Woman marries herself

plainjane0415 · January 2015

mikenberger said:

MagicInk said:

This is really sad because it says a lot about how much pressure there is for women to get married. Or at least get partnered up. Least you end up the old maid.

My grandma is 62. She's been married before and never wants to do it again. She has no plans or desire to marry and in fact finds the whole institution outdated and "silly". According to her, just get together, be together, and then when you get sick of each other go your seperate ways.

I have heard many people talk about how "lonely" she must be. And how it'd be nice if she had a partner. But...she doesn't want that. She's not somehow less complete or missing out on life. She's not bitter about it. She seemed happy at my wedding.

But this "marrying yourself", it's saying "As a woman, I feel less complete because I'm not married. So I'm going to marry myself and call it having self-esteem".

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My great grandma was similar. She was married, got divorced, she decided to never marry again. So she had boyfriends (Never more than one at a time...to my knowledge. Either way, get it Granny.) that she'd go places with, they'd have dinners and parties and trips and when they didn't want to see each other any more, that was it. She maintained her own condo, her own car, her own independence. She never placed value on herself by the man companion she kept.

Pour one out for my granny long gone. She was a pretty cool lady.

Same with my dad's mom. Her husband walked out on her with 7 kids to raise, and after that she was totally 100% independent. She would have her boyfriends, but nothing super serious. She was never one to believe that her daughters or granddaughters must get married or anything like that. She was more like, "if you know it's right to marry this guy, then I'm 100% behind you, but if not that's ok too." She taught us the importance of being independent and only relying on yourself because you never know what could happen. I loved that about her... She was really awesome.

drunkenwitch · January 2015

I won't be married when I turn 40. Let me search for a fuck to give...nope, fresh out.

drunkenwitch · January 2015

@redwoodoriginal‌ love your screen name!

FiancB · February 2015

I get the sentiment but uh buy yourself a ring and call it a day. Her BMs must really love her to have agreed to that shitshow.

LadyMillil · February 2015

FiancB said:

I get the sentiment but uh buy yourself a ring and call it a day. Her BMs must really love her to have agreed to that shitshow.

This. When I was 20 two of my best friends were both engaged and I had never even had a boyfriend. They kept commenting that I needed to find a man to buy me a fancy diamond ring. I finally snapped and said that I was going to be a doctor and could buy my own ring and that I didn't need a man to buy one for me.

ohannabelle · February 2015

LadyMillil said:

FiancB said:

I get the sentiment but uh buy yourself a ring and call it a day. Her BMs must really love her to have agreed to that shitshow.

This. When I was 20 two of my best friends were both engaged and I had never even had a boyfriend. They kept commenting that I needed to find a man to buy me a fancy diamond ring. I finally snapped and said that I was going to be a doctor and could buy my own ring and that I didn't need a man to buy one for me.

You'd think at my age people would stop this kind of crap, but they don't. People are constantly asking me if I'm seeing anyone, and why am I not dating, and implying that I better get on it before it's too late, (what does that mean? Does that mean before I die? Or reach an expiration pull-by date?) and that I'll change my mind when I meet the right person. Ack! I'm not 17. I know what I want. All that stuff.

So frikking inappropriate.

I've spent well over half of my life in married/committed relationship status. Now I'm having a fabuloso time being the only captain on the ship. I have absolutely nothing against love and marriage, and I don't hate men. I just don't want one in the house. I would even make Liam Neeson go home, afterwards.

(I really hate dating. It's like going on job interviews for jobs I really don't want.)

sophhabobopha · February 2015

Oh god.

I'm living in sin, better marry myself so I can masturbate.

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