NWR: Possibly moving

emmaaa · March 2015

DH and I have lived in NC (and the same county) our entire lives. We grew up 5 miles apart, went to elementary, middle, and high school together. After high school, we still lived in the same county and I commuted to school. When we moved in together, we stayed in the same county and then later moved back out to the town we grew up in (which is where we live now).

Obviously, there is a reason we stayed in the same area and that's because we love it. All of our family is here, our very tight knit group of friends live here, and we love the area.

We had always planned to stay here because we both have family land that we can build a house on. Now, DH is graduating from college in May and starting to apply for jobs. So far he has applied to two, one 3 hours away and one 5 hours away, but in the same state. He has a really good feeling on both of these and we think they will lead to an offer.We had discussed that we would only move if he made X amount of money more than what I make now because I would most likely have to quit my job.

I'm not worried about finding another job because I'm in recreation and there is a Recreation Department in literally every city/county. Now we're talking about how hard it will be to actually move that far away. We would definitely move if it were the right move for his career and mine and our lives together and even though we know that, it kind of sucks.

How many of you Knotties have moved a good distance from home? What are some things you recommend to make the move easier? How did you look for housing? Do/Did you plan to ever move back "home?"

labro · March 2015

I probably can't relate in the same way. I'm an Army brat so I spent my entire childhood moving around, the last few years before my dad retired we were moving about every 10-11 months so no particular place has every really said "home" in the same way.

When I went to college I did move far away from my family for the first time though. I picked a school in a different state that was a 2 day minimum drive to get to. That first year was pretty tough. I felt depressed and wasn't motivated to do anything. Some of the things that helped me to start feel more me included joining some community groups and college clubs/organizations. Technically I'm back "home" now. I stayed in the state where my college was for just over a year after graduation but I wasn't happy with the direction I was going in and I also broke up with my long-term bf. I moved back to where my parent's lived (the city my dad got a civilian job in after retirement) and found a full time job there. I think if given the opportunity, H and I would definitely be willing to move again. We're happy where we are now but he definitely doesn't want to move "home" because he hates the location, and I'm ok about staying here or moving far away depending on our careers.

southernbelle0915 · March 2015

My parents moved a lot when we were little, so we only lived by family for a couple years when I was really little. Most of the time, we were just several hours away. We traveled every Christmas and Thanksgiving and for events like graduations, milestone birthday/anniversary parties, weddings, etc. It was fine. But also the family dynamic is a little different there. We weren't super tight with all these people as y'all are. If we had been, we probably would have seen more of them.

DH moved several states away from his parents for a job here. We visit them for at least a week every year and they come here for at least a long weekend most years. If it were driving distance, like your scenario, I'm sure we'd see them a lot more.

Just keep in mind that whatever you do doesn't have to be permanent. Your DH can take this job to get his feet wet and do some resume building. Then y'all can head back home if you really want to. Think of it as a fun opportunity that doesn't have to be permanent if you don't want it to be.

allispain · March 2015

DH was kind of the same way - he went to college less than 2 hours from his mom's house, his first job once he graduated was about a 45 minute drive from "home," etc. He'd never lived out of the state of VA. I'm the total opposite - although my family lived in the same small town my entire childhood, I studied abroad multiple times, went to college 3 states away, etc. When I finished my PhD, I found a job a 15 hour drive from where we had been living. DH quit his job and we moved up here a little over a year and a half ago. It was tough on him at first to be so far away from his family - he used to see his mom every 2 weeks if not every week - but he started calling her to chat a lot more, and that helped him. His family can't afford to come visit us, but he goes back 2-3 times a year to visit them (my work schedule doesn't allow me to go with very often). I know he would be happy to move back to that area some day, but job prospects for both of us are pretty limited there, so it's not likely. He's also gotten more and more excited about the idea of living in other areas of the country, so I'm happy that he's becoming more flexible.

