Dressing your SO

blabla89 · April 2015

Yesterday I complimented my coworker on the dress she was wearing, and she said something to the effect of "I just wear whatever my FI [who is female] picks out for me."

My FI, on the other hand, is very particular about what he wears. And I know little about men's clothing, so the most I can offer is like "that looks good" or "I think it's fine to wear jeans". I've occasionally thought about buying clothing for him but I'm afraid I would get it all wrong. One time he bought me a dress that I had been eyeing, but it just didn't fit and I felt a little bit bad about having him return it.

Do you ladies ever buy clothing for your SO's, or pick out an outfit for them to wear? Do they ever do that for you?

MsSparky · April 2015

I've never bought SO anything, until today. I work in a running store and SO is running a race this weekend (for the first time) and asked if I could get him running shorts. We'll see how I do. There's also a shirt I want to get him, but we'll see how I do with the shorts first.

larrygaga · April 2015

I buy all his clothes and pick out outfits for events.

He prefers me to do it because he never knows what to get and hates shopping and doesn't care what he wears.

I model all the clothes and things I buy for him, to see what he thinks. He has yet to tell me he doesn't like it, except a few times to tactfully ask me if it fits comfortable (when it was too small and gave me rolls)

I like to dress/wear my hair/ make my face up influenced by what I know he likes. Although he says everything is great, I can tell how he really feels. I also know that he thinks I'm at my best when I really like what I'm wearing, so generally whatever I'm into he's into.

JennyColada · April 2015

I've bought DH a few clothing items, but that's mainly because I work retail and am more biased towards items that I sell. Plus I get good deals, etc.

But usually, DH buys his own clothes, and has always picked out his own outfits.

I like the idea of wearing things that DH likes, so I often encourage him to pick out my outfits, but he never does. We go through a cute routine in the morning where I model for him and ask "would you buy [whatever I'm selling at my current job] from me?"

lurkergirl · April 2015

He's picky about the fit and feeling of clothes, so I don't like to buy without him, but I almost always go shopping with him. I always pick out his outfits for events and going out. I may or may not make him coordinate with my outfit.

NowIamMrsKlein · April 2015

My FI actually has a fantastic knack for picking out clothes for me. I personally hate shopping so we will often go together, I'll hang out in the change room as he brings me things to try on. It's really helped me get outside my comfort zone, because lots of things I wouldn't have necessarily picked for myself off the rack, but once I get them on I love them

On the flip side, FI both have a hard time with mens fashion. Up until about 2 years ago FI was a jeans and tshirt kind of guy since he wears a uniform to work. Over the last couple years he's been trying to update his wardrobe to have more 'big boy' clothes. We get a lot of help from salesmen in men specific stores and we're slowly getting a better idea of his sense of style in regards to collared shirts and sweaters.

wandajune6 · April 2015

I buy all of DH's clothing. He hates shopping and has no sense of sizing. He's not good about keeping variety in his wardrobe so he needs a bit of help. Working from home for years put him at a disadvantage. Plus, I'm great at finding deals. I'll occasionally need to return things that don't fit but he usually loves what I get him.

I married an amazing man but, left to his own devices he'd spend his life in jorts and hole-y Metallica t-shirts. I help.

levioosa · April 2015

SO is suuuuuppper picky about the pattern and color of his clothes. I don't even bother anymore. He will occasionally defer to me about what to wear when we go out. He knows there is a couple of shirts that I love him to wear.

When we go out I'll pick out two or three dresses I'm feeling for the evening, and then let him pick the one he likes the best.

I know a couple where the wife just wears what the husband picks out for her. Not because he is domineering, but because she hates shopping. So he'll go to Nordstrom's, get a personal shopper, and have them pick out entire outfits for her, complete with accessories, purses, and shoes. She always looks super adorable. Needless to say, that costs more money than I make in a year.

princessofgenovia · April 2015

FI knows more about clothes than I do. He's very into fashion. So usually, I leave him be. But occasionally I'll buy him something or help him put an outfit together.

