So throughout the process of planning my shower, bachelorette, and wedding, my MOH is constantly saying that she "has" to do things or they're her "
job" because she's my MOH. She's throwing me this big elaborate shower when I told her I would have been happy with cake and punch and 10 people in her living room. I have thanked her profusely on multiple occasions for going out of her way to throw me such a nice shower, and every time she says something along the lines of "You don't have to thank me. I
have to, it's my
job!" She said the same thing when I told her about the rehearsal time. I told her that she could fly out here any time she wanted before Friday afternoon because the rehearsal would be Friday night. She told me she's flying out a few days early, and I told her that was fine, I just wanted to let her know that she had the option if she didn't want to take off time from work. She responded: "It's not an option, it's a requirement."
I generally like to think that she means it in more of a "of course I'm doing this, because we're best friends and I know you'd do the same for me," but usually it comes off more as "I'm doing it because I'm the MOH and the MOH has duties." When I feel like she's saying the latter, it kind of hurts my feelings. Like she's not throwing me a shower because she loves me - she's doing it because some book/movie/website/whatever told her that she has to. Or, even worse, it makes me feel like I've somehow done/said something to make her feel that way - that I
expect her to do x y and z because she's the MOH.
So I mostly just wanted to vent, but also I guess I wanted to see what y'all would say to her about it? Or if you'd just ignore it or let it go? Most of the time I just go with something like "well you really don't have to, but I appreciate it."