Regarding moving itself - looking for a place in person is key. I always do a lot of research online first to figure out what area(s) of town would be best for us, but it still makes a big difference to see the place yourself.

WinstonsGirl · March 2015

I moved to England in Uni to do my second year there. But I knew I was coming home. It was still hard though, but you'll also have your FI with you and that will help. I agree. Make it temporary and if you end up loving it, then stay. If you don't, then come home.

And remember that your friends and family will always be a visit away but you'll also get to meet new cool people when you move. And you may get introduced to new activities you might not have tried at home. Life is an adventure, so go try something new. And if it doesn't work, come back home.

Personally, I'm at the point where I love where I live. Could I love other places, sure. But I've got it pretty good here and I'm happy to stay.

sarahufl · March 2015

I grew up in north Florida in a lovely town where I had lots of friends and family. When I was 25, I moved to New York "for a year or 2" and ended up staying 7. Plus, we just bought a house, so I don't see myself going anywhere.

I struggle with it a lot sometimes. On the one hand, I love it here- we have friends, H's family is nearby, we just bought a beautiful house in a lovely town. But I have these pangs where I miss "home". I considered moving back a number of times, but never did. My parents are still there, but my sister lives in south Florida and my brother lives in Denver- so what made it home isn't necessarily there anymore.

I focus more on making a life here- which I have- and just buying plane tickets every chance I get

So yes, while you can technically move back home, I find it just gets tougher the more you settle in, make friends, join organizations, make professional connections, etc.

Good luck!

blabla89 · March 2015

I'm 700 miles from home but my attitude is completely different from yours. I lived in the same small town all my life, and I couldn't get out fast enough. I moved to Atlanta for college, so I had a built-in social life and housing, but didn't know anyone off campus. The majority of my friends moved away after graduation and I stayed, so it was almost like starting over again. Sometimes I find myself feeling homesick and wishing so-and-so was here, but for the most part it's been fairly easy to put down roots. 3 hours away doesn't seem all that far to me, since my family used to drive 2 hours to visit our grandparents a couple times a month. Even 5 hours isn't so far if you want to go visit over a long weekend.

As far as where to live, ask around about the neighborhoods. If your DH is accepting a job, I'm sure his new boss and coworkers would be happy to talk about it. Renting might be a good option if you're moving into an unfamiliar area, that way you're not locked in for too long. I've always had good luck with apartments/rental houses on Hot Pads. Getting involved in a church, volunteering, joining clubs, etc. are good ways to get connected and build your social circle in a new place. Take time every weekend to explore the city and find things that you love about it - a new favorite coffee shop, park, restaurant, etc.

FI and I will probably stay in Atlanta because we love it, and because most of his family is here. Every once in a while I get the itch to move back to St. Louis and be close to all the familiar things that I love. It doesn't help that my aunt is a realtor and is always posting gorgeous houses for sale on facebook. My family has scattered all over the country since I left, so it wouldn't be the same if I did move back.

climbingsingle · March 2015

H and I are very much the same. We still live in the county we grew up in. I grew up about 15 minutes away and we live in the house H was raised in (he bought it from his parents back in 2000).

When I was 26, I moved to DC for a job (technically Alexandria). I loved living in a new city, and I was only a 4 hour drive from home. I met friends through work and other functions, but honestly, no one that I clicked with so much like my hometown friends. I did get home sick, and I had some hard days. Eventually my company was bought out by HP and my job was eliminated. I wasn't having an easy time finding another job, so I decided to move home. And I've been back here ever since. It was a great experience living in another state. But I'm very happy to be back in NY. I love it here.

