It has been forever since I have been on here but have recently been asked to be in a friend's wedding as her Matron of honor. The bride has picked the destination for her bachelorette and the girls have all gotten busy looking at flights and hotels and whatnot and I am in a bit of a tough/confusing spot. While I feel that flying to Miami is a bit over the top (not to mention expensive), it is where she wants to go and where all the other girls seem to want to go too. I feel outnumbered on the planning aspect, but oh we'll, looks like we're going to Miami. Who doesn't love the beach? My other but bigger concern is that the bride has made it well known that she wants a "night of pure drunken debauchery before getting married" I'm not exactly comfortable with hunting down random men and saying what happens on the trip stays on the trip. (I've settled A Lot since college and at one time would have been right there with them lol) but I'm married now and that kind of night doesn't appeal to me without DH being there...I feel really outnumbered on this issue since I'm the only one in the group that is married. A crazy/wild/drunken night of said debauchery really makes me uncomfortable and really isn't something I feel right being a part of. I've had people tell me I could just DD. But I would rather pay for 5 cab rides than shuttle 10 trashed women around a city where I don't have the slightest clue where I am or could even begin to know my way around.Would it be rude of me to fly down, maybe with my husband maybe alone. I could go out early in the evening and then go back to the hotel when it starts getting too much? I really want to be a part of the festivities but this is a situation I would really prefer to not be in. I've only just met the other girls and have felt excluded throughout all of the pre wedding stuff. I don't want to come across like I don't like them or don't want to be social. I guess I'm kind of sad that I can't really be included or that no one thought to maybe do a dinner early and then go out. I want to celebrate this exciting time in her life, just not to that extent. Idk what are your thoughts? Do I fly down and only go out early and then fly home? Do I not go and then take her out to a nice dinner when they get back? Thoughts?