I suspect I'm being a stubborn dumbass here and would like your feedback. I was never one of those girly girls who fantasized about my future hypothetical wedding as a child, but the one thing I always had in mind was that I would get married in the fall. Fall is the season when I feel happiest and most alive. I'd love to take anniversary trips to New England in the fall, or travel overseas when there are fewer tourists and no oppressive heat. Not to mention that since I'm known as the queen of Halloween, I always assumed I'd incorporate a little Halloween spookiness into my wedding.
Now that I'm an adult, my one dream is shattered by the fact that the fall is apparently the most popular time for weddings now. Which means there's either a ridiculous guest minimum I can't meet or a dollar amount minimum ($10k before tax and gratuity for my piddly little 80-person wedding?! Do I need to upgrade to the package that includes a private waiter hand feeding each guest caviar for the cocktail hour in order to meet that?). Not to mention that of the few places that will graciously host my small wedding, they offer discounts for getting married in the off season. I can't do winter because of the risk of snow and visiting guests possibly not being able to get into town, but some places have discounts on March, July, and August. It's not that I can't afford a wedding in October, it's just that I'm already feeling guilty for spending so much on a one-day event and would love to save money where feasible. I'm just not sure this is something I'm OK with compromising. So am I being dumb for mourning the potential loss of my fall anniversary date for the next 40+ years?
(This is not what I had in mind, FYI)