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BLAH Monday

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Couldn't think of a better title, and I'm feeling BLAH, so today is BLAH Monday :/

I had an OK weekend, didn't do anything Easter related, just worked and did tons of homework because earlier in the week I was busy and then had other issues but I managed to get it all done before the due date yayyy!

My new asthma/allergy meds make me extremely tired which is no good because I just want to drink coffee all day which is no help whatsoever. I know I have to get used to it but these initial days are so frustrating.

BF left for the Outer Banks, NC on Saturday morning and I miss him! I know it's only been a couple days but still lol. I'm meeting him down there on Wednesday and today and tomorrow just need to hurry up!

When I was having that massive asthma attack on Thursday night I was up all night because I couldn't treat it I just had to let it pass, and I had a lot of time to think. I decided not to take my friend's job offer after all. There are a lot of reasons why, but it really all comes down to the fact that I am currently in low-level management, I want to move up and eventually run a company and I really want my resume to reflect that. If I left this job for a job with no title (or no job since it pays under the table) that doesn't pay significantly higher than my current one (it went from being twice as much to me just taking home about $50 extra a week because the insurance would have been so high) I would expect a hiring manager to look at my resume and wonder why. SOOO I am still looking for a new job, that is one thing that I realized I need to do actively, but I have a clearer idea of what I want now.

Speaking of work, my boss took me aside yesterday and told me that one of the other supervisors complained about me and I asked what about and she had no idea. He gave no specifics on what I did wrong or didn't do at all, so there's no way for me to fix the problem? She basically said she's not taking the complaint seriously since he couldn't give specifics and just to be extra conscious of what I'm doing. OOKKKAAYYYY....So I'm just like whatever, and last night I sarcastically said to a coworker "God forbid I forget one little thing!" and he goes "yeah I don't know why everyone is always so critical of you." So now it's all coming together. Whenever the target of everyone's complaints leaves, in this case our ASM was transferred out less than two months ago, there's a new target. I guess it's me. I gotta get out of there STAT!
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  • @untouchablets I don't think I would have taken that job either for only $50 more a week and not being able to further your career. That stinks. I'd be looking for a job ASAP too. I don't think your boss should have even said anything to you without any specific complaints. I hope you find a new job soon!

    Friday was FI's birthday and I had made reservations for dinner at a Mexican restaurant and invited his friends but didn't tell him any of this. So the morning of his birthday I just told him we had dinner at 8 but he could do whatever he wanted the rest of the day. He tells me he doesn't want Mexican. Of course you don't because I actually tried to surprise you with something. So I had to tell him that I invited his friends to meet us there. I tried to change our reservation to a different restaurant that he said he wanted to go to but they weren't taking any. So we ended up going to the Mexican place anyways even though then I was bummed that he didn't really want to go. He's been such a diva lately and it's annoying me. We went out for drinks after that.
    It was also my best friend's birthday this week so I was supposed to go out with her on Saturday but she didn't end up feeling like going out and I was so relieved to be able to stay in!

    Yesterday Easter was at my cousin's house but my aunt and grandmother weren't feeling well so they stayed home. So I just went to their house to see them and have dinner with them and I ate way too much food. I still have a food baby. Then when I got home FI and I started sealing and stamping our invites. We'll have to finish them tonight. Then I'll be sending them out by the end of the week!
     




  • It's Monday and blah is right.  I had such a good weekend.  Friday I had off relaxed and ran a few errands.  I got some good sleep too, which was so helpful.  On Saturday H & I binge watched Game of Thrones to get read for the new season starting this weekend.  H finally went car shopping this weekend he just looked but didn't test drive but I am so glad he is finally looking.  We also went mattress shopping, we really want to upgrade to a King, it's more of a want than a need.  We found two we really like but aren't sure when we will upgrade though.

    Yesterday was fun we did brunch with my side of the family.  It was great to see everyone.  Then went to see H's side of the family for dinner.  It was a fun time with lots of good food. I just have a feeling this will be a long dragging week.  I can't wait for Friday already. 

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  • This weekend was pretty busy for us!

