NWW - Baby shower help!

Re: NWW - Baby shower help!

• Maggie0829 member

  

  March 2015

  antoto said:

  Hello ladies!  I need a little advice.

  
  

  So I am hosting a shower for my lovely sister later this month and I am extremely excited for it.  She was TTC for many, many years and really struggled so this feels like not only a celebration for her coming baby, but also a triumph of many years of hard work.  

  
  

  Anyways, I am struggling with a few guests.  There were a few guests who haven't RSVPed so this past weekend I reached out to those people.  For many of them I did not have phone numbers, so I simply sent them a quick message online, something along the lines of "Hope you're doing well and keeping warm, was hoping to see you at the shower blah blah" Most of the people responded with a quick and simple yes or no - very easy.  One of my relatives responded with "Thanks for reaching out to me, here's my phone number".  Um... seriously?  Are you really SUCH a special snowflake that you 1) don't need to RSVP and 2) require that I make SEVERAL extra attempts to confirm your presence.  You don't have to make several extra attempts.  You call her once and if she doesn't get back to  you then mark her as a no.  I haven't called her yet and I don't even know if I should at this point.  There isn't a lot of good relationship there and I am 99.9% sure she wont come, as she hasn't come to any family functions.  I have seen her once in like a decade.  what would you do?  Should I give her special snowflake treatment and call?  Just call her.  Honestly this is such a ridiculous thing to get irritated about.  or should I just ignore it?

  
  

  The second fun thing came today.  I just got an email from a guest essentially saying "Oopsie, we invited Father's random aunt and we realized that maybe you didn't invite her.  Can she come anyways?"

  
  

  Will this destroy my budget to add one person?  No.  However, my biggest objection is that my sister specifically did not invite ANY random people to the shower because she wanted it to be personal and intimate, which I very much want to respect.  She did not say she wanted this random person invited.  So how on Earth should I be responding to this person in a nice way? You just say "I am sorry but the invitation was just for you and we won't be able to accommodate X." OR you ask your sister her feelings on this and maybe she doesn't care and just tell you to tell them sure, it is fine.  Or should I ask my sister first?  

  
  

  
  

  Thanks in advance for advice!  Sorry about the long post 

  
  

  
  

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• antoto member

  

  March 2015

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Hello ladies!  I need a little advice.

  
  

  So I am hosting a shower for my lovely sister later this month and I am extremely excited for it.  She was TTC for many, many years and really struggled so this feels like not only a celebration for her coming baby, but also a triumph of many years of hard work.  

  
  

  Anyways, I am struggling with a few guests.  There were a few guests who haven't RSVPed so this past weekend I reached out to those people.  For many of them I did not have phone numbers, so I simply sent them a quick message online, something along the lines of "Hope you're doing well and keeping warm, was hoping to see you at the shower blah blah" Most of the people responded with a quick and simple yes or no - very easy.  One of my relatives responded with "Thanks for reaching out to me, here's my phone number".  Um... seriously?  Are you really SUCH a special snowflake that you 1) don't need to RSVP and 2) require that I make SEVERAL extra attempts to confirm your presence.  You don't have to make several extra attempts.  You call her once and if she doesn't get back to  you then mark her as a no.  I haven't called her yet and I don't even know if I should at this point.  There isn't a lot of good relationship there and I am 99.9% sure she wont come, as she hasn't come to any family functions.  I have seen her once in like a decade.  what would you do?  Should I give her special snowflake treatment and call?  Just call her.  Honestly this is such a ridiculous thing to get irritated about.  or should I just ignore it?

  
  

  The second fun thing came today.  I just got an email from a guest essentially saying "Oopsie, we invited Father's random aunt and we realized that maybe you didn't invite her.  Can she come anyways?"

  
  

  Will this destroy my budget to add one person?  No.  However, my biggest objection is that my sister specifically did not invite ANY random people to the shower because she wanted it to be personal and intimate, which I very much want to respect.  She did not say she wanted this random person invited.  So how on Earth should I be responding to this person in a nice way? You just say "I am sorry but the invitation was just for you and we won't be able to accommodate X." OR you ask your sister her feelings on this and maybe she doesn't care and just tell you to tell them sure, it is fine.  Or should I ask my sister first?  

  
  

  
  

  Thanks in advance for advice!  Sorry about the long post 

  
  

  Thanks!  I mean I do feel like if I call guest #1 then it will be my third attempt to ascertain her attendance, being that I sent an invite, and an online message... but whatever.  I'll just get over it and call her.  Some people are just difficult   

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  March 2015

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Hello ladies!  I need a little advice.

  
  

  So I am hosting a shower for my lovely sister later this month and I am extremely excited for it.  She was TTC for many, many years and really struggled so this feels like not only a celebration for her coming baby, but also a triumph of many years of hard work.  

