Remember when I posted on behalf of FI? (Click here
). He really loved everyone's advice, and talked to Brad. Gave him all the details to rent from the place here YET AGAIN, but also said he can do whatever he wants.
Several days later, I get included in a facebook message Brad sent out to all the other groomsmen (and FI was NOT included in this message) saying "I checked with the suit place. You can't rent from them." WTF, yes you can. We went there in person three different times and talked to them. And why the fuck is Brad saying this to all the guys (and me) instead of talking to FI about it first to clear it up? ugh. FI calls the suit place and double checks. Yes you can rent from them. Calls Brad to clarify. Apparently Brad told them the wrong thing over the phone (how? It's not that difficult) so got the wrong info. FI then has to re-clear it all up with each of the groomsmen. Brad just says "k."
Didn't hear another word from Brad until yesterday when he texts FI about renting a tux for Brad's wedding. FI was never asked to be in Brad's wedding party, and felt bad about that for a minute but then moved on. So he assumed he was accidentally included in a group text. He checked with Brad. Nope. FI is a groomsman in Brad's wedding. Brad never bothered to ask him or mention it because he "assumed it was just implied." Um...?
Brad is demanding that all his guys get their tuxes NOW. His wedding is 7 months away. Ours is in less than 2 months and some of our GMS-- including Brad-- don't even have their suits yet. So FI checks out the tux rental and it's stupid expensive, of course. Beyond his budget. Which he has no say-so in cuz Brad never checked with him. We start adding up costs and it's going to cost us about $600 to attend/take part in this wedding, not including a gift and their cash bar (cuz yes this is the same wedding I snarked on where crazypants bride is spreading the word to bring flasks since her cash bar will be super expensive for the guests).
FI doesn't particularly want to take part in this wedding anymore, especially since he was never even asked, and the costs are more than we can afford. We're having trouble paying for our own wedding right now, and trying to save money to buy a house. But he feels like he's kind of stuck and can't decline, since now it's been assumed all along that he was in. So he's just gonna go along with it. (I don't agree with this at all but ultimately it's FI's decision).
Just more of Brad being a rude, thoughtless pain in the ass. I jokingly said that I'll start contacting Brad and his FI and bombarding them with randomass questions about what my FI should wear in their wedding and in the meantime my FI should start bombarding Brad with whining and complaints and shitty comments about the attire. Totally joking. But fuck. Brad has made a lot of shit really difficult and I'm super pissed at this new turn of events.
What would you do in this situation? Like I said, the choice is really FI's, but I think this sucks.