    Friday I stayed home from work.  I woke up at normal time with my alarm clock, but I had the hugest headache and stuffed up head/nose.  I emailed my bosses and went back to bed.  I got up around 9:00 and ran to the grocery store before it got too busy (Good Friday, grocery stores are nuts) and then went back to bed for a little bit.  That evening we went to a birthday party for one of H's uncles.  It was fun, he was really surprised and 2 of his sisters came from Mexico and he had no idea they were there!

    Friday night I ran a fever and sweated ALL NIGHT LONG.  I finally went to sleep around 5:30 AM and got up around 8:00 AM.  First thing I did when I got up was stick the sheets in the wash.  Ugh, gross.

    Saturday I cleaned the house, made lemon bars for Easter, went to our kids' festival at church for a while, came home, took a nap, and had Italian out with a couple girl friends.  I ran a fever on and off all day, but besides that and feeling achy, I didn't have any other complaints.  No idea!

    Sunday I got up at 6:30 AM (ugh!) to start making homemade rolls for lunch.  I worked out, showered and got ready for church.  After church we had lunch.  The rolls were good, but they sat out to rise for too long (church went over!) so they weren't as fluffy as normal.  Oh well, every liked them anyway.

    I ate way too much yesterday.  Blehhhhh.
  • @untouchablets I don't think I would have taken that job either for only $50 more a week and not being able to further your career. That stinks. I'd be looking for a job ASAP too. I don't think your boss should have even said anything to you without any specific complaints. I hope you find a new job soon!

    My boss and I have worked together for as long as I've been with the company, she actually hired me and then we both left our original store and moved to new ones, and then she came to manage mine over a year later, so we have a very close and trusting bond with each other that the others in the store don't have. She knows me very well and her opinion is all I really care about because she is always straight forward and honest me, not vague like this apparent complaint was. I know her intentions of telling me were to look out for me and she didn't want others to accuse her of not doing HER job if she didn't bring it up. It's so stupid. I never go to work to complain and gossip and start drama, even when other supervisors don't fully do their jobs I never really complain because it's not a big deal. I just take care of it and move on. Apparently I'm the only one who feels that way lol.
  • Monday is definitely blah for me too. It's all grey here and might snow later (UGH!) and I feel like I have a million things on my mind.

    This weekend was mostly good but busy. Thursday night I ran a couple errands and then went over to my parents' house; our family cat hadn't been well and lost a lot of weight since Christmas, had a bunch of bad days last week and he was really not well Thursday. They'd taken him to the vet and there wasn't really anything they could do so my parents made an appointment to take him back on Saturday and have him put to sleep. I'm really glad I went on Thursday night, because he was definitely going downhill fast, and my mom texted me Friday morning that he was way worse when they woke up and they'd taken him to an emergency clinic and put him to sleep. I'm sad that he's gone :(

    Good Friday is a stat holiday here, so I was off work. Friday morning we had church and a family lunch with FI's family. FI and I went to see Furious 7 Friday afternoon and it was exactly as ridiculous as we expected.

    Saturday FI went to hockey and then made me breakfast, and we ran a bunch of errands. Home Depot is having a big appliance sale so we ended up buying our washer and dryer this weekend! They're being delivered to our house a few days after we close, so we don't have to worry about storing them. We were going to buy our flooring as well, but the guy in that department said that because Friday was a holiday everything was backed up in receiving so they didn't have enough boxes available for us. I think FI is going to get it this week, so it's done and ready to be installed. We also looked at some bathroom ideas and some of their light fixtures, just to get ideas. I really don't know how long our ensuite is going to last, I think FI is already planning the reno in his head! Took care of a few WR errands on Saturday too, and then went and had dinner with my family.

    Yesterday was church and nap time and then back to church. FI and I did some wedding stuff in between, but we need to finish reviewing our contracts to make sure we know when we have to make all of our payments this month.

    Tonight we're meeting with our photographer/videographer. We're taking them to see to chapel and then we have our second 'consultation' to nail down some details for the day-of. I'm excited to see our chapel again!!

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    @untouchablets I'm sorry someone said something about you to your boss. That sounds so weird and out of the blue. At least your boss seems to have your back!

