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Any truth (or tips) to saying it's your honeymoon for sweet perks?

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Re: Any truth (or tips) to saying it's your honeymoon for sweet perks?

  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    ashley8918 said:

    Dreamergirl8812 said:

     am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

    ashley8918 said:

    Maggie0829 said:

    We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.


    To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.
    Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.
    Lol, I'm perfectly calm, but thanks for your concern.

    You not finding something obnoxious doesn't actually matter since it's pretty subjective. I find little yappy dogs obnoxious, for example. You might not. THIS MAKES ME SO UNCALM.
    Too bad we could never be friends, then.  My little dogs talk to me all the time.




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  • blabla89blabla89 member
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    ashley8918 said:

    Dreamergirl8812 said:

    I am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

    ashley8918 said:

    Maggie0829 said:

    We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.


    To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.
    Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.
    Lol, I'm perfectly calm, but thanks for your concern.

    You not finding something obnoxious doesn't actually matter since it's pretty subjective. I find little yappy dogs obnoxious, for example. You might not. THIS MAKES ME SO UNCALM.
    When my neighbor comes around with her little yappy dog:

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  • ashley8918ashley8918 member
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    holyguacamole79 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    Dreamergirl8812 said:

     am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

    ashley8918 said:

    Maggie0829 said:

    We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.


    To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.
    Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.
    Lol, I'm perfectly calm, but thanks for your concern.

    You not finding something obnoxious doesn't actually matter since it's pretty subjective. I find little yappy dogs obnoxious, for example. You might not. THIS MAKES ME SO UNCALM.
    Too bad we could never be friends, then.  My little dogs talk to me all the time.
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  • ashley8918ashley8918 member
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    blabla89 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    Dreamergirl8812 said:

    I am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

    ashley8918 said:

    Maggie0829 said:

    We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.


    To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.
    Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.
    Lol, I'm perfectly calm, but thanks for your concern.

    You not finding something obnoxious doesn't actually matter since it's pretty subjective. I find little yappy dogs obnoxious, for example. You might not. THIS MAKES ME SO UNCALM.
    When my neighbor comes around with her little yappy dog:

    image
    YES. To be fair, a feel the same about especially yappy humans. AHEM, ONE PARTICULAR COWORKER.
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  • chloe97chloe97 member
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    I agree that it's harmless to ask for perks or upgrades because it's your honeymoon. It's no different than mentioning it's your birthday to get free dessert at a restaurant. People ask for free stuff/upgrades all the time for far lesser reasons. I'm sure resorts get it all the time and maybe will roll their eyes at you, but who cares?!? As long as you are treating them with respect- who cares what they think of you?

    I was actually wondering if it made sense for us to book our Greece honeymoon through a travel agent who could negotiate these perks on our behalf instead of trying to do it ourselves. Does anyone have an experience with this? Is it worth it?
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  • blabla89blabla89 member
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    ashley8918 said:

    blabla89 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    Dreamergirl8812 said:

    I am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

    ashley8918 said:

    Maggie0829 said:

    We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.


    To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.
    Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.
    Lol, I'm perfectly calm, but thanks for your concern.

    You not finding something obnoxious doesn't actually matter since it's pretty subjective. I find little yappy dogs obnoxious, for example. You might not. THIS MAKES ME SO UNCALM.
    When my neighbor comes around with her little yappy dog:

    image
    YES. To be fair, a feel the same about especially yappy humans. AHEM, ONE PARTICULAR COWORKER.
    The new girl in my department is one of those. And the rest of us are like image

    (can you tell I'm feeling giffy today? no work is getting done here.)
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  • ashley8918ashley8918 member
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    blabla89 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    blabla89 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    Dreamergirl8812 said:

    I am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

    ashley8918 said:

    Maggie0829 said:

    We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.


    To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.
    Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.
    Lol, I'm perfectly calm, but thanks for your concern.