Casadena · March 2015

I'm also in the "moved around a lot" camp so it wouldn't bother me even a little to move far away from "home". H is more like you and yours though, grew up near all his extended family, none of his gparents/aunts/uncles/cousins (except us) live more than an hour away from each other. Right now, we're about 5 hours from his family and 3 hours from mine. Which means we definitely have to PLAN to see each other but it's still doable in a weekend. For H, i think it would be a lot harder to be any further away, just because we'd likely have to fly or take lots of time off work (we don't work weekends) but as it is, we're able to go back for all the important things we want to go back for and it hasn't been a major issue. If we were to move any farther away, MIL might have a heart attack and/or try to guilt us into not (wouldn't work with me) but we'll deal with that when we have to.

SmileDamnit · March 2015

I don't really think of 3 & 5 hours away as "far", but I understand how it would seem like that if you've never moved before. You can still make weekend trips quite easily at those distances so keep that in mind.

I've moved a handful of times, each progressively further & further from "home". Grew up in IA and moved to NC freshman year of HS (my Mom & SD are still there), then went to TX for some of college, then worked my way to CO as soon as I figured out I hated TX. I've now been here for longer than anywhere else I've lived so I very much consider it home. Luckily, my Dad & sister recently made their way west, so it's very nice to have them close. And while I'd love for my Ma to be closer, the distance doesn't really affect our relationship as we still see each other a lot. DH is from Montana and would love to move back someday. I'd totally jump on it if we could find jobs making enough money.

As for the tips for moving - I'd say get to know the town/city as best as you can before buying a house in a particular neighborhood (maybe rent first while you "explore" so you don't end up with property in a location you don't end up liking). Discovering all the hidden gems of a new place is exciting - embrace it!

jenna8984 · March 2015

I have always been somewhat adventurous, so when I was 22 after college, I took a job across the country and moved by myself. It was wonderful and I had a lot of fun. It was fun but I did miss home and ended up coming back. I met my husband once I moved back, and he never wants to leave this area so I'm kind of trapped here now.

But what sucks is like @sarahufl said....home isn't what it used to be anymore. My parents sold the house I lived in for 22 years and they took off 1200 miles south to escape the cold. My brother got married and has 3 kids so he's too busy to EVER hang out. My friends from high school and college are married with kids so they never want to hang out. So I was dying to come back here, but now that I'm here, it's like not what I expected at all.

Honestly, you're talking 3-5 hours drive which seems like nothing to me. You can still drive and be together for all the major holidays and events so while it seems shitty, it's really not compared to being a 6 hour flight away!

flyingfoxes · March 2015

I'm doing this this summer - FI is being transferred to Kentucky, so we'll be about 8 hours away from KC. I've lived in the geographical area my whole life, my whole family is here, but I'm really excited to get to have a fresh start somewhere, yet still be able to drive home in a day. I know right now it's just the abstract idea - when it gets closer I'll be sad, but I still think it's an exciting opportunity.

We can always move back here once he retires from the Army if we want, but when else would I get the chance to explore a new place and be able to get a different, lower-paying job and try something new?

sarahufl · March 2015

jenna8984 said:
I have always been somewhat adventurous, so when I was 22 after college, I took a job across the country and moved by myself. It was wonderful and I had a lot of fun. It was fun but I did miss home and ended up coming back. I met my husband once I moved back, and he never wants to leave this area so I'm kind of trapped here now.
But what sucks is like @sarahufl said....home isn't what it used to be anymore. My parents sold the house I lived in for 22 years and they took off 1200 miles south to escape the cold. My brother got married and has 3 kids so he's too busy to EVER hang out. My friends from high school and college are married with kids so they never want to hang out. So I was dying to come back here, but now that I'm here, it's like not what I expected at all.
Honestly, you're talking 3-5 hours drive which seems like nothing to me. You can still drive and be together for all the major holidays and events so while it seems shitty, it's really not compared to being a 6 hour flight away!

@jenna8984 says it well. I always talk about moving back home. But NONE of my friends from growing up are there anymore. While there are tons of jobs for me there, there are no jobs for H. And while I love my parents dearly, I would really prefer to live near my sister.