    @lavenderfields13 I'm sorry your surprise for your FI didn't go as well as you had hoped. That's so annoying!!

    @southernpeach89 When will Baby Peach become BABY GUAC???

    My weekend was fun. Friday night I went out for dinner and drinks with H, my parents, and @southernpeach89. My mom wanted to see her high school buddy's band play at some dive bar, so we were there for the first set and my sister and I were HIGHLY entertained with the drunk people trying to do their 80s dance moves. There were a couple really good dancers, and the rest were just ridiculous. @southernpeach89 and I will have joke fodder for weeks now.

    Saturday was H's birthday. I woke him up and sang Happy Birthday to him and then gave him his surprise - VIP tickets to a pro soccer match for that evening. We had so much fun (too much fun in H's case)! The game ended with a tie unfortunately (the Atlanta team pulled a really stupid move in the last 30 seconds of stoppage time). But our VIP tickets got us a free (delicious!) meal and two free drinks and we were able to convince the bar tenders to give us additional drinks for free as long as we tipped them a few dollars.

    Yesterday we celebrated Easter and H's birthday with my family. I made crock pot mac n cheese, deviled eggs, and brussel sprouts and my mom made scalloped potatoes, ham, and a peach cobbler for dessert. Everything was SO delicious! I really just want to go back to bed though. I'm exhausted.



  • I'm really tired.  This weekend was a bit of a wash and I can tell I really need this vacation coming up.  It didn't help that I had a meltdown last night.  TMI alert - My hormones are all over the place since coming off the pill.  The fact that AF hasn't made an appearance in months (and no, I'm not preggers) isn't helping.  H and I had discussions about that, my family, money, life insurance, the new business he is trying to start and all the stressful things this weekend so I don't feel like I got any break.  He's since apologized for dumping on me this weekend but I'm seriously thinking of taking a 1/2 day because I'm just wiped.  Sorry, I'm whiny today.  
  • I hate Mondays. My hormones are all over the place today and I'm feeling especially emotional. Lately around my period (which is supposed to start tomorrow) I've been feeling pretty depressed. Not really sure why this is happening since it's never been the case until a couple months ago.

    Anyway, I was supposed to have the afternoon off today which would have been great because there's a bunch of errands I need to run that I just didn't have time for this weekend. But I just got an e-mail from my boss saying that due to staffing I don't have the afternoon off any more. Just another thing that makes me want to leave this job.



  • I'm also blah today. 

    I've been feeling kind of crappy lately (basically all symptoms of PMS and/or pregnancy) and since I don't get a period, I decided it was time to POAS. (spoiler alert: it was negative)

    My weekend overall was good. H didn't make the shot on Friday night -- the hole was literally puck-sized. I drank a good amount at the game and woke up not happy on Saturday especially because I had to go to the DMV that morning. I was there too long and missed WW so no weigh-in for me a again this week. I snuggled with the pup and watched more of The Fall when I got home then cleaned and my parents came for the night. We had a nice dinner out and went to be fairly early. Yesterday, we all went to brunch by my house and met my aunt, uncle, and cousins there. It was a really nice day! The weather yesterday was perfection. 

    I started oil cleansing! I've done it twice since my oils came on Saturday and I'm liking it so far! 



  • @southernpeach89 - What baby stuff did you get in your Easter basket? 

    @minskat30 - I think you should take a full day!

    @lmcooper86 - I'm so sorry about your cat.  :(  hugs!!

    @Swazzle - What oils did you get?  PC?
  • Friday after I got off work, I tried to go to the grocery store - it was too crazy so I left without buying anything.  H was off and had cleaned a good portion of the day, there was still quite a bit to do in the rooms, so when he went to poker, I finished cleaning them and re-arranging them.

    Saturday - I had some errands to run.  After we got home, I put away the groceries and started making bread and doing laundry.  Between baking bread and laundry and keeping up on cleaning the kitchen after each of the bread making steps - there wasn't much time to do anything else. It was Italian Easter Bread that I made.  I made the dough for kolachki and it needed to be refrigerated for 2+ hours, so we went out for dinner.  When we got home, I finished making the kolachki (I've never made them before, they turned out delicious).

