Are you required to invite step uncles and their wives?
A little background…Future MIL is pushing for us to invite
her stepbrother and his wife even though fiancé and I do not want to. His wife
treated me like dirt, yelled and swore at me and never apologized directly to
me even once her son admitted that he had lied to her about hitting me (she has
told everyone else in the family that she is sorry but me and all I keep
hearing is about how she is “so sorry”). Up until that point, we saw them once a
year and never talked when we didn’t see them. Future MIL and stepbrother only
see each other about once a year and never talk in between seeing each other
either (their parents remarried when they were grown and out of the house so
they’ve never grown up together).
Future MIL is worried that it’ll cause a rift in the family
since we are going to invite her other stepbrother (I think this aunt has
already caused a rift) and because they’re family. Fiancé told his step aunt (the
day everything happened) that she would most likely never see us again after
how she treated me.
My parents are paying for the food, the photographer,
invites and the dress. Future MIL (dad is out of the picture) is paying for the
favors and stamps. Fiancé and I are paying the rest. My fiancé and my parents
don’t want to invite her after how she treated me. Future MIL keeps bringing it
up and I’m about ready to just blow up and yell at her that it’s out of the
question and to shut her mouth (I know that sounds terrible but she does know
why we don’t want to invite them and both fiancé and I are tired of hearing
about it).
As far as my fiancé and I are concerned, we can see no need
to invite them. Am I wrong here? Is there some rule somewhere that I am
required to invite them just because they are family even if she wronged me and
never apologized?