  
  

  Anyways, I am struggling with a few guests.  There were a few guests who haven't RSVPed so this past weekend I reached out to those people.  For many of them I did not have phone numbers, so I simply sent them a quick message online, something along the lines of "Hope you're doing well and keeping warm, was hoping to see you at the shower blah blah" Most of the people responded with a quick and simple yes or no - very easy.  One of my relatives responded with "Thanks for reaching out to me, here's my phone number".  Um... seriously?  Are you really SUCH a special snowflake that you 1) don't need to RSVP and 2) require that I make SEVERAL extra attempts to confirm your presence.  You don't have to make several extra attempts.  You call her once and if she doesn't get back to  you then mark her as a no.  I haven't called her yet and I don't even know if I should at this point.  There isn't a lot of good relationship there and I am 99.9% sure she wont come, as she hasn't come to any family functions.  I have seen her once in like a decade.  what would you do?  Should I give her special snowflake treatment and call?  Just call her.  Honestly this is such a ridiculous thing to get irritated about.  or should I just ignore it?

  
  

  The second fun thing came today.  I just got an email from a guest essentially saying "Oopsie, we invited Father's random aunt and we realized that maybe you didn't invite her.  Can she come anyways?"

  
  

  Will this destroy my budget to add one person?  No.  However, my biggest objection is that my sister specifically did not invite ANY random people to the shower because she wanted it to be personal and intimate, which I very much want to respect.  She did not say she wanted this random person invited.  So how on Earth should I be responding to this person in a nice way? You just say "I am sorry but the invitation was just for you and we won't be able to accommodate X." OR you ask your sister her feelings on this and maybe she doesn't care and just tell you to tell them sure, it is fine.  Or should I ask my sister first?  

  
  

  
  

  Thanks in advance for advice!  Sorry about the long post 

  
  

  Thanks!  I mean I do feel like if I call guest #1 then it will be my third attempt to ascertain her attendance, being that I sent an invite, and an online message... but whatever.  I'll just get over it and call her.  Some people are just difficult   

  I think you not wanting to call her has more to do with your relationship with her then the fact that this will be attempt number 3 to get an answer from her.  Just make this your third and final attempt and call it a day.

  
  

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• antoto member

  

  March 2015

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Hello ladies!  I need a little advice.

  
  

  So I am hosting a shower for my lovely sister later this month and I am extremely excited for it.  She was TTC for many, many years and really struggled so this feels like not only a celebration for her coming baby, but also a triumph of many years of hard work.  

  
  

  Anyways, I am struggling with a few guests.  There were a few guests who haven't RSVPed so this past weekend I reached out to those people.  For many of them I did not have phone numbers, so I simply sent them a quick message online, something along the lines of "Hope you're doing well and keeping warm, was hoping to see you at the shower blah blah" Most of the people responded with a quick and simple yes or no - very easy.  One of my relatives responded with "Thanks for reaching out to me, here's my phone number".  Um... seriously?  Are you really SUCH a special snowflake that you 1) don't need to RSVP and 2) require that I make SEVERAL extra attempts to confirm your presence.  You don't have to make several extra attempts.  You call her once and if she doesn't get back to  you then mark her as a no.  I haven't called her yet and I don't even know if I should at this point.  There isn't a lot of good relationship there and I am 99.9% sure she wont come, as she hasn't come to any family functions.  I have seen her once in like a decade.  what would you do?  Should I give her special snowflake treatment and call?  Just call her.  Honestly this is such a ridiculous thing to get irritated about.  or should I just ignore it?

  
  

  The second fun thing came today.  I just got an email from a guest essentially saying "Oopsie, we invited Father's random aunt and we realized that maybe you didn't invite her.  Can she come anyways?"

  
  

  Will this destroy my budget to add one person?  No.  However, my biggest objection is that my sister specifically did not invite ANY random people to the shower because she wanted it to be personal and intimate, which I very much want to respect.  She did not say she wanted this random person invited.  So how on Earth should I be responding to this person in a nice way? You just say "I am sorry but the invitation was just for you and we won't be able to accommodate X." OR you ask your sister her feelings on this and maybe she doesn't care and just tell you to tell them sure, it is fine.  Or should I ask my sister first?  

  
  

  
  

  Thanks in advance for advice!  Sorry about the long post 

  
  

  Thanks!  I mean I do feel like if I call guest #1 then it will be my third attempt to ascertain her attendance, being that I sent an invite, and an online message... but whatever.  I'll just get over it and call her.  Some people are just difficult   

  I think you not wanting to call her has more to do with your relationship with her then the fact that this will be attempt number 3 to get an answer from her.  Just make this your third and final attempt and call it a day.

  Yep, you are totally right.  I'm going to just get over it and call her in about 5 minutes.  Sigh.