    Sunday - Easter; all morning we went back and forth with H's family on they wanted to play left-right-center but didn't know how many games; lotto tickets vs dollars, etc.  We ended up deciding on 5 games using lotto tickets.  H's family's house was pretty non-eventful for once, BIL and his GF brought their dog, but at least she's starting to calm down a little bit (or maybe it was just that the weather was nice so we kept putting her outside in the dog run area).

    Over the weekend, I had bought a 5-day nutrisystem kit, so I'm TRYING it.  I don't know if I'll like it or be able to even stick to the diet they lay out for you.  I had the oatmeal so far - it was actually good.  I brought the tuna salad for lunch and a few other fruits/veggies that were suggested in the book for snacks.


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  • @untouchablets I'm glad your boss has your back! Hopefully you can get to the bottom of this soon.

    @bethsmiles I would be PISSED if I got like 5 hours notice that I had to work more than originally planned. I can't believe your job is constantly changing your schedule like that. UGH. I'm sorry :(

    @southernpeach89 GUAC FOR EVERYONE!!!

    @CocoBellaF Sounds like you have the cold that's been going around. I had it last week. I hope you feel better today!

    @lmcooper86 Awww I love that you have so many exciting things in your life right now. It sounds like the house is coming along wonderfully, and you're right at the 1 month mark for your wedding. BEST SPRING EVER!

    @labro Yay! I'm glad you guys had a great time at the soccer game. It sounds like the VIP tickets were a success!

    @minskat30 Aw, I'm sorry you had such a rough weekend. :( Hormones are so crazy, and then when you add in financial stress, it's just a bad combo. I hope you're able to take time off this afternoon to relax. <3

    @lavenderfields13 I'm sorry your FI was originally resistant to the restaurant you picked, but it sounds like you guys had a lot of fun! Also, TWO MONTHS! Yay!
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    Oh man, I ate like a pig this weekend. I'm totally detoxing this week. Wow. 

    FI is currently at his interview RIGHT THIS SECOND. I'm so excited for him. He studied all last night and even wrote down answers for some basic questions so he would have an answer memorized. He's so cute. I told him to call me immediately after. I really hope they love him and schedule the second interview ASAP. 

    My mom and her friend officially put a deposit down at a venue for my shower, and it's been scheduled for June 7. Two months! I need to go shopping lol. There's a bit of drama because my MOH has a wedding in a different city that same day, and her BF is in the wedding. I told her I won't be upset if she's unable to make it to my shower, but she's currently feeling torn about it. I believe she's planning a smaller couple's shower/party this summer, so it's really no big deal. Obviously I want her at my shower since I think of her as a sister, but I completely understand that she's got something else planned that day, and my wedding is not the center of her universe. 

    Anywho, other than that, not too much to report. This weekend was really low key. I ate a ton of junk food, I knitted and watched Friends, and FI studied a lot. We went to Easter lunch with my family yesterday at country club in my hometown, and FILs joined us. Afterwards everyone went back to my grandmother's to play cards for a few hours. It was really nice to visit with everyone, and a bunch of people told us they got our Save the Date and had it up on their fridges. 

    This next weekend we've scheduled cake tastings, so I'm really looking forward to Saturday. I think it's going to be the highlight of planning a wedding lol. 

    Time to get back to work. Tons to do this week! Hope you all have a great Monday!




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    @TwoDimes Our youngest sister's dog gets carsick sometimes. Now she gives him Benadryl to make him sleepy before a long trip. I'm sorry Indy was sick all over your car! :( At least she was a good girl all weekend long!



  • "I hate the moon" is not a complaint. "I hate the moon because it shines in my room at night while I am trying to sleep" is a complaint. I agree with PP, your boss shouldn't have said anything when neither of you can fix it. Even if you have a good relationship with her, there was no grounds for said complaint other than fill you with sadness and giving you whiplash from checking your back every now and then at work to make sure there is no knife.

