Hi Ladies!
I figured I'd post an update. Here is the original post (if I am not allowed to do this please let me know. I tried finding the TOS rules and couldn't - I fail at the internet).
So the plan was that I was going to drive with a couple of friends. One of those friends is my ex and his driving causes major motion sickness for me. He also has been making some passive aggressive remarks towards me and I just want to limit that as much as possible. (That's a whole other cookie to deal with.) I was stressing out about that and wondering if I should just drive on my own, which I hate doing and I've already done a lot of driving and just needed a break on top of everything else.
I called my friend and she actually said to bring my boyfriend. She said that we are all adults and can act as adults (which I agree) so she didn't see anything wrong with inviting my SO especially because he could help me with my traveling. So we are going to stay at a hotel in the area that is like a minute away from her house :-D Since she goes to bed SUPER early, I figured even if we get there Friday night she'll already be out like a light and my other friends don't plan on arriving until late late late Friday (and will hang with her husband and probably play video games) or later Saturday (those who live near her). So my bf and I are going to visit my sister the night before and stay at her place. This will save on hotel costs and I can spend some time with my sis. Leave early in the morning and maximize time with my best friend (plus it will only be a 3 hour drive from my sister so less stress for me with driving).
The only kicker is no baby shower. Just us college friends getting together and we have to leave by noon Sunday because a friend of hers is hosting a baby shower that day. They couldn't invite us plus her friends from her new town because the person hosting doesn't have a large enough place so we're having our own get together. I was tempted to come another weekend but she needs a weekend to herself before maternity leave (between baby classes and other people visiting she hasn't had any down time) and I won't be able to see her until probably August (when the baby is a bit older) so it's this planned weekend or no weekend at all. I bought her a cute gift that she said she really wants and will use a lot of and I'm thinking about making her a blanket or some baby burp cloths. I also plan to sew a simple cover for the baby holder (what you carry the baby in when you are driving - car seat?).
So I believe it has all worked out :-D I'm still stressed about a lot of other things and have lost a LOT of sleep because of it but at least this is putting my mind at ease. I have someone to travel with me with no drama and I get to see my best friend and give her an awesome gift :-D