Postponing your honeymoon.

lunardaydreaming · November 2014

Hello everyone! My fiance and I are getting married October 3, 2015. We had been thinking about going on a beach type honeymoon and were looking at all the different islands and destinations, which are all beautiful, but nothing was jumping out at us. Then we remembered that we had always wanted to go to Alaska, why not for our honeymoon! Obviously while still possible, October isn't an ideal time to go according to my research, ha! So we are planning on postponing our honeymoon until the summer. Has anyone else done this, and how did you feel? Thanks

Maggie0829 · November 2014

A lot of couples postpone their HMs. They do so for a variety or reasons such as financial issues, not enough vacation time from work, or like you, where they want to go would be best during a different time of the year. But in the end it is really up to you and your FI on what you want to do.

lunardaydreaming · November 2014

Thanks for the reply @Maggie0829 !

ShesSoCold · November 2014

We're waiting about six months post-wedding for the honeymoon. For us, there was a lot that went into this decision, but it's going to work out really well and we're excited.

lunardaydreaming · November 2014

@ShesSoCold , that's very reassuring

thanks so much. I think it's going to work out well for us too!

ShesSoCold · November 2014

Yeah I would much rather wait and take the honeymoon I really really want than use that money to go somewhere else just because of the time of year.

H and I are going to FL and late winter is the best time to go. So that's when we're going. Plus it allowed us to use more money on the wedding itself and give us sic more months to save for the honeymoon.

hutchsl · November 2014

We waited 13 months for ours. We couldnt decide and by the time we did DH had a new job and no time off. We have been doing the beach destination for the past three Thanksgivings - Costa Rica (HM), British Virgin Islands on a private charter, St Lucia and this year Caicos.

OliveOilsMom · November 2014

H was only working part time when we married. So he had no vacation time, but since he was working in a school he had the summers off. So we waited until July for our honeymoon, after our March wedding.

We did go on a mini-moon right after. We purchased an escape off Living Social for a 2 night stay at a B&B. It was really nice because we did have some alone time to just enjoy being H&W, but didn't have the huge vacation right after the craziness leading up to the wedding.

lunardaydreaming · November 2014

That's not a bad idea. We're getting married out near my parents' second home, so we might stay there for a few days after our wedding to do the same you did @OliveOilsMom

mlg78 · November 2014

We didn't postpone for long...4 weeks. That being said, it was the best decision we made about the wedding. It gave us a chance to unwind after the craziness of getting married, we put away gifts, deposited money, completed all the thank you notes, etc. When the time came I knew I was caught up at work, I wasn't rushed to pack and we were able to truly enjoy our honeymoon. It didn't feel any less like a honeymoon either...because anybody that asks, you're still excited to say "We're on our honeymoon!"

We're going to Alaska on May 29, 2015 on a cruise. Will you be doing a cruise or staying on land? I hear May & June are the most beautiful times.

SBmini · November 2014

OMG Alaska is amazing! I love Seward, I tried to convince my husband that we could make a life work where we lived in Seward in summer and Phoenix in winter. But he didn't go for it. I think postponing honeymoons makes a lot of things way easier. You don't take all your time off at once, you only have to plan and pack for one thing. We left only a week after our wedding and that alone was a huge stress reliever.

kat1114 · November 2014

mlg78 said:

We didn't postpone for long...4 weeks. That being said, it was the best decision we made about the wedding. It gave us a chance to unwind after the craziness of getting married, we put away gifts, deposited money, completed all the thank you notes, etc. When the time came I knew I was caught up at work, I wasn't rushed to pack and we were able to truly enjoy our honeymoon. It didn't feel any less like a honeymoon either...because anybody that asks, you're still excited to say "We're on our honeymoon!"
We're going to Alaska on May 29, 2015 on a cruise. Will you be doing a cruise or staying on land? I hear May & June are the most beautiful times.

Yes to the bolded! We haven't gone on our honeymoon yet since we postponned ours by about two months (going at the end of December). The day after our wedding, we both agreed that had we gone on a honeymoon immediately, it would have felt so rushed and stressed. It's allowed us extra time to plan our honeymoon itinerary and get everything in order for our travel.

majesty318 · November 2014

We got married May 17 and left on our HM July 25. It was the best decision ever! I am a crazy planner so I was able to plan the wedding and then plan the little details for the honeymoon and didn't have to stress doing both at once. We were able to spend time with our out of town family/ friends. And we were able to prolong the excitement, so to speak.

lunardaydreaming · November 2014

Wow, I so appreciate all of your replies

, glad postponing made things easier and more enjoyable for you all! And wow @SBmini that sounds like an ideal situation, Alaska in summer, Phoenix in winter lol!

