So, my wedding is in two months.
One of my bridesmaids has decided to taken up planning a bridal shower, but will not tell me anything. Simply saying "You're going to have a bridal shower, don't worry about how." It's been 2 months since she said this, and after conversing with the other bridesmaid that was planning with her, nothing has happened. Ideas were tossed around, but nothing solid. This bridesmaid was getting irritated, because she is away at college and unable to throw the shower herself.
Normally, I would shrug it off, and not care. After all, it is expensive, and time consuming. They do not HAVE to throw me one.
BUT, I am moving April 1st into me and my fiances first apartment on our own. We are basically starting from scratch and many of the things we need are on our registry. I just wish I knew if one was happening or not, so I knew if I should buy the things on my registry for when we move. (instead of buying a dollar store shower curtain because I'm not sure if I'll receive one, etc).
AND, the MIL is hounding me on if the bridesmaid is getting anything together, because if not, she wants to throw one. (the MIL can be a bit nasty at times which makes it difficult and even more stressful) But I'm not supposed to know anything about the shower, not even that nothing is being done so far.
How do I gently talk to her and find out if she is planning one, so that if she isn't, the MIL can do so? (Without sounding demanding)
I don't want to sound selfish, I would rather not have one. But I wish I knew what to expect?