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How to write vows?

augsum15augsum15 member
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I was trying to explain to my fiancé what should be in his vows, but I realized I don't really know myself. I've looked online for some different template type things to try and help get started but there's so much and we don't wanna be writing essays! Does anyone have a short and sweet list of things to touch on? We've got a few months to get it together but I don't think either of us really know where to start, as we're not super wordy/emotional people!
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Re: How to write vows?

  • mlg78mlg78 member
    500 Love Its 1000 Comments Second Anniversary 5 Answers
    Our minister gave us great advice.  Choose 5 or so things that you want to promise to one another... I believe we chose to love, be faithful, "in good times and in bad", respect...and another that is escaping my mind.  We each took those and put it into our own words.  Throw in a line or two at the beginning and then a wrap up line at the end and you're done.  Very easy.  For our minister it was important to him that we promise the same thing to one another which I really liked.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
    10000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers First Anniversary
    edited March 2015
    Ditto PPs. I would start with the traditional, scripted ones and take it from there. Is there something you've been through together that would be especially meaningful to promise?

    Just leave things like putting the toilet seat down out of it.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Make your vows about things you are seriously promising each other. Don't use them as verbal love letters or stand-up comedy acts, or promise anything you can't realistically deliver, like never going to bed angry.
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  • cupcait927cupcait927 member
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    PPs have it covered (no love letters, keep the silliness to a minimum) but here are two links (here and here) that helped me when I was writing my vows to H.
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    Ditto PPs.  I also can't stand "silly vows."  I all about mac n cheese, but to me vows shouldn't include, "I promise to always let you have the last bite of mac n cheese." 

    Besides, the last bite is always cold.  It's all about the first bite. 


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  • jenijoykjenijoyk member
    Tenth Anniversary 500 Love Its 500 Comments First Answer
    Do you mean your vows, or your ceremony? The vows were the easiest part for us. We are also not overly sentimental/super wordy people, and we definitely did not want our ceremony to go on forever, and have that awkward "John. [Insert big heavy deep breath.] From the moment I saw you [insert goopy cute meet story]. [Insert platitudes.] [Insert inside joke none of your guests get.] [Insert crying.] [Etc. etc.]." 

    So this was the entire extent of our vows:

    J and R are you ready to take your wedding vows?

    We are.

    I ask of you both, do you promise to choose each other every day, to love and be faithful to one another in word and deed?

    We do.

    Do you promise to recognize one another as equals, and support one another in your goals and wishes for the future?

    We do.

    Do you promise to always share your thoughts, and feelings, and concerns with one another, and be open and honest at all times?

    We do.

    Do you promise to comfort, protect, and defend each other for the rest of your lives?

    We do.

    Do you promise that come hell or high water, recession or ruin, misfortune or sickness, that you are in this together, no matter what?

    We do. 

    Done!
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  • augsum15augsum15 member
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    No not the full ceremony, I'm not sure how they're suppose to be done in the states, but in canada there is a specific format for civil ceremonies that legally must be followed, there's all the traditional bits, etc, but we do have the option of including our own personal words if we so choose, so I'm just kinda looking for a general idea of something to follow, not necessarily adding in goofy inside jokes that make no sense. I kinda like what you suggested @mlg78, that's actually really helpful. 
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  • FutureMsNguyenFutureMsNguyen member
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    edited March 2015
    I found this article on TK, Hope it helps!
    https://www.theknot.com/content/how-to-write-your-own-wedding-vows


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    "If you really want something you don’t stop for anyone or anything  until you get it".
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