Whenever I get in a funk about being away, H asks me what I want to do. And it always boils down to the fact that home isn't what it used to be.

wandajune6 · March 2015

I've moved away from home several times, coming back in between. I'm back in the metro area that I grew up in and love it, but it's also a big city with lots of professional options. I also came back (and ended up meeting DH) because I wanted to help my parents care for my grandmother.

There are pros and cons to moving away. I think it helps you see a bigger world and become more independent in ways that you didn't previously know possible. Each move helped me develop as a person. You meet new people and develop new relationships as well. I also found that it helped me get away from following the mold and gave me the freedom to follow my gut more.

There are cons. You have to be selective in the events you attend. If you decide to have kids, your parents aren't right there to help (assuming they would). Your friendships require much more work to maintain and can often fade away.

Other than my twin, everyone in my family has "run away from home" at least once. My sister has a good life but regrets not taking that opportunity. DH has never done it and wishes he had the chance. We're open to moving if there is a job that makes it worthwhile but have agreed it will be after his son graduates HS (2.5 years) and my grandmother passes (she's about to turn 95). For now, we're locked down.

A final thought: sometimes the scariest things are the best things you can do for yourself. If you don't like it, you can always move home.

emmaaa · March 2015

Thanks everyone. I know 3-5 hours is not far at all so I am thankful for that for sure. We live in the central part of NC (think Raleigh-ish) and one job is west towards Boone (mountains) and the other is east towards Elizabeth City (beach) so it would be a nice change of scenery.

We're both prepared to move even though we never had the "itch" to do so. I think what we'll miss most is our friends. I know that they're staying back home. It will be harder for our weekly (if not more) potlucks or night our getting wings, but again, not too far where a day trip or weekend trip is out of the question.

Also, not building on our parents' land right away would be harder. My dad lives in his grandpa's house on the family land. My brother is building across the road. My other brother is still in college and lives at home but will inherit the house. And we had the option to build in the "pines" on the farm. DH's parent's live 5 miles away from my family and we have his grandpa's land across the road to build on and his sister could build on his parent's land.

Right now, if we end up moving, it will be a temporary 3 to 5 year thing. But like many of y'all said, we could end up loving it and not moving back. Who knows! We're fortunate right now that we don't own a home we'd have to sell, we don't have kids, and we're both new in careers.

mrsk616 · March 2015

i have never moved in my life. still at home until house is done. but we have been talking of just selling it and moving to texas. I am scared because its not like a 20 minute drive to go home to visit if need be. it would be a 3 day trip. so i can see where you are coming from.

kvruns · March 2015

emmaaa said:
Thanks everyone. I know 3-5 hours is not far at all so I am thankful for that for sure. We live in the central part of NC (think Raleigh-ish) and one job is west towards Boone (mountains) and the other is east towards Elizabeth City (beach) so it would be a nice change of scenery.

We're both prepared to move even though we never had the "itch" to do so. I think what we'll miss most is our friends. I know that they're staying back home. It will be harder for our weekly (if not more) potlucks or night our getting wings, but again, not too far where a day trip or weekend trip is out of the question.

Also, not building on our parents' land right away would be harder. My dad lives in his grandpa's house on the family land. My brother is building across the road. My other brother is still in college and lives at home but will inherit the house. And we had the option to build in the "pines" on the farm. DH's parent's live 5 miles away from my family and we have his grandpa's land across the road to build on and his sister could build on his parent's land.

Right now, if we end up moving, it will be a temporary 3 to 5 year thing. But like many of y'all said, we could end up loving it and not moving back. Who knows! We're fortunate right now that we don't own a home we'd have to sell, we don't have kids, and we're both new in careers.

