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July 2012 Weddings
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Really?
So I just came back from a local hang out where alot of FI's friends go for the game tonite and I had the strangest conversation. I'm sitting at the bar with MOH, one of our GMs and a mural friend of ours whom where all there when I met my FI. I bring up how crazy it is that in 6months we will all be at the wedding and GM says yea I think it's too soon?!?!?!?!? In shock I asked him why he felt that way and he replied oh don't act like (FI) didn't tell u I thought that. I said no he never told me, he then says I just think you two should have dated longer blah blah blah and then the kicker he starts telling me about an argument we had Xmas eve! Right there next to everyone. I didn't say to much in response but called FI at work and told him that his GM just repeated back to me an argument we had. FI clearly couldn't talk cause he was at work but now I'm sitting here wondering what point the GM was trying to make by telling me this.( on my cellphone so sorry for any errors)
Once in awhile,right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale.
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Re: Really?
Is it possible the GM is resentful and feels like he might "lose a friend" after the marriage?
As long as you and Fi are happy and are sure about what your doing, thats all that matters.
[QUOTE]hang on.. an argument you and FI had or you and his friend cause theres a difference.
Posted by Madisonpenny[/QUOTE]
I think she and FI.
But I mean - how many of us tell our girlfriends about arguments that we have?
I don't think it's a huge deal FI told his friend.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Really? : I think she and FI. But I mean - how many of us tell our girlfriends about arguments that we have? I don't think it's a huge deal FI told his friend.
Posted by BrightFirefly[/QUOTE]
I dont tell anyone about my arguemenst with Fi (which is a rare event in itself). I think thats between him and I not him, myself and donna, and christine and, jen, and ...
ETA: He technically isn't "losing" anyone - but will probably spend less time with him and that's what he's upset about. Maybe he thinks you are going to change him or something... idk. Still weird.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Really? : I dont tell anyone about my arguemenst with Fi (which is a rare event in itself). I think thats between him and I not him, myself and donna, and christine and, jen, and ...
Posted by Madisonpenny[/QUOTE]
Sometimes some people just gotta vent or seek outside opinion to see if they're being totally irrational or not.
It's cool that you don't ever discuss arguments with outside parties - but I don't think it's unreasonable to discuss disagreements with others.
But it really depends on what the argument was about in my opinion- like how personal the topic was. Was it about who should load the dish washer and that argument blew up..or are we talkin somethin more personal?
<strong>I agree that it isn't a huge deal that FI told him, however, it is a big deal that his friend is blabbing about it, especially in front of others...Obviously he doesn't agree with the marriage, but it shouldn't matter because you and FI are happy and are getting married!!!</strong>
I totally agree. Dude shouldn't be runnin his mouth about it for sure- but I wouldn't take it as a reflection of FI's opinion on the wedding. The GM is just bein an ass.
[QUOTE]I agree that it isn't a huge deal that FI told him, however, it is a big deal that his friend is blabbing about it, especially in front of others...Obviously he doesn't agree with the marriage, but it shouldn't matter because you and FI are happy and are getting married!!!
Posted by littlemoments324[/QUOTE]
i agree! I probably wouldn't get mad at your fi for talking to his friend. I would talk him to get his friend in check. Is there a reason why you and his friend are at odds?
[QUOTE]I don't have a problem with your FI telling his friend about the fight (depending what it was about). Don't get me wrong, I don't blab our business to everyone. But I do have a very good friend who is also friends with FI (meaning she knows his good qualities, vs. some of my friends who have only met him once or twice). I tell her about our fights, because I trust her to keep it quiet, know she won't judge, and she gives me her honest opinion not just blindly taking my side. BUT, if this friend of mine went and told FI that she thought it was too soon to get married, and threw a fight in his face that I had told her in confidence, I would absolutely get mad and stop telling her personal details about our relationship. I think your FI's actions now that he is aware of what his friend said are important in terms of whether there is a problem or not. Now with the friend saying he doesn't think you're ready, don't listen to him. You and your FI know what's right for you. If you don't have any concerns, just let it go. He's probably either jealous of the time your FI spends with you that used to be guy time, or maybe he's just not as mature emotionally as you and your FI, and since he knows HE wouldn't be ready for marriage, he assumes his friends wouldn't be either. One other possibility, that you may want to explore with your FI, <strong>is that if your FI tends to vent to this guy during tough times, but doesn't tell him about the good times, maybe his friend is getting a skewed vision or your relationship</strong>. It might be something he is totally unaware of doing. Just something to think about...
Posted by Rebis58[/QUOTE]
good point! I didn't even think about this.