Okay, so my situation is a little complicated (well I think it is at least).
I have 2 nieces (will be ages 14 & 18 at the time of my wedding) who I MUST have as my bridesmaids, they are my world, both of them. The older one has been living with my Fi and I for the past 6 months or so.
I also have a very close friend, who's a boy, who I want in the wedding, so he's going to stand with the boys and his girlfriend, also my friend/co-worker (I hooked them up) will be on the girl's side.
So, my question is, who do I have as my MOH? I'd feel bad picking one of my nieces because I don't want one of them thinking they are less important, but I feel like it would be a little weird for me to ask my friend's girlfriend as she isn't as "important" as my nieces...
Opinions?
Re: Bridesmaid/MOH Decision help??
I was planning on my mom holding the MOH responsibilities anyway (as she is my BEST friend in the world and I know I can trust her to do everything for me!)
Formerly martha1818
And @Maggie0829, he is standing on my Fi's side because he is both of our friends, and his gf is in our wedding too so she wouldn't be standing on my Fi's side.
Okay, no matter how confused you are and how much you are going to argue with me on this, he is standing on my Fi's side...I want to keep it even with my girls on my side and the boys on the other side, both me and my Fi feel the same about his. He has been my friend for a long time, and he and my Fi have become good friends now too, and seems how I love his girlfriend and have been friends with her for longer than they have been together, I would like them to walk together and both be in my wedding, him being on the boy side, and her be on my side, with all the girls, and that's what we both want. This has nothing to do with the question I asked so I don't need any opinion on that part of it, I have that all figured out for myself, thank you.
I really don't care if you think it is crap or not, it's not your wedding so you don't worry about it!!
Thank you to everyone else who has given me their advice on the actual question I needed help on! It is much appreciated and I think I am going to go with no MOH...I had never even thought of that before for some reason! lol And thanks for the correction on the MOH "responsibilities", I am new to this thing and I guess that's just the impression I was under, so I won't be giving anyone any responsibilities (even though, knowing my mom, I'm sure she'll take on some sort of responsibility on her own lol)
You come across as very young in your posts. How old are you?
As for the MOH "responsibilities" I'm glad you came around. That is a common misconception. Sometimes I wish we stopped abbreviating MOH on this site, because so many brides forget that it stands for Maid/Matron of HONOR.
Well I like the way it looks to have all the girls on one side, all the boys on the other, and then the two of us, looking different from everyone else in the middle. It probably has something to do with my OCD.
I am 27, but very new to the whole "planning a wedding" business...hence why we decided to have a long-ish engagement, I have until May of 2016 to plan my wedding.
I don't even really know where that misconception came from about the MOH, movies maybe?
And yes. Movies, Hallmark, WE channel, The Knot, Lauren Conrad we can all thank for the misconceptions of MOH duties.
And yeah, that's true, I may change my mind completely by then, who knows...Just trying to be a little ahead, that's all : )