  
  

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• lovegood90 member

  

  March 2015

  I'd just bite the bullet and call, however annoying that is (seriously, it would have taken her the same amount of effort to write "yes" or "no" as it was to write her #..I don't get people like this).

  I'd confirm with your sister if she'd want this other person to come, and if not I'd say something like, "unfortunately we cannot accommodate any more people." No need to give a reason.  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  March 2015

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Hello ladies!  I need a little advice.

  
  

  So I am hosting a shower for my lovely sister later this month and I am extremely excited for it.  She was TTC for many, many years and really struggled so this feels like not only a celebration for her coming baby, but also a triumph of many years of hard work.  

  
  

  Anyways, I am struggling with a few guests.  There were a few guests who haven't RSVPed so this past weekend I reached out to those people.  For many of them I did not have phone numbers, so I simply sent them a quick message online, something along the lines of "Hope you're doing well and keeping warm, was hoping to see you at the shower blah blah" Most of the people responded with a quick and simple yes or no - very easy.  One of my relatives responded with "Thanks for reaching out to me, here's my phone number".  Um... seriously?  Are you really SUCH a special snowflake that you 1) don't need to RSVP and 2) require that I make SEVERAL extra attempts to confirm your presence.  You don't have to make several extra attempts.  You call her once and if she doesn't get back to  you then mark her as a no.  I haven't called her yet and I don't even know if I should at this point.  There isn't a lot of good relationship there and I am 99.9% sure she wont come, as she hasn't come to any family functions.  I have seen her once in like a decade.  what would you do?  Should I give her special snowflake treatment and call?  Just call her.  Honestly this is such a ridiculous thing to get irritated about.  or should I just ignore it?

  
  

  The second fun thing came today.  I just got an email from a guest essentially saying "Oopsie, we invited Father's random aunt and we realized that maybe you didn't invite her.  Can she come anyways?"

  
  

  Will this destroy my budget to add one person?  No.  However, my biggest objection is that my sister specifically did not invite ANY random people to the shower because she wanted it to be personal and intimate, which I very much want to respect.  She did not say she wanted this random person invited.  So how on Earth should I be responding to this person in a nice way? You just say "I am sorry but the invitation was just for you and we won't be able to accommodate X." OR you ask your sister her feelings on this and maybe she doesn't care and just tell you to tell them sure, it is fine.  Or should I ask my sister first?  

  
  

  
  

  Thanks in advance for advice!  Sorry about the long post 

  
  

  Thanks!  I mean I do feel like if I call guest #1 then it will be my third attempt to ascertain her attendance, being that I sent an invite, and an online message... but whatever.  I'll just get over it and call her.  Some people are just difficult   

  I think you not wanting to call her has more to do with your relationship with her then the fact that this will be attempt number 3 to get an answer from her.  Just make this your third and final attempt and call it a day.

  Yep, you are totally right.  I'm going to just get over it and call her in about 5 minutes.  Sigh.

  When I have to call someone that I don't want to talk to I will say to myself "please don't answer, please don't answer" over and over again.  So I will be crossing my fingers that your call to her just goes straight to voice mail

  
  

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• antoto member

  

  March 2015

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Hello ladies!  I need a little advice.

  
  

  So I am hosting a shower for my lovely sister later this month and I am extremely excited for it.  She was TTC for many, many years and really struggled so this feels like not only a celebration for her coming baby, but also a triumph of many years of hard work.  

  
  

  Anyways, I am struggling with a few guests.  There were a few guests who haven't RSVPed so this past weekend I reached out to those people.  For many of them I did not have phone numbers, so I simply sent them a quick message online, something along the lines of "Hope you're doing well and keeping warm, was hoping to see you at the shower blah blah" Most of the people responded with a quick and simple yes or no - very easy.  One of my relatives responded with "Thanks for reaching out to me, here's my phone number".  Um... seriously?  Are you really SUCH a special snowflake that you 1) don't need to RSVP and 2) require that I make SEVERAL extra attempts to confirm your presence.  You don't have to make several extra attempts.  You call her once and if she doesn't get back to  you then mark her as a no.  I haven't called her yet and I don't even know if I should at this point.  There isn't a lot of good relationship there and I am 99.9% sure she wont come, as she hasn't come to any family functions.  I have seen her once in like a decade.  what would you do?  Should I give her special snowflake treatment and call?  Just call her.  Honestly this is such a ridiculous thing to get irritated about.  or should I just ignore it?

  
  

  The second fun thing came today.  I just got an email from a guest essentially saying "Oopsie, we invited Father's random aunt and we realized that maybe you didn't invite her.  Can she come anyways?"

