going to have to all put in for it off. I guess realization and logistics set in for him when it finally came down to it. Lol.

  

  
  

  
  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  Welllll that's why you're not supposed to book anything (or get mentally attached to a date) until after you check with VIPs, which is usually not prudent to do until you're engaged.

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• banana468 member

  

  January 2015

  Yeah, I think you need to confirm that your employers will let you get married on your wedding date before you go all gung-ho and book things.

  
  

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• KatWAG member

  

  January 2015

  lolo883 said:

  Welllll that's why you're not supposed to book anything (or get mentally attached to a date) until after you check with VIPs, which is usually not prudent to do until you're engaged.

   

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  I am going to need some background on this, please.

  

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• rockin30ish member

  

  January 2015

  Yeah. I guess we figured, since Sgt already knew.... Lesson learned. 

  

  
  

  
  

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• luckya23 member

  

  January 2015

  banana468 said:

  Yeah, I think you need to confirm that your employers will let you get married on your wedding date before you go all gung-ho and book things.

  
  

  Oops, FI and I still haven't actually requested the time off!
  

  

  

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• rockin30ish member

  

  January 2015

  I'm still waiting for him to let me know that he called the church and changed everything and we have the green light. Everything is riding on the church at this point.

  

  
  

  
  

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• luckya23 member

  

  January 2015

  rockin30ish said:

  We didn't put any deposits down on anything, thank goodness.

  
  

  Honestly, his Sgt knew what we were planning. We even all joked about how the shop was going to have to all put in for it off. I guess realization and logistics set in for him when it finally came down to it. Lol.

  I guess everyone has different work situations, but I would just not invite my coworkers (well, I'm not anyway), before I would change my date!
  

  

  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  January 2015

  KatWAG said:

  lolo883 said:

  Welllll that's why you're not supposed to book anything (or get mentally attached to a date) until after you check with VIPs, which is usually not prudent to do until you're engaged.

   

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  I am going to need some background on this, please.

  OP booked the church a while ago but just got "officially engaged" (i.e. got the ring) last weekend. Which, whatever, I'm not gonna judge what makes a person consider themselves engaged, but when you jump the gun on choosing dates and venues before you have an engagement you've deemed worth officially sharing/confirming with your VIPs... that's the risk you take. 

  
  

  Sorry it's not gonna work out, OP.

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• rockin30ish member

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  He's military, so these are all guys that he's really close with, not just co-workers, more like family. And neither of could imagine getting married without them there. We already cut out about half of the people from the base because they are more colleagues than actually friends. 

  

  
  

  
  

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• rockin30ish member

  

  January 2015

  lolo883 said:

  KatWAG said:

  lolo883 said:

  Welllll that's why you're not supposed to book anything (or get mentally attached to a date) until after you check with VIPs, which is usually not prudent to do until you're engaged.

   

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  I am going to need some background on this, please.

  OP booked the church a while ago but just got "officially engaged" (i.e. got the ring) last weekend. Which, whatever, I'm not gonna judge what makes a person consider themselves engaged, but when you jump the gun on choosing dates and venues before you have an engagement you've deemed worth officially sharing/confirming with your VIPs... that's the risk you take. 

  
  

  Sorry it's not gonna work out, OP.

  
  

  We didn't book the church until this week. We didn't book anything without the actual ring. And with Sgt knowing what the plan was, it was kind of a shock that he switched his thought on the matter.

  

  
  

  
  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  January 2015

  you booked the church, but do you have a venue?     Normally they would be booked at the same time.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• rockin30ish member

  

  January 2015

  Nope, not yet. We are waiting for the church to give us the green light for the new date (which I'm just as happy with) before we even call the hall. If the venue we want is booked that weekend, we do have backups to call. But, it's the church that is more important to us.

  

  
  

  
  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  January 2015

  rockin30ish said:

  We didn't book the church until this week. We didn't book anything without the actual ring. And with Sgt knowing what the plan was, it was kind of a shock that he switched his thought on the matter.

  Ahh. Boo. It's definitely weird that he wouldn't have said "you know that's drill week" before now.

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• luckya23 member

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  rockin30ish said:

  Nope, not yet. We are waiting for the church to give us the green light for the new date (which I'm just as happy with) before we even call the hall. If the venue we want is booked that weekend, we do have backups to call. But, it's the church that is more important to us.

  
  I was the same way - we booked the church for the date I wanted, and then if whatever venue didn't have that date, on to the next option! 

  ETA: The church has a hall that I would have been perfectly fine with, if everyyyyyything else in town was miraculously booked that day a year out.

  

  

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• rockin30ish member

  

  January 2015

  lolo883 said:

  rockin30ish said:

  We didn't book the church until this week. We didn't book anything without the actual ring. And with Sgt knowing what the plan was, it was kind of a shock that he switched his thought on the matter.

  Ahh. Boo. It's definitely weird that he wouldn't have said "you know that's drill week" before now.

  Exactly. Oh well. What are ya gonna do? I've gotten pretty used to military stuff throwing wrenches into everything. I was bummed for about 5 minutes, then I was good with the new date. But, if we get the church for 1/30, I'm not changing it again! lol

  

  
  

  
  

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• flyingfoxes member

  

  January 2015

  FI's group has an Army exercise the week of our wedding.  He's going for part of it, but he's promised me he'll be back on Wednesday for our Saturday wedding.  You gotta just roll with what wrenches the military gives ya! 

  
  
  
  

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