How solid were you on the RSVP deadline? My deadline is coming up (and for several important reasons, there is no changing it). However, VERY few guests have responded. It really ticks me off because I changed my entire reception (location and type) to accommodate "all of the guests" who were sooooo sure they would come. I feel like if I reach out to guests after the deadline they will turn around and RSVP "just because". But I have constantly stressed to invitees the importance of RSVP for a destination wedding.
FI just wants to keep the deadline and if you don't respond, we are making plans without you. He doesn't like the idea of "chasing guests" to attend. I agree with him to a certain extent. He feels like we gave everyone plenty of notice, we frequently stay in touch with everyone about the wedding, etc.
Budget is very important to me. I need to know exact numbers or I'm completely on edge. So if I'm having 17 guests or 70, it's a big deal to me. Especially because guest count makes a difference in our budget.
I guess I just need advice.