I've been "invited" to a baby-shower for a couple (new in-law cousins) who are also soon-to-be-married.
I received NO invite, paper or electronic. I was invited by word-of-of-mouth by my mother-in-law.
I was informed that bringing a package of diapers would enter me into some kind of drawing I don't care about. My husband thought this was cool, bless him, and brought home some diapers for me to gift... fine. We also have a baby shampoo gift for them, and the name of the shampoo is a play on their last name, which we think is clever.
Anyway, that's the setup, here are my questions:
I haven't been invited to the wedding... which I honestly am not going to take offense to, having just gone through the agony of trimming down a wedding guest list myself. However, the juxtaposition of this shower to the wedding... KIND of makes it feel like a wedding shower. I'm wrong here, aren't I? I should take this as a BABY shower only, and not be offended if I'm not invited to wedding, right? I AM a bit offended, but I think that may just be my annoyance at a lack of invitation yet a solicitation by proxy for gifts.
I'm mildly annoyed that I wasn't directly invited. I've been asked to attend a shower, which is essentially a request for gifts, for a good cause. Yet I've never actually met this couple in person -- EXCEPT very briefly at my own wedding a few months ago (he is husband's cousin). They can't bother to send me an invitation, but they can bother my mother-in-law to ask me to come and give them gifts? Erm. Ok. Guess I shouldn't expect any thank you notes...
Am I being really petty? I'm not terribly excited to go. What should I do? Should this be considered as a wedding shower, or not?