NWR: Possibly moving

Blergbot · March 2015

My parents made it kinda easy on me. Right after I graduated from college they moved across the country. So no more "home" to go back to. I'm also no more than FB-friends with anyone I went to high school with. So I moved even further away. Still, living 2k miles away from my parents isn't always easy. But FaceTime makes it more bearable these days. I think it will be good for you to at least give living away for a few years a shot. It will broaden your horizons a bit, and then you can move back.

SmileDamnit · March 2015

jenna8984 said:
@smiledamnit just caught your ticker- getting so close!!

Lord have mercy on my soul (and sore back)...so close, yet so far

LadyMillil · March 2015

All of my family lives in the same rural area and no one has ever moved away. All of my friends moved about an hour away for school and moved back when they graduated. I moved 2.5 hours away for undergrad, 4 hours away for grad school, and now am several provinces away for my PhD. I hated the area I grew up in, and I'm not close to my family at all, so it wasn't a big deal for me to move away. I always get asked if I'll ever move back, but there are no jobs in my field there. The move across the country was the hardest. With the 2"5 and 4 hour moves, the places were close enough that I could take a weekend to check out apartments in person, and could rent a truck for moving. I was close enough that I could go back to my parents for weekends, and close enough that my parents could be there pretty soon if there was an emergency.

redwoodoriginal · March 2015

But guys, don't you know that only incredibly selfish people move away from home/their families?

So, I'm in the camp of moving for any reason, whether it be just because, for a job, school, a friend, an SO, whatever.

I grew up on the east coast, on LI. my half-siblings were already scattered (vancouver and charlotte), and one sibling went to college in NYC. I chose to go to school in RI- close enough for my parents to visit / go home if I had to, far enough away where I was happy not to feel the pressure of going home all the time like my NYC sibling. After college I moved to the midwest, mainly for my DH (BF at the time) and I got a job there, luckily.

Is moving to a city where you know no one (or just one person) hard? YEP. I struggled a lot making friends, with unemployment after a few months, and having left college where your friends are EVERYWHERE around you, but I figured it out.

Is moving far away from my parents and closest sibling hard? Not as much. Like someone said earlier, I have a better relationship with my family when there is some distance between us. Plus, my parents moved out of LI to NYC and retired, so they split their time between NYC and their home country. My closest sibling? She moved to said home country, so right now my family is scattered from South America to the midwest, to charlotte, NC, to vancouver, BC.

Do i miss my HS friends in NY? the house i grew up in we have no connection to anymore, and most of my friends have moved to NYC anyway. a lot of those friendships have faded, but the real ones don't matter the distance. plus, one of my bffs ended up moving to chicago about a year after i did, so that was pretty awesome and random. My college friends are all over the place. a die-hard NYC girl ended up in KANSAS, another one in KY, Cali, and one in South Africa, so it's not as big a deal to us as to others.

Plus, facetime/skype/gchat makes the world go round. communication is SO much easier nowadays.

And worst case, if you end up hating it, you could always move somewhere else next, or know that it's a limited time - I really think you can move anywhere for a year or 2, or 3 and make it work. ESP if you are with your SO.

mrscomposer · March 2015

When you join Canada's national police force, you have to sign a document stating you acknowledge that you could be posted anywhere in Canada. The unspoken understanding is that you WON'T be going back to your home province, although that's not a hard and fast rule and some people do.

I was posted two provinces away from my home, and a nine hour drive from my parents. The hardest part about it was that I was alone, basically in the middle of nowhere, living on a First Nations reserve. So it was pretty isolating. However, I knew it was just temporary, and I focused on the fact that it was really, REALLY good for my career - which this would be for your H. And, bonus, you're not by yourself

My parents moved four hours south of our hometown around five years ago, and where they are now has become our home base (even though they're about to move again). My sister moved down there and married a local boy, my brother moved with our parents and is growing into his own roots (he's about to finish college). They're never going to leave, so if I were to move 'home', it would be there (even though we're not planning on it). We're total small town people, and we still hang out with Mom & Dad's friend group from high school. Obviously not as often as if we all still lived in the same place, but we see them a few times a year. My two BFFs live in (or near) our hometown, and we just make it work... we're going home to visit my family in a few weeks, and the two of them are going to come down for the weekend.

My advice is, no matter where you go, even though you know it'll likely be temporary - set up as if you're going to stay there forever. Find a church, plant a garden, join clubs, put down roots. It'll make it feel like home, and it'll help you forget that you're not doing what you usually do with the people you usually do it with. And besides - 3 and 5 hours is an extremely easy weekend trip.

lovesclimbing · March 2015

I moved about 1,400 miles away to go to college where I met H. He moved about 900 miles or so away to go to college. We recently moved about 600 miles away from there to where we currently live.

I never plan to move back home. I don't mind going back to visit, but I don't want to live there again. H wouldn't mind living back where he grew up for at least a while but I'm not too keen on it.

For finding housing, we found a great Facebook page called X town rentals. We looked at a couple on there but the one we live in right now we actually found on Craigslist.

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