Just curious on the bolded. Are there no jobs that he is qualified for in the area now, but in 3-5 years those jobs will be available? or just that he sees these other companies as amazing opportunities to get his career off on the right foot?

jenna8984 · March 2015

Yea, I think you guys are pretty young. So at 22-25 your friends are a big part of life, like you said the potlucks and wings nights. Once you get to 30 and everyone is having kids, that all really drifts away. Maybe not for everyone, but I think for the majority of us. I really don't know anyone my age who gets together with their friends more than once a month lol. I have a lot of friends even in my same town that I haven't seen in a year, so just remember that friends are important but unfortunately they will start becoming less of your everyday life whether you're home or not.

emmaaa · March 2015

kvruns said:

emmaaa said:
Thanks everyone. I know 3-5 hours is not far at all so I am thankful for that for sure. We live in the central part of NC (think Raleigh-ish) and one job is west towards Boone (mountains) and the other is east towards Elizabeth City (beach) so it would be a nice change of scenery.

We're both prepared to move even though we never had the "itch" to do so. I think what we'll miss most is our friends. I know that they're staying back home. It will be harder for our weekly (if not more) potlucks or night our getting wings, but again, not too far where a day trip or weekend trip is out of the question.

Also, not building on our parents' land right away would be harder. My dad lives in his grandpa's house on the family land. My brother is building across the road. My other brother is still in college and lives at home but will inherit the house. And we had the option to build in the "pines" on the farm. DH's parent's live 5 miles away from my family and we have his grandpa's land across the road to build on and his sister could build on his parent's land.

Right now, if we end up moving, it will be a temporary 3 to 5 year thing. But like many of y'all said, we could end up loving it and not moving back. Who knows! We're fortunate right now that we don't own a home we'd have to sell, we don't have kids, and we're both new in careers.
Just curious on the bolded. Are there no jobs that he is qualified for in the area now, but in 3-5 years those jobs will be available? or just that he sees these other companies as amazing opportunities to get his career off on the right foot?

He is in school for Turf Grass Management concentrated in Gold course Management. A while there are a few golf courses around us: few are hiring and if they are, it is for the entry level, minimum wage positions that he had in high school and before he went college. I'm not saying that he is "too good" for those jobs, but definitely over-qualified and we would rather him have a permanent position making much more money.

If we do move, and an offer came his way back home before 3-5 years, I'm sure we'd move back then simply because those openings and offers aren't common.

We also, aren't deciding to move or not RIGHT NOW because he doesn't graduate until May (which now that I type that out, it is not that far away) and he definitely wants to keep his options open in case something does become available here by then or the end of summer.

ETA: I forgot to add that it is very important to him that he gets started at a reputable, high-end course, because that will help start his career on a better path than a lower-end and lower-budget course which makes it hard to move up to better and higher paying courses.

emmaaa · March 2015

jenna8984 said:
Yea, I think you guys are pretty young. So at 22-25 your friends are a big part of life, like you said the potlucks and wings nights. Once you get to 30 and everyone is having kids, that all really drifts away. Maybe not for everyone, but I think for the majority of us. I really don't know anyone my age who gets together with their friends more than once a month lol. I have a lot of friends even in my same town that I haven't seen in a year, so just remember that friends are important but unfortunately they will start becoming less of your everyday life whether you're home or not.

Yeah, we're both 24. The friends we have now have been our friends since elementary school or high school. I mean, of course we have made friends from college and keep in touch, but a lot of them have moved away so we don't see them often.

We understand that as you get older and possibly have kids, your priorities change and you may see you friends less, which why it is important to us to see them often now.

We also know many people in their 30s, 40s, 50s + that still get together regularly with friends from "the old days' even though not as often. When you live in a place like me and there isn't anything to do, you get together with people to kind of make something to do. I think being in a small, rural community has a lot to do with the emphasis on family and friends (not saying other places aren't like this, that's just my experience here).

buttercup1958 · March 2015

Honestly, I'm completely opposite. Then again my family and I aren't that close. I love them and all but I wouldn't want to be near them. Hours between us is better for our relationship than being close by. V and I love this area and I consider this place home more than where I grew up. We are moving away for grad school and who knows where we will end up. But I think it's exciting to explore new places! V and I have talked about eventually moving back here though.

