Address format: Unmarried couple living together where boyfriend is a doctor

Re: Address format: Unmarried couple living together where boyfriend is a doctor

• Jen4948 member

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  
  As far as I know it is

  
  

  Dr. James Smith

  Ms. Jane Doe.

  
  

  I looked on Crane's but it doesn't list how to address doctors or when the couple isn't married.  Maybe @CMGragain knows.
  

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  April 2015

  I am not sure of the 100% correct way, but I feel like you can never go wrong listing the woman first.

  
  

  I think more people will find offence to having their titles/names spelled incorrectly as opposed to if they are listed first or second.

  
  

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• dresdendoll member

  

  April 2015

  Jen4948 said:

  
  As far as I know it is

  
  

  Dr. James Smith

  Ms. Jane Doe.

  
  

  I looked on Crane's but it doesn't list how to address doctors or when the couple isn't married.  Maybe @CMGragain knows.
  

  
  

  I've been using this Crane's blog post to figure out the address format but it only lists cases where the couple is married and one or both are doctors. I followed that post's guideline on spelling out the doctor title.

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• dresdendoll member

  

  April 2015

  Maggie0829 said:

  I am not sure of the 100% correct way, but I feel like you can never go wrong listing the woman first.

  
  

  I think more people will find offence to having their titles/names spelled incorrectly as opposed to if they are listed first or second.

  That's kinda what I was thinking too.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  April 2015

  dresdendoll said:

  Maggie0829 said:

  I am not sure of the 100% correct way, but I feel like you can never go wrong listing the woman first.

  
  

  I think more people will find offence to having their titles/names spelled incorrectly as opposed to if they are listed first or second.

  That's kinda what I was thinking too.

  So was I.

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• bellefemme12 member

  

  April 2015

  I would list the woman first because that is who you are close to…For my STDs, I did not use any titles.  I'm dreading having to use titles for the formal invitations, b/c I have a lot of doctor friends who live with their significant others and married doctor couples where the woman hyphenated her last name.  

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• CMGragain member

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  bellefemme12 said:

  I would list the woman first because that is who you are close to…For my STDs, I did not use any titles.  I'm dreading having to use titles for the formal invitations, b/c I have a lot of doctor friends who live with their significant others and married doctor couples where the woman hyphenated her last name.  

  The bolded is irrelevant.  I would list the woman first because it is customary.  To address a letter (or invitation) to an unmarried couple, this is the usual form:
  
  Ms. Jane Smith
  Doctor John Jones
  Address
  City, State Zip
  
  For couples where both are doctors, and have hyphenated their surnames,
  "The Doctors Smith-Jones" is correct.
  
  For a married couple with hyphenated last names, "Mr. and Mrs. Smith-Jones".
  
  For most marries couples, it is either Mr. and Mrs. John Jones (traditional), or
   "Ms. Jane Jones and Mr. John Jones" (non-traditional).
  
  The title "Doctor" can be easily substituted for either Mr., Mrs. or Ms.
  

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  April 2015

  Does "Doctor" have to to be spelled out?
  
  I've always seen it abbreviated.

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• CMGragain member

  

  April 2015

  It should be spelled out on a formal wedding invitation and on the outer envelope, but it is no big deal to abbreviate it on the outer envelope.  It must be written out on the inner envelope, if you are using one.
  

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  April 2015

  I'm going to go with listing her first. The reason why is she is your friend, he is being invited because he is a SO. If they were to break up, she would still be invited and my guess is, he wouldn't be.

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• bellefemme12 member

  

  April 2015

  Nowadays, I feel like people list the person they are closest to first when they address an invitation to a couple.  Be it correct, etiquette wise, I do not know, but I see it more and more…and I understand why.  

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