WinstonsGirl · November 2014

We got married in March, took our HM in July/Aug. We actually hadn't even panned on a HM until May, so after the wedding. I teach, so going on a HM right after the wedding just wasn't possible

vmj23 · November 2014

We got married in May and haven't gone yet. I was just too busy leading up to the wedding to take time to plan it. The summer is the busy season at my job and I thought fall would be a better time for us to go away without being stressed about having to come back to the mess at work from being out. My husband is also very busy with work so I decided to wait until the wedding was over before we figured out the honeymoon. That being said, it is now November and we still haven't planned it! I think it's fine to postpone or wait, but I def suggest setting some plans sooner rather than later.

aleciajaye · November 2014

My Fi and I are postponing ours. Wedding is in June. We're going to Tuscany in October for the wine harvest.

ChristinaS85 · November 2014

We are postponing ours. We don't want to jet off for our honeymoon right away. It's nice to just relax and enjoy the moment a few days afterward and get caught up with some loose ends. Plus, he works a hectic schedule with lots of overtime during the spring and summer. We might just take a mini-moon for a few days outside of town and save up the money to go on our honeymoon on our first wedding anniversary.

CMGragain · November 2014

Historically, the honeymoon was simply a trip to the fancy hotel in the nearest big town for a night or two. Niagra Falls was so popular with New York honeymooners because it was close, affordable and easy to get to on the train. Only the ultra rich could afford the luxurious trips that most couples think are a "real honeymoon" these days.
It reminds me of those brides who think their courthouse wedding wasn't "real" because they didn't wear a pouffy white dress and spend thousands of dollars on the reception.

lunardaydreaming · November 2014

@CMGragain , you're so right! I can't tell you how many of my older relatives told me that their honeymoon was either to Niagra Falls or the Poconos! And very true, it's a wedding no matter how you do it! Puts it into perspective.

lovemesomemonster · January 2015

We have a family trip to St Lucia in December, getting married Jan 2016 so we will postpone the honeymoon until November or December 2016 to spread out the fun

Enjoy AK if you go! We are planning that trip for this spring and can't wait!

decembergrl2014 · January 2015

We are taking our "big" honeymoon to Hawaii in August. We just did a mini honeymoon in the Poconos last week.

flutteringinfl · January 2015

Our honeymoon will probably not be for about a month after we get married. We were able to get time off for our wedding but due to the industries we work in it would be challenging to get extra time off for a honeymoon that time of year. Since we're having a DW, I guess it could count as a mini-moon, but we'll be spending most of our time doing wedding-related things, I'd imagine.

ahyatt87 · January 2015

DH I just booked our Hawaii honeymoon trip last night for this May! We got married at the beginning of last June. The timing just didn't work out. He got a new job a couple of weeks after the wedding so he wasn't able to take any vacation time until the fall, and I started my PhD program in September. May is the first time that works for both of us as he cleared the time with his boss and I will be out of classes. I don't think the timing is as important as spending quality time together.

floridabride44 · January 2015

We aren't having a honeymoon immediately after the wedding either. I'm hoping to find a good deal on a short cruise (wedding is in FL, so that'll be convenient) shortly after the wedding just to do something but I just can't fathom trying to plan a big huge honeymoon trip at the same time as planning the wedding. The thought of it makes my head feel like exploding! haha A cruise will be easy because we basically just have to book it & show up - not much extra planning necessary! Then we can plan a "big trip" later on once life has settled down. Major props to all couples who do wedding & honeymoon back to back - I feel like that takes major planning skills & stamina! haha

scsd1222 · February 2015

We just got married and haven't even come close to deciding on a honeymoon location! We're also house-hunting, and my husband is coming up to the busy season for work, so we'll likely take a mini-holiday in the spring (like 2-3 nights) and then plan something bigger for the fall/early winter 2015

jay788 · February 2015

We did a mini-moon after the wedding and took a bigger trip a few months later. For the mini-moon, we rented a cabin and just slept the first couple of days. The type of sleeping where you wake up to eat, then just fall back asleep. So I'm really glad we didn't have to get on a plane and go anywhere immediately post-wedding!

SP29 · February 2015

We got married Jan 2014, then went on our "Honeymoon" in October 2014.

We got married in our hometown (we now live 3 provinces away), so we couldn't take additional vacation time off of work. We stayed a couple of days longer in our hometown to see our family. We stayed at a nice hotel the night of, then the rest of the time at my dad's house. So I guess you could say we had our honeymoon sleeping on a big air mattress in my dad's basement living room

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Knottie98479982 · March 2015

We got married in February and are going on our honeymoon in May. It's totally fine to postpone the honeymoon. Many couples do it for work related reasons or financial reasons! We did it because of Hubby's work and we just bought a house.

notdoingitbythebook · April 2015

We're marrying in October, having a wedding celebration in December and then honeymooning in January. We just don't have enough time to do a honeymoon right after the wedding. And I like stretching things out as much as possible.

JoanE2012 · April 2015

notdoingitbythebook said:
We're marrying in October, having a wedding celebration in December and then honeymooning in January. We just don't have enough time to do a honeymoon right after the wedding. And I like stretching things out as much as possible.

Oh lordy.

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