Sleepwalkers

Bubblegum5586 · March 2015

mikenberger said:
FI sleepwalks and will pee in random places. We've never actually got to the peeing in random places scenario while we've been together, but he's told me when he was younger, he woke up outside peeing once when he was a teenager. His mom has confirmed that he's always sleepwalked.

It seems to be drinking or stress related. If he's been drinking heavily, I can almost automatically assume he's going to get out of bed and wander into the closet. If I yell at him, "THAT'S NOT THE BATHROOM!" he'll walk out of the closet and into the bathroom. There have been times though that he yells and screams and thrashes around in bed. Typically, I either ignore him and just stay on my side of the bed or I go to the other bedroom. He's never tried to touch me though.

I have woken up though and he's been literally walking into a wall, over and over again. After I stopped laughing uncontrollably (He was perfectly safe. Literally just walking into a blank wall over and over again) I got up and escorted him back to bed.

Maybe your FI's sleepwalking though is stress related/wedding planning related?

H sleepswalks and its mostly due to heavy drinking. I have witnessed it over a dozen times starting when we were in college. Unfortunately he often disrobes during his sleep walking and ends up walking around naked. If we were at our house no big deal but it's usually somewhere else.

He also tends to pee in random places too and I have to jump up and guide him to the bathroom. I usually boobytrap the bedroom door to make a loud noise so it will wake me up to keep him from peeing somewhere else.

madamerwin · March 2015

novella1186 said:

badbnagdway said:
I talk in my sleep frequently, probably at least a few times a week if not every night, per everyone who has ever shared a room or bed with me. I sleep walk, but it's not as frequent that I actually walk around and I agree with others, it is usually in times of stress that it happens. When I do sleep walk, I often will wake up during the out of bed experience. For example, one night, I was dreaming that the over head fan in my room was going to fall. My sleep reasoning told me I needed to rescue my cat, so I picked her up, rushed into the bathroom, and shut the door, and then found myself awake, holding my cat. It is not a big deal for me to wake up while sleep walking. The only thing is, I am usually completely convinced that whatever I was just dreaming has really happened. So, for example, I wouldn't let me cat back in the bedroom after the fan incident because I didn't want her to be crushed.

I have never harmed anyone or myself while sleep walking. I have walked down flights of stairs but never outside. However, I had a persistent fear for a long time that I would do something dangerous, like, think I could fly out a window or something. When I would worry about that, I would stop and think to myself, "if you ever feel tempted to fly, don't, you're dreaming."

I agree see if he is open to getting into a sleep study if you think the situation is dangerous in any way. To be truthful, from what I know, there's not much to be done though. If he's not doing it all the time I do think it's probably stress and will pass. I find sleeping aids, like, when I took a bunch of night time cold medicine last week because I was sick, only make my dreams more convincing to me and FI says I talk even more in my sleep when I take those.

Edit for clarity... hopefully.
huh... I didn't even think of the sleep aids thing but I've heard that they can cause sleepwalking, and FI has been loading up on Nyquil the past few nights because he has a nasty cold.... I wonder if that has anything to do with it.

This is what I was going to say... Sleeping aids can do weird things to your sleep cycles (ever hear stories of people who took ambien and started binge-eating or driving in their sleep?) . I definitely have weird dreams and tend to talk in my sleep if I take anything stronger than melatonin.

I also second that it may be alcohol, if he drinks (and doesn't NyQuil also have alcohol in it?). My boyfriend in college would sleepwalk after drinking, usually resulting in him peeing in the hamper or something.

FI sleepwalks occasionally too, and it seems to be connected with staying up too late drinking and playing video games.

novella1186 · March 2015

I'm actually kind of relieved to hear that a lot of you ladies have experienced this kind of stuff. No one I know IRL has a SO who sleepwalks so when I talk about it, it's just funny to them (cuz really it's funny sometimes) but they can't offer any advice or anything. So I kind of felt alone in trying to figure this out.

Thanks for the replies!

mrsk616 · March 2015

i actually woke up mid run to my door once. i was watching american horror story and was dreaming that there were cock roaches on my curtains and i was running away and out of my room. yup caught myself running to door, and i was actually watching american horror story but lucky no roaches on my curtain. i turned tv off right away.

my niece's keep bringing up that i scream in my sleep. i dont know how often but i know it has been going on for years. but whenever I'm with FI out of town or what not i dont do any of this.... (we dont live together yet) maybe its just his snoring that drives me crazy and keeps me from going into a deep sleep.

kaitlynmichelle · March 2015

melbenso said:

mikenberger said:
FI sleepwalks and will pee in random places. We've never actually got to the peeing in random places scenario while we've been together, but he's told me when he was younger, he woke up outside peeing once when he was a teenager. His mom has confirmed that he's always sleepwalked.

I have a friend who used to do this in college. But only when he had too much to drink. The inappropriate pee count included a hotel air conditioning unit and a friend who was sleeping on the floor. After the last one, he cut back on the drinking.

Fact: I've woken up once to H sleepwalking and peeing on our carpet. I was not amused. Poor guy.

hellosweetie1015 · March 2015

I am not jealous of all you ladies with sleep-pee-ers. My brother used to do that. He peed in a trash can once and then on an antique guitar amplifier another time. My mom was annoyed with the first one. My dad was PISSED with the second one. But how do you punish a kid who sleep-pees? You can't.

I sleep talk. FI says I'm unintelligible. My mom says I speak French. I am pretty sure it's not French, but I have always been really tempted to record myself because really - I never get to hear it. I wanna know wtf it is that I say when I'm not awake.

missdelilah · March 2015

I have a few friends who sleep walk and talk, and DH (that's still kind of weird) does it occasionally. Apparently it used to be bad when he was a teenager, and he'd wake up outside often. I haven't seen any of that though. I did catch him peeing in the washing machine once. I was not impressed. He has his own stories of strange things he's done while sleeping but I haven't witnessed many of them.

We had a real issue two days before the wedding (which was when we actually arrived in Sydney). We were staying with some friends, and they only have a twin bed. We've got a king at home, and DH is 6'8", so anything smaller than that, and we have issues. He used to smack me in the face a lot when we first started dating; so I strapped his arm to his leg, and after a week or two, he was fine. The first night in Sydney though, I woke up about three times with his elbow poised above my face. I kept waking him and eventually trying to yell at him without waking the house up. He continually told me that I was lying, even while he was there with his elbow hovered over my face. Later that night, he ended up elbowing me in the back really hard. I went off at him then (screw the neighbors style) and he was fine for the rest of the night. I'm not convinced that DH woke up at all that night. I was super pissed with him the next morning, and he was really confused. I was just happy that even though my back hurt, it didn't bruise, because that would have been difficult with the backless dress. I think we just blame the jet lag, and the tiny bed for that one. He didn't take any meds that night, and didn't have more than a couple of drinks that evening.

I tried to get the celebrant to write something in to the vows about how DH promised to stop assaulting me while he was sleeping, but she couldn't get the wording right.

mrsk616 · March 2015

oh and apparently i sleep text. once before my grad party i had a dream about said party and texted my FI to many people. he was confused.

then a couple months ago i woke up to a very long text that was waiting to go out. i read through it and was like wtf did i just write. luckily it did not send because FI would have been wtf is wrong with you.

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