I never thought I would be one of those people who had problems having children. I always assumed I would decide I wanted a baby, then I would have one. Case closed. It always seemed so simple on TV and in movies.
Then, when I got older and my friends started having kids, I started to realize it wasn't necessarily as easy as it seemed. Then my sister had 2 losses back to back. Then I had an Ectopic which resulted in emergency surgery. The whole experience not only scared the crap out of me, but it also made my future seem so murky. Being on these boards makes me realize HOW MANY people have problems (and this is The Knot, it isn't even The Bump!).
I was out of work for a week and I decided to tell people (aside from a few very close friends) that I had to get my appendix removed because I wasn't ready to tell the truth. But H encouraged me to tell the truth- that it isn't something I should be ashamed of. In a way, I agree with him. I feel like if more people openly discussed fertility issues, it would be easier on so many people. But I also am just not there yet and would prefer to lie if people ask.
We aren't telling his family and only a small handful of my local friends know. As far as everyone else is concerned, I was never pregnant. It seems crappy to hide stuff like that from people I care about, but I don't want to field questions.
So here is the point of this post- IRL, how many of you are so free to discuss what is happening? Do you think it is something you are ready to face publicly?