    My weekend...well..I sorta want a re-do. Do you ever feel like that? I feel like all I did was work or run around. Friday I worked my normal job in the morning and then went into the restaurant to cover my brother's shift. After that, I ran an errand for the restaurant, went home, ate, went back to drop off the supplies I bought for the restaurant and then home and basically went to bed not long after.

    Saturday I had to work at the restaurant again. I felt like I had some icky allergies or something but they weren't bad. Went home to get ready so BF and I could enjoy a nice dinner at fancier restaurant and then went home and basically to bed since I was exhausted. Sunday I woke up feeling like ass. Turns out I have a cold. Went to my parent's house for Easter where my mom, sister and I all get to play Cinderella and clean up after the ingrates who join us. Went home, went to bed. Yea....be jealous of my excitement....lol

    @Swazzle what is an oil cleanse? I have never heard of it.

    @Imcooper86 I am sorry for your loss :(

     

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  • @lmcooper86 sorry to hear about your family cat :( Yesterday was the first time being at my aunt's since she put her cat down and it was weird without her being there. There's still 1 dog and three cats there though so there's always something going on!

    @eilis1228 I hope your FI's interview goes great! 
    Almost at the 2 month mark, I know. It's crazy, like how did this happen??
     




  • @eilis1228 - Woo-hoo, shopping!!  LOFT.com has their 50% off and free shipping online sale right now.  JUST SAYING.  :)  Oh, and I just wanted to let you know that I am totally crashing your wedding.  SORRY NOT SORRY.


  • @eilis1228 - I know, it's a bitch. I should have just said I had already made plans because I was told I was off. But it will be nice to get the over-time this weekend. They always try to give us an afternoon off when we are scheduled to work Saturday so they don't have to pay anyone over-time to work on the weekend. I feel like every week something happens at this job that makes me more motivated to find another one!


  • @CocoBellaF - I got castor oil and jojoba oil. 

    @TwoDimes - YES. VERY WHEW! 

    @Loves2Dream - Rather than washing your face with soap, you massage oil onto it and then wipe it off with a damp washcloth. It removes dirt and makeup in the process. 



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    @lmcooper86 I'm sorry you ahd to put the family cat down :-(

    @southernpeach89 that is so cute you got some baby things for easter!!!

    @labro the VIP soccer things sounded like a lot of fun.

    @minskat30 sorry about the hormones and irregular cycles.  It can be so frustrating.  If you need to vent I am here to listen

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  • "I hate the moon" is not a complaint. "I hate the moon because it shines in my room at night while I am trying to sleep" is a complaint. I agree with PP, your boss shouldn't have said anything when neither of you can fix it. Even if you have a good relationship with her, there was no grounds for said complaint other than fill you with sadness and giving you whiplash from checking your back every now and then at work to make sure there is no knife.

    I like that you said all of this. Thank you! You're right, I shouldn't feel like I am always looking over my shoulder, but even if that's the case I can definitely handle myself. These people are teenagers, or just very immature, and I know their non-complaints hold no water. They just wanna talk and gossip and play the blame game, and they're insecure. Until I find a new job I'll just be doing my job to the best of my ability and if they don't like something they can talk to me (but they probably wont, they'll just text our boss on her day off about whatever it is that is bothering them that day).
  • @untouchablets AAAhhhhhh....High school drama.....yea, good plan then! I would totally laugh it off then too. Might play a game or two here and there with them just to keep things interesting. :)
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  • @lavenderfields13 - Ugh, I'm sorry your FI was being a diva. That was super nice of you to surprise him, though! I'm over trying to surprise my BF because he always asks too many questions.

    @CocoBellaF - My allergies can make me feverish/sweaty at night. I hate waking up and feeling so gross, especially if you still have to fall back asleep for a while! I'm sorry you haven't been feeling great.

    @lmcooper86 - Yay for a washer and dryer! What brand did you end up with? When I say I can't wait for my own house, a big chunk of me just can't wait for my own appliances, and not the crappy ones that came with the rental.

    @minskat30 - Whine away! I totally get it. Go home, take a rest, you deserve it.

    @bethsmiles - Omg, fuck that noise. I'm sorry that your job has been such a pain in the ass for you.

