@Hummingbird125 - we actually have the opposite problem, FI wants to do this together and the reason he got so mad was because I went ahead (I contacted a venue and didn't tell him, because I was getting anxious about the budget and wanted to get a price estimate) and he felt like he had to catch up (and then pick me up).
@eilis1228 - it's definitely the most stressful, and I'm very money-conscious and have saved a lot in the past few years, so I don't want to see my hard-earned savings be wasted. I would rather spend it on a big trip or a down payment on a house than on 4 hours of my life.
Honestly, I think I needed that meltdown because it kind of cleared the air. I had so much stress and anxiety building up and I was able to let it all out. I feel sooo much better today. And one of the caterers for the one venue we wrote to yesterday called me this morning and FI seemed excited about looking over the menu - the caterer said we need to pick out what items we would want so he can give us an accurate estimate. And we found out some [potentially] awesome news yesterday. FI's dad is good friends with the father of one of the event coordinators at one of our top possible venues, so we're hoping his dad can call his friend and see if they can get us a discount.
@nycgal85 - Ugh, that's no fun I'll admit I got snippy with FI a couple times early in our planning when I felt like we had a ton of things that needed to be taken care of pretty quickly and he wasn't offering to take anything off my plate, but he's been super helpful the majority of the time. I'm glad that your meltdown cleared the air though, hopefully moving forward you and your FI can be on the same page and he'll feel like you're planning together.
I'm going to my parents' tonight to pick up a few things and my mom texted me that there are a whole bunch of RSVPs waiting for me! Woohoo!!
I am thankful that FI helps keep me grounded, because despite getting a ton done in the beginning, I now want to throw things when dealing with new vendors...
Like the sales lady for our hotel block. She takes forever to get back to us, and when I asked her what a part of the contract meant, she acknowledged that its confusing and they get questions about it all of the time and then still didn't clarify it for us. Dude, not signing if I don't know what it means, I shouldn't have to ask for clarification more than once. If FI hadn't already promised mentioned we were blocking a pet-friendly hotel I would have already signed with the people around the block. Ugh.
Re: Thankful Thursday
@nycgal85 - Ugh, that's no fun
I'll admit I got snippy with FI a couple times early in our planning when I felt like we had a ton of things that needed to be taken care of pretty quickly and he wasn't offering to take anything off my plate, but he's been super helpful the majority of the time. I'm glad that your meltdown cleared the air though, hopefully moving forward you and your FI can be on the same page and he'll feel like you're planning together.
I'm going to my parents' tonight to pick up a few things and my mom texted me that there are a whole bunch of RSVPs waiting for me! Woohoo!!
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