    You not finding something obnoxious doesn't actually matter since it's pretty subjective. I find little yappy dogs obnoxious, for example. You might not. THIS MAKES ME SO UNCALM.
    When my neighbor comes around with her little yappy dog:

    image
    YES. To be fair, a feel the same about especially yappy humans. AHEM, ONE PARTICULAR COWORKER.
    The new girl in my department is one of those. And the rest of us are like image

    (can you tell I'm feeling giffy today? no work is getting done here.)
    YES. Mine is the same damn way. 
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  • plainjane0415plainjane0415 member
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    edited April 2015
    blabla89 said:

    katiekessler123 said:

    I think it's a pretty harmless thing to mention, especially if it somewhat naturally comes up. Worst thing that happens is nothing. Best thing that happens is you get an upgrade!  My husband was thrilled when we got upgraded to a huge suite and it set the tone for our whole honeymoon.  Wearing a bride tank top was totally worth that.

    Guess I better get on etsy and find me one of those...

    ETA: no work is getting done this afternoon.




    I found this one, that I think I'm going to have to purchase...

    ETA:  https://www.etsy.com/listing/213884972/bride-shirt-v-neck-gift-for-bride-to-be?ref=hp_mod_rf

     

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  • photokittyphotokitty mod
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    Honestly, I don't see where asking for perks anytime is obnoxious. What's the big deal? If the hotel has a room on the ocean side that's not being used rather than have it sit empty, they often prefer to upgrade you for free bc your good experience translates to repeat customer. Same thing with rental cars, hell they try to give you an upgrade half the time so you use more gas it seems. If they are a resort that caters to HMs, like Sandals it probably isn't going to work, but a Hilton in Florida it just might.

    Demanding perks bc it's your HM, or for any reason, is obnoxious. DH travels a lot for work and he gets all sorts of perks and upgrades bc he asks and they want to retain his loyalty. He never demands any, but he believes it never hurts to ask with a polite smile. 

    I on the other hand am always to embarrassed to ask, even when I should get something - like when the my plane was delayed (not bc of weather) and I had to go to another airport two hours away or stay over night. 
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  • charcoalandblushcharcoalandblush member
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    plainjane0415 said:

    blabla89 said:

    katiekessler123 said:

    I think it's a pretty harmless thing to mention, especially if it somewhat naturally comes up. Worst thing that happens is nothing. Best thing that happens is you get an upgrade!  My husband was thrilled when we got upgraded to a huge suite and it set the tone for our whole honeymoon.  Wearing a bride tank top was totally worth that.

    Guess I better get on etsy and find me one of those...

    ETA: no work is getting done this afternoon.




    I found this one, that I think I'm going to have to purchase...

    ETA:  https://www.etsy.com/listing/213884972/bride-shirt-v-neck-gift-for-bride-to-be?ref=hp_mod_rf

     


    That's super cute - I like it!

    We're not going on our honeymoon until 4 months after the wedding, but FMIL bought me a baseball cap that says "Bride"... I might have to wear that to the airport/resort.

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  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl member
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    If it were just a regular vacation, would you ask if any upgrades are aviable? If you say yes, you'd ask, then feel free to do so for your honeymoon. Just say "I was just wondering if there was anyway to upgrade my seat/room/food/ect?" even mention you're making it a special vacation because it's your honeymoon.

    But if you would never in a million years ask for an upgrade on a normal vacation, then why do you think your honeymoon is different? You got married, yes, that's exciting. But...lots of people get married. You aren't more entitled to upgrades because you're a newlywed then you were before you got married.
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    charcoalandblush said:

    plainjane0415 said:

    blabla89 said:

    katiekessler123 said:

    I think it's a pretty harmless thing to mention, especially if it somewhat naturally comes up. Worst thing that happens is nothing. Best thing that happens is you get an upgrade!  My husband was thrilled when we got upgraded to a huge suite and it set the tone for our whole honeymoon.  Wearing a bride tank top was totally worth that.

    Guess I better get on etsy and find me one of those...

    ETA: no work is getting done this afternoon.