    @TwoDimes - You are one positive lady! I wish I could have a trip like that and still come out calling it okay, haha. Or at least not drink myself into oblivion.

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    Boyfriend and I had a rough weekend, but managed to not break up, haha. Maybe we should have quit smoking at different times, because we were both pretty moody. Neither of us was willing to laugh off anything. So we slept friday and saturday night not touching, and "mad" at each other, although I don't think either of us really knew what we were mad about.

    Despite our moodiness, I had a great time with my parents visiting. My mom brought us a bunch of wine, because her enormous wine rack at home is getting too full. They buy more than they can drink. The beer and wine festival was awesome. I've had a cold all weekend, and I can't tell if it's my body reacting to the lack of cigarettes, or allergies, or a mix of the two. All I know is, I've been in a CONSTANT state of needing to sneeze for 3 days straight, and that is definitely not helping my moodiness.

    Also, my mom didn't try and clean ANYTHING. ;)

  • @AlPacina - I think we all have those rough weekends. I had an overly emotional blow up at BF this weekend over the stupidest thing! I apologized a lot but I still felt bad for getting so upset. Thankfully, with those types of things you probably won't even remember it happened in a month.



  • @CocoBellaF -My mom gave us a really cute lion rattle, a couple hats and mittens, shampoo/lotion samples for the diaper bag, hangers, and wipes.

    DH's mom went to this really fancy baby boutique and got us a really soft blanket, another rattle, a security blanket that looks like Maddux, and a little wooden toy that has a bunch of rings on it. It looks like it could be for teething.
  • @bethsmiles - You're exactly right. I'm pretty sure that I only remember two fights out of our entire relationship, and those were the nights we ended up talking a lot, making up, and falling asleep in each others arms. It's the fights where someone is obviously just hormonal/tired/moody/whatever and doesn't want to back down that seem so stupid the next day...... At least you apologized. Some people are too stubborn. I think learning to apologize was one of those things that made me go "Hey, maybe I'm an adult now!"

  • Morning, all!

    FI and I had church Thursday evening, Friday evening, and Sunday morning for sunrise service. Could the sun rise an hour later next Easter, please? 7 a.m. is not my prime time (or his).

    Otherwise I wrote another dissertation chapter this weekend - puts me up to 4 done! I'm planning 8 total so I'm about halfway done. We put more stuff away and did some more housework. Sunday we spent the day with my parents and finished scoring and assembling the programs. I added ribbon to the place cards (and ran out of orange ... can't find more right now, but I'm hoping more comes in this week). This morning we picked up the marriage license!

    Tonight I will work on more dissertation chapters. I think I'll write the introduction next - hey, no one said I had to write it in any logical order, just that it had to be logical at the end.
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    @KeptInStitches- Congrats on being half-way done with your dissertation!


  • @dignity100 - i did nutrisystem in 2012 and lost about 25 lbs. it really worked for me bc i was single so i didnt really have to keep anything in the house except nutrisystem foods. i liked most of the meals, too. i have bought the 5 day packs but i always get derailed by life. good luck! keep us posted!

    @alpacina - we've all had those weekends. but youre right, the stupid fights usually pass quickly and dont do any real damage. over the winter BF and i were bickering a LOT....i think it had to do with being cooped up in a 400 sq ft apt with 100" of snow outside. now that its spring-y we arent bickering nearly as much. he  credits it to both of us working out too, which could be true. either way, dont stress about those stupid fights. they dont mean anything.

    BF was off all weekend which was awesome! we were busy all weekend, which was nice (lots of family and friend time) but i would have liked more "lay on the couch with BF" time. luckily we have a weekend away in 3 weeks where it will be all about being lazy. saturday we went to Passover seder (BFs first!) and he met all my extended family. it went really well and everyone had a great time. yesterday we spent the afternoon day drinking and stuffing our faces with BFs friends. both nights we  were so full and drunk we passed out by 10pm.

    i just want today to be OVER. im tired and today is just dragging.....and after work i have to go out for a little while with some reps from Google. blah! i just want to hibernate on my couch and watch Bravo. why do i have to be a real person???
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