We love it here, low cost of living, good hiking, rivers for tubing, relaxing atmosphere, ect. But we don't want to limit ourselves so we are going to explore. I will have to say Elizabeth City isn't my favorite. I've visited a lot since one of my best friends moved down there for a little bit. The city wasn't that great in my opinion. So I would suggest going to Boone if you can help it. But I love the mountains.

emmaaa · March 2015

buttercup1958 said:
Honestly, I'm completely opposite. Then again my family and I aren't that close. I love them and all but I wouldn't want to be near them. Hours between us is better for our relationship than being close by. V and I love this area and I consider this place home more than where I grew up. We are moving away for grad school and who knows where we will end up. But I think it's exciting to explore new places! V and I have talked about eventually moving back here though.

We love it here, low cost of living, good hiking, rivers for tubing, relaxing atmosphere, ect. But we don't want to limit ourselves so we are going to explore. I will have to say Elizabeth City isn't my favorite. I've visited a lot since one of my best friends moved down there for a little bit. The city wasn't that great in my opinion. So I would suggest going to Boone if you can help it. But I love the mountains.

Neither of us like Elizabeth City, but it's actually about 45 minutes from there in a rural area. EC is just the closest large town. With that being said, I like the mountains so much more than the beach and that area better, so we'll see!

climbingsingle · March 2015

We're in our 30s and 40s and we still get together with our friends pretty frequently, especially during the summer. We're always out on someone's boat, or at a BBQ. I really haven't seen that change so much now that I'm older. Yes, we don't go out drinking or to the bars like we did in our 20s. But we still get together more than 1 time a month.

SmileDamnit · March 2015

Another vote for Boone!! So, so, so much beauty in that area.

buttercup1958 · March 2015

emmaaa said:

buttercup1958 said:
Honestly, I'm completely opposite. Then again my family and I aren't that close. I love them and all but I wouldn't want to be near them. Hours between us is better for our relationship than being close by. V and I love this area and I consider this place home more than where I grew up. We are moving away for grad school and who knows where we will end up. But I think it's exciting to explore new places! V and I have talked about eventually moving back here though.

We love it here, low cost of living, good hiking, rivers for tubing, relaxing atmosphere, ect. But we don't want to limit ourselves so we are going to explore. I will have to say Elizabeth City isn't my favorite. I've visited a lot since one of my best friends moved down there for a little bit. The city wasn't that great in my opinion. So I would suggest going to Boone if you can help it. But I love the mountains.
Neither of us like Elizabeth City, but it's actually about 45 minutes from there in a rural area. EC is just the closest large town. With that being said, I like the mountains so much more than the beach and that area better, so we'll see!

Ok, I guess that is slight better ha. I live near Blacksburg VA, so I think it will be similar! Our winter was very cold this year but for the most part, we have four seasons. There are so many day hikes and trails around here. I feel like I've been spoiled. Plus our rent isn't too bad, it's only 600 a month. That got us a two bedroom surrounded by trees on a quite street. V and I split it so rent is actually 300. If you ever want suggestions for this area, let me know!

emmaaa · March 2015

buttercup1958 said:

emmaaa said:

buttercup1958 said:
Honestly, I'm completely opposite. Then again my family and I aren't that close. I love them and all but I wouldn't want to be near them. Hours between us is better for our relationship than being close by. V and I love this area and I consider this place home more than where I grew up. We are moving away for grad school and who knows where we will end up. But I think it's exciting to explore new places! V and I have talked about eventually moving back here though.