  
  

  Will this destroy my budget to add one person?  No.  However, my biggest objection is that my sister specifically did not invite ANY random people to the shower because she wanted it to be personal and intimate, which I very much want to respect.  She did not say she wanted this random person invited.  So how on Earth should I be responding to this person in a nice way? You just say "I am sorry but the invitation was just for you and we won't be able to accommodate X." OR you ask your sister her feelings on this and maybe she doesn't care and just tell you to tell them sure, it is fine.  Or should I ask my sister first?  

  
  

  
  

  Thanks in advance for advice!  Sorry about the long post 

  
  

  Thanks!  I mean I do feel like if I call guest #1 then it will be my third attempt to ascertain her attendance, being that I sent an invite, and an online message... but whatever.  I'll just get over it and call her.  Some people are just difficult   

  I think you not wanting to call her has more to do with your relationship with her then the fact that this will be attempt number 3 to get an answer from her.  Just make this your third and final attempt and call it a day.

  Yep, you are totally right.  I'm going to just get over it and call her in about 5 minutes.  Sigh.

  When I have to call someone that I don't want to talk to I will say to myself "please don't answer, please don't answer" over and over again.  So I will be crossing my fingers that your call to her just goes straight to voice mail

  LOL I was totally doing that while calling her.  She did, however, answer and she pretty much immediately told me she couldn't come.  I'm shocked (Nope.  Nope, I'm not).

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  March 2015

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  antoto said:

  Hello ladies!  I need a little advice.

  
  

  So I am hosting a shower for my lovely sister later this month and I am extremely excited for it.  She was TTC for many, many years and really struggled so this feels like not only a celebration for her coming baby, but also a triumph of many years of hard work.  

  
  

  Anyways, I am struggling with a few guests.  There were a few guests who haven't RSVPed so this past weekend I reached out to those people.  For many of them I did not have phone numbers, so I simply sent them a quick message online, something along the lines of "Hope you're doing well and keeping warm, was hoping to see you at the shower blah blah" Most of the people responded with a quick and simple yes or no - very easy.  One of my relatives responded with "Thanks for reaching out to me, here's my phone number".  Um... seriously?  Are you really SUCH a special snowflake that you 1) don't need to RSVP and 2) require that I make SEVERAL extra attempts to confirm your presence.  You don't have to make several extra attempts.  You call her once and if she doesn't get back to  you then mark her as a no.  I haven't called her yet and I don't even know if I should at this point.  There isn't a lot of good relationship there and I am 99.9% sure she wont come, as she hasn't come to any family functions.  I have seen her once in like a decade.  what would you do?  Should I give her special snowflake treatment and call?  Just call her.  Honestly this is such a ridiculous thing to get irritated about.  or should I just ignore it?

  
  

  The second fun thing came today.  I just got an email from a guest essentially saying "Oopsie, we invited Father's random aunt and we realized that maybe you didn't invite her.  Can she come anyways?"

  
  

  Will this destroy my budget to add one person?  No.  However, my biggest objection is that my sister specifically did not invite ANY random people to the shower because she wanted it to be personal and intimate, which I very much want to respect.  She did not say she wanted this random person invited.  So how on Earth should I be responding to this person in a nice way? You just say "I am sorry but the invitation was just for you and we won't be able to accommodate X." OR you ask your sister her feelings on this and maybe she doesn't care and just tell you to tell them sure, it is fine.  Or should I ask my sister first?  

  
  

  
  

  Thanks in advance for advice!  Sorry about the long post 

  
  

  Thanks!  I mean I do feel like if I call guest #1 then it will be my third attempt to ascertain her attendance, being that I sent an invite, and an online message... but whatever.  I'll just get over it and call her.  Some people are just difficult   

  I think you not wanting to call her has more to do with your relationship with her then the fact that this will be attempt number 3 to get an answer from her.  Just make this your third and final attempt and call it a day.

  Yep, you are totally right.  I'm going to just get over it and call her in about 5 minutes.  Sigh.

  When I have to call someone that I don't want to talk to I will say to myself "please don't answer, please don't answer" over and over again.  So I will be crossing my fingers that your call to her just goes straight to voice mail

  LOL I was totally doing that while calling her.  She did, however, answer and she pretty much immediately told me she couldn't come.  I'm shocked (Nope.  Nope, I'm not).

  Well luckily she gave you an answer and didn't give you the "oh I am not sure, I will have to get back to you" run around.

  
  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  March 2015

  Totally agree with Maggie. Glad you made the 30 second phone call. And you're totally within your right to tell the other cuckoo "sorry, we can't accommodate extra guests."

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• antoto member

  

  March 2015

  lolo883 said:

  Totally agree with Maggie. Glad you made the 30 second phone call. And you're totally within your right to tell the other cuckoo "sorry, we can't accommodate extra guests."

  Lol yeah I mean it was more like a 10 minute call that was really uncomfortable but hey, now I don't have to stress about it.

  
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  March 2015

  1) just call the woman
  2) I would tell the person that the guest list is full...sorry.

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