My fiancé and I have been together for 7 years and engaged
for 2. I’ve known from the start that his mother was a difficult person; she
has emphysema and uses it as a guilt trip on his family whenever/however
possible. Since his parents moved to FL 3 years ago the relationship with his
mother has gotten harder, we are in PA and can only afford to visit once a
year, which is not nearly good enough for her. Every year that trip is ruined
when she decides to drink heavily the last night and claim she is on the brink
of death and no one cares about her.
At the beginning of our engagement she was very happy, eager
to hear the details and give her opinions. We were happy she wanted to be
involved. All that has changed. Now about 6months from the wedding, all wedding
talk with my fiancés parents has come to a halt. They either completely ignore
his texts (they refuse to talk on the phone so all conversation is via text),
or they will change the subject. Apparently that’s how they have always handled
situations in their house, just ignore it.
We have come to the conclusion that we will receive no financial
help from them and we are okay with that because the important thing is having
them present. Well my FMIL in her drunken stoopers will text my fiancé about
how she can’t make the trip up here because her emphysema is so bad (which it’s
not as bad as she says, the doctors have even said that). Every solution we
have found to get her up here she shoots down. I’m just about done attempting
to talk with her about the wedding but my fiancé doesn’t want to give up. Does
anyone, by any shot in the dark, have some advice? If his parents do not come,
I know he will be heartbroken on our wedding day.
Thanks for all your help.