We love it here, low cost of living, good hiking, rivers for tubing, relaxing atmosphere, ect. But we don't want to limit ourselves so we are going to explore. I will have to say Elizabeth City isn't my favorite. I've visited a lot since one of my best friends moved down there for a little bit. The city wasn't that great in my opinion. So I would suggest going to Boone if you can help it. But I love the mountains.
Neither of us like Elizabeth City, but it's actually about 45 minutes from there in a rural area. EC is just the closest large town. With that being said, I like the mountains so much more than the beach and that area better, so we'll see!
Ok, I guess that is slight better ha. I live near Blacksburg VA, so I think it will be similar! Our winter was very cold this year but for the most part, we have four seasons. There are so many day hikes and trails around here. I feel like I've been spoiled. Plus our rent isn't too bad, it's only 600 a month. That got us a two bedroom surrounded by trees on a quite street. V and I split it so rent is actually 300. If you ever want suggestions for this area, let me know!

Cost of living would be cheaper near Boone for sure (as long as we aren't actually in Boone because it's a college town with high rent). We both like that area more and just hope the job offer would be as good, if not better than the one in EC.

SmileDamnit · March 2015

Somewhat of a side note, but does YH like to golf (I assume so given his career choice, but you know what they say about assumptions)? If so, have him check out Mountain Air Country Club outside of Burnsville. It's an absolutely beautiful course at 5,000 ft.

buttercup1958 · March 2015

emmaaa said:

buttercup1958 said:

emmaaa said:

buttercup1958 said:
Honestly, I'm completely opposite. Then again my family and I aren't that close. I love them and all but I wouldn't want to be near them. Hours between us is better for our relationship than being close by. V and I love this area and I consider this place home more than where I grew up. We are moving away for grad school and who knows where we will end up. But I think it's exciting to explore new places! V and I have talked about eventually moving back here though.

We love it here, low cost of living, good hiking, rivers for tubing, relaxing atmosphere, ect. But we don't want to limit ourselves so we are going to explore. I will have to say Elizabeth City isn't my favorite. I've visited a lot since one of my best friends moved down there for a little bit. The city wasn't that great in my opinion. So I would suggest going to Boone if you can help it. But I love the mountains.
Neither of us like Elizabeth City, but it's actually about 45 minutes from there in a rural area. EC is just the closest large town. With that being said, I like the mountains so much more than the beach and that area better, so we'll see!
Ok, I guess that is slight better ha. I live near Blacksburg VA, so I think it will be similar! Our winter was very cold this year but for the most part, we have four seasons. There are so many day hikes and trails around here. I feel like I've been spoiled. Plus our rent isn't too bad, it's only 600 a month. That got us a two bedroom surrounded by trees on a quite street. V and I split it so rent is actually 300. If you ever want suggestions for this area, let me know!
Cost of living would be cheaper near Boone for sure (as long as we aren't actually in Boone because it's a college town with high rent). We both like that area more and just hope the job offer would be as good, if not better than the one in EC.

emmaaa said:
Stuck in Box: Yeah I know what you mean. V and I go to a local college around here. But we live in this area all year round so we are kinda "townies". I think not being right in Boone will work out better for you guys. I'm not sure about your area, but on our street people like to set off fireworks a lot. So maybe take that into consideration if you guys are light sleepers.

jenna8984 · March 2015

@smiledamnit just caught your ticker- getting so close!!

emmaaa · March 2015

@SmileDamnit DH does like to golf although rarely has time right now. I just Googled that course and holy cow. It's gorgeous! I'll have to tell him to add that to our list to go play at!

lovemesomemonster · March 2015

I moved an 8hr drive from home to go to University, I hated the first year and wanted to move home, then I settled in and realized I loved the area I was in! After that I met a guy that grew up 2hrs from where we were going to school and we ended up staying in that area another couple of years after school. After he graduated (he's younger) we moved an 8hr drive from where we went to school and love our new area! For houses on the second move we packed all of our stuff into a POD and stored it while we lived in a fully furnished month to month rental and looked for a place to buy. It was about 3 months of hell but once we closed we love our house and it was worth it.

Personally I never want to move "home", I love my family and it's a quick flight to see them but I would rather live in and see other places. Good luck with the jobs!

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