    I found this one, that I think I'm going to have to purchase...

    ETA:  https://www.etsy.com/listing/213884972/bride-shirt-v-neck-gift-for-bride-to-be?ref=hp_mod_rf

     


    That's super cute - I like it!

    We're not going on our honeymoon until 4 months after the wedding, but FMIL bought me a baseball cap that says "Bride"... I might have to wear that to the airport/resort.

    I like that it's gold and sparkly.  I swear I'm 28 and not 5.
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  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl member
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    holyguacamole79 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    holyguacamole79 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    holyguacamole79 said:

    When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

    OP, I would suggest not doing this. Likely, they will just eye roll at your entitlement.
    I didn't see the eye roll, but I saw the jaccuzzi.  And damn it felt good.
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    Pretty much.  H got to eat some leftover dinner and I was all
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    You....were a hooker? You didn't kiss your husband on the mouth? You made him pay for it?

    I mean lets be real about this movie. Girlfriend gave blow jobs for cash.
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    MagicInk said:

    holyguacamole79 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    holyguacamole79 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    holyguacamole79 said:

    When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

    OP, I would suggest not doing this. Likely, they will just eye roll at your entitlement.
    I didn't see the eye roll, but I saw the jaccuzzi.  And damn it felt good.
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    Pretty much.  H got to eat some leftover dinner and I was all
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    You....were a hooker? You didn't kiss your husband on the mouth? You made him pay for it?

    I mean lets be real about this movie. Girlfriend gave blow jobs for cash.
    I'm full of surprises, aren't I?  ;)

    ETA:  And I still had a Walkman in 2013.  




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  • kvrunskvruns member
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    When we booked out HM they had a box to click or maybe write in for things like HM or anniversary if you were celebrating something special. They do a special HM/anniversary beach dinner each week and from reviews online they do special room decorations and a welcome bag so we put HM. For the plane we already paid for upgraded seats so nothing to ask for there. I'm not one to ask for upgrades or special treatment normally so I probably wouldn't bring it up anywhere else either
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
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    We got a pretty sweet room upgrade in one of our hotels. I personally see zero issues with asking for upgrades, just don't be crappy about it.
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  • WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
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    We DW'd our wedding and got nothing other than a sore arm carting my damn dress through airports. Those things are heavy.

    When booking a special dinner for our cruise HM, we were asked if we were celebrating anything, so I did out HM in the box. We got a free little cake and they sang a Happy HM song, which we could have done without. Nothing else though.

    I think it's much more of a movie thing, unless you're lucky

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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    I played the HM card at the airport, because they changed our seat assignments and had us sitting apart, for a 6 hour flight. It wasn't an upgrade, but at least they gave us seats together. 
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    MyNameIsNot said:

    I played the HM card at the airport, because they changed our seat assignments and had us sitting apart, for a 6 hour flight. It wasn't an upgrade, but at least they gave us seats together. 

    Ladies and gentleman, I give you air travel in 2015, where being able to sit with your travel companion constitutes a "perk."

    I don't think there's anything wrong with telling people it's your honeymoon.  I put it into the box for special requests/additional information when we were booking our hotels.  I'll also be asking for an upgrade at the airport (although I'll also indicate that we're willing to pay for it, since it's a redeye transatlantic flight to Europe and the chances that we'll get upgraded for free are slim to none).  There's nothing wrong with letting people know the reason that you are traveling, and often you will get at least a little extra perk.  It's DEMANDING and acting entitled to those perks that is tacky--especially big ones like first class international flights, presidential suites, etc.
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    I tend to always ask about perks and upgrades when I check in for flights and hotels. Generally I'm always very smiley and happy, so usually whomever is helping me is happy to do what they can (but they can't always do anything, which is fine).

    We got some free desserts during our HM, but the resort was a big HM destination, so we didn't get anything other than what they normally do.

