Hey fellow brides.
Just wanted to vent a little here.
I'm getting married in June and having a Catholic church wedding, very big, about 170 guests.
Lately as it gets closer, my FI and I are clashing on what seems like EVERY idea.
Since we've got engaged, I spent a lot of time looking at message boards, blogs, etc. to research wedding etiquette.
We're mostly planning stuff on our own and with his parents.
However, whenever I bring up a "correct" way of doing something, he goes "says who?". I get where he is coming from in a way. It's our wedding, and we can "do what we want" so to speak. However, I don't want to offend anyone with bad etiquette.
For instance, for our rehearsal dinner, I included a plus one to all the bridal party members. He says we don't have to (doesn't want to pay for the food). Then I told him his sister (Bridesmaid) would want to invite her longtime bf. He said ok. I said we can't extend a plus one to only her. He doesn't get it.
Another example, my friend just sent me her wedding invitation, and it included the little cards with wedding registry info on it. I was always told that you don't do this, and won't be doing it for mine. He again argues "says who?"
Also, he's making our invitations, and doesn't want to include an RSVP card, or even one that says to RSVP at our website/phone number. He thinks we should just assume everyone we invite is coming. Again, not true. I thought it was 80% usually. Since we have to give a guest count to our reception hall, we need to know our final total so we only get charged for that amount.
I should mention that every time I mention "etiquette" (man I love that word, huh?) he gets annoyed.
Do you all have any tips for how to approach the subject? His mom and I are getting along great, and they are helping us out financially a lot.
Maybe that is one of the issues? I plan on talking to him later tonight. I just know we haven't argued this much over the entire 9 years we've been together.
Please tell me I'm not the only one going through this.