My little sister turned 21 this week so I am planning a bar crawl for her this weekend! She is almost 8 years younger then me so this whole thing feels so crazy that she can go to bars now! I love her so much and we have always been super close considering the age difference. Sometimes I forget how different we are and the way we see things. She can be very self absorb sometimes and just literally doesn't realize the other people it is affecting (never really anything major).
So I have thrown special birthday celebrations for her in the past with the last big one being her 18th bday. My best friend and I took her to the city for the night to see a reggae band we love at a 18+ venue and then stayed the night in a hotel. We had a blast.
So now onto what is happening this time. So her bf is over a year younger then her so he can't join us for her bday. So because of that I have made it a girls night so no one is bringing guys so he wont feel left out (plus a girls night is always fun). She told me who she wanted to invite and I have been in touch with them, and have offered my place for everyone to sleep over after. She also recently invited our mom to join us for the first few bars which I thought was great! The challenge with all this is I work in an arena in the marketing dept and we have a VERY hands on event this weekend. I was hoping to be done at 9pm and then we could go to the first bar for dinner then. Well I just found out I got 6 suite tickets for the event so now my sister and her friends (and my mom) can go to the show while I am working and then we can then continue the night from there!
After I told my sister, later that night she texted me asking if her bf could have 1 of the tickets. I said no as I have already given them to all the girls who are coming out that night. Then my mom calls me last night and says "don't be mad, but I gave bf my ticket". After asking more questions I find out my sister basically uninvited my mom since "it was nice she was even invited to join us at all".
So now I am BS because 1. So fucking rude to uninvited our mom. 2. I made it a girls night party so bf wouldn't feel left out because he was younger and no one else is bringing their guys and 3. I have been working hard to plan this in the midst of an extremely busy weekend at work and she just wants what she wants and could care less about her guests comforts.
More background (and really my bigger issue); my sister and her bf have been together for almost 4 years (since they were 16 and 17) and the majority of that time they have never left each others sides. He lives at my moms. They share a car. They go to the same college and take the same classes. The main time they are apart is when my sister is at work but he hangs around the shop all the time! She's tried to bring him shopping with us before.... she brings him when she gets her nails and hair done and he sits there and waits. And the thing is, it is not my sister, it's him! He wants to be with her 24/7!!!! She was going to spend this summer working at a camp where she would only be able to see him 2-3 times during the week (not counting the weekend!) and he wouldn't let her!!!
So she invited him to the event because she feels bad he feels left out. But can't he go goddamn 1 night without each other?!?!!? A few weeks ago he was threatening to crash the bar crawl even though I told him he wouldn't be able to get in or even know which bar we are at... but he was like " oh i'll find you and i'll sneak in..... WTH?! You are not invited!!!
So my question.... is it wrong of me to want one night without him and just have fun with my sister and the girls... or am I out of line because it is her birthday(party - she spent her actual birthday with him)? And also to include my mom back in who was rudely uninvited for part of the night??? Thoughts?!?!
TL:DR - My sister's bf is very obsessive and needs to be with her 24/7. I don't want him joining us for the girls night birthday party I planed for her!