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  • vulpiepopvulpiepop member
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    When we booked, we just mentioned that it's for our honeymoon and then mentioned it again when we got to the resort and they asked what the occasion for our stay was. They ended up giving us a free bottle of champagne, a little congratulations note, and a coupon for 25% off a couple's massage at their spa. It was awesome!

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    lovegood90 said:

    I think walking around with a "bride" shirt is more obnoxious than asking for upgrades. But that's just me, you do you, and all that jazz.

    Especially because you're not a bride anymore. You're a wife.
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    huskypuppy14 said:

    lovegood90 said:

    I think walking around with a "bride" shirt is more obnoxious than asking for upgrades. But that's just me, you do you, and all that jazz.

    Especially because you're not a bride anymore. You're a wife.
    I thought the airport on the way to the honeymoon is when people upgrade to their Mrs. BlahblahLastname bedazzled shirts??


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    holyguacamole79 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    Dreamergirl8812 said:

     am not the type to ask for free stuff, and we just paid ahead of time for first class and other upgrades, but it's far from "obnoxious" to try to get honeymoon perks. Calm yourself.

    ashley8918 said:

    Maggie0829 said:

    We never mentioned it was our HM unless specifically asked.  And we were rarely, if at all, asked.


    To me a HM is a vacation and I don't really see why people deserve special treatment and freebies for something that thousands of people do on a daily basis, which is get married.
    Yes, this. Don't be obnoxious.
    Lol, I'm perfectly calm, but thanks for your concern.

    You not finding something obnoxious doesn't actually matter since it's pretty subjective. I find little yappy dogs obnoxious, for example. You might not. THIS MAKES ME SO UNCALM.
    Too bad we could never be friends, then.  My little dogs talk to me all the time.
    Shucks, you guys were THIS CLOSE to being besties.
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    holyguacamole79 said:

    holyguacamole79 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    holyguacamole79 said:

    ashley8918 said:

    holyguacamole79 said:

    When you make reservations, there is often a section for comments; put it there.  On our wedding night, we got upgraded to a whirlpool suite..  We got room service dessert on our actual honeymoon.  We also put it in our online dinner reservations recently for our 2nd anniversary, and we got free desserts at both restaurants.  

    OP, I would suggest not doing this. Likely, they will just eye roll at your entitlement.
    I didn't see the eye roll, but I saw the jaccuzzi.  And damn it felt good.
    image
    Pretty much.  H got to eat some leftover dinner and I was all
    image
    You....were a hooker? You didn't kiss your husband on the mouth? You made him pay for it?

    I mean lets be real about this movie. Girlfriend gave blow jobs for cash.
    I'm full of surprises, aren't I?  ;)

    ETA:  And I still had a Walkman in 2013.  


    I found mine a box last year. Yaaas.
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  • sophhabobophasophhabobopha member
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    I don't think i ever hurts to ask. :)
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    We didn't and I wouldn't.  

    First off, on airplanes the chance of getting an upgrade like the couple in front of Monica and Chandler did is zero to none.

    We also stayed at B n' B's, so there's not really much room for upgrades there.

    We did get an upgrade on our rental car.  We walked up, said we had a reservation and the guy at the counter was making small talk and asked what brought us there.  We said it was our honeymoon and he said "Oh, well, hmm, it looks like the only thing we have left in the back lot *wink* is this red Camaro" so we got a red Camaro for the prize of a small car.

    Finally, I will say people get upgrades for really random things sometimes. I worked at a tourist hotel for a summer (it was owned by a tour company). I was a front desk clerk and I remember the front desk manager giving someone an upgraded room because they were from the same town as she was.

    That being said, a lot of the fancy upgrades depend on how much you're already spending. If you're already paying for a huge suite, you're more likely to get other little perks.  When I worked for the hotel, it was for a chain that did land and ocean tour packages.  We had one really fancy suite in the whole hotel. Everybody on the tours paid the same price for the land tour portion, which paid for a basic room. We always gave the fancy suite to a person in the group who had booked the biggest fanciest room on the cruise ship during the cruise portion of the tour.
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