He not so secretly loves picking out clothing for me. So I go to him for input on outfits a lot. Especially when it comes to accessorizing and if he's out and finds something he thinks would look good on me he buys it for me.

Boy knows what looks good.

minttobemrsb · April 2015

I've bought my FI a lot of clothes. He likes shopping but doesn't know what looks nice. If we are going somewhere, he always asks what to wear or tells me to just pick it out. He is colorblind, so sometimes he is legitimately asking what looks okay.

He never picks out what I wear, but sometimes when I'm being picky and it's one of those days when "there's nothing to wear" he will hand me a shirt he likes. I usually just go with it at that point.

madamerwin · April 2015

I occasionally buy clothes for FI, but only things I KNOW he likes (like Levi's 569 jeans, in his size, or polos in XL-Tall size for work). When he buys clothes, though, he usually likes me to come with him so I can give opinions.

chibiyui · April 2015

I do buy clothes for H, sometimes he likes what I get and sometimes he doesn't. I will generally tell him if an outfit is acceptable or unacceptable for the occasion. (H loves dress pants. problem is he'll wear most definitely suit pants with not so nice t-shirts, and it doesn't look good) And color coordination.(one morning I groggily told him he couldn't wear a beige shirt with beige dress pants, because he basically looked naked from a distance. It was apparently one of his favorite outfits) He also wears clothing until they're rags (luckily not his work clothes).

I will ocassionaly ask if there's something he'd like me to wear.

theartistformerlyknownas · April 2015

I can't really buy clothes for H because he's super hard to fit - tall and muscular with broad shoulders and a small waist. Tough to get the balance of fitting through the arms without being huge at the waist. He's pretty good at picking out his own clothes though, so the most I'll do is help with tie/shirt/suit combinations. He's always hesitant about mixing patterns.

He hasn't really picked out anything for me, but lets me know what he likes.

doeydo · April 2015

I would not ever have my SO dress me or give me input on what to wear further than asking "Is this too boob-y?" or something. That's just me though, I guess. I would also not feel comfortable "dressing" my SO. If they wanted input I'd give my opinion I guess but that's about it.

Wegl13 · April 2015

My MIL has pretty much been the fashionista for both of us since we started dating. She has taken us both out a handful of times and helped us pick out clothes, which is super helpful because left to our own devices, he would wear a polo and slacks every day ever and I would.... Probably.... Wear sweatpants. Most likely his sweatpants. With her help though I've gotten better about picking out my own stuff recently (like in the past six months). This is kind of super embarrassing but it has taken her guidance and me getting to my mid-twenties to really figure out "my style."

Btw lolo- I'm not sure if this will work for you but DH has similar problems with broad shoulders and slim waist and he can basically wear anything from Banana Republic. And he looks rocking in it.

redoryx · April 2015

I've purchased him ties and t-shirts, that's about it. He knows how to dress himself and always looks good. He buys me jewelry, that's about it. I can't see him comfortable purchasing clothes for me.

buttercup1958 · April 2015

V doesn't really care about clothes. He is a tee shirt, and jeans. He wears collar shirts and sweaters sometimes too. He has asked me if things look ok and I give my honest opinion. I despise his mandales ha. Other than that, I always think he looks great. V is great at picking things out for me. But he hates shopping so we usually go together. He has picked out cute dresses, accessories, ect. He says he loves the way I dress. He thinks my style is great, I call it "quirky mod".

lyndausvi · April 2015

Except for an occasional t-shirt (which he will only wear at night or working out, I never buy DH clothes. He is so picky. He is pretty much a button-down shirt guy, but it has to fit just right. Has to have at least 7 buttons. Basically there are too many rules for me remember. He will just put his arms on the bottom to start to put on a shirt and he will decide it will not fit.

He buys me clothes though. Mostly stuff like button-down shirts or a sweaters/sweatshirts. An occasional pair of pants. He always buys me underwear, socks and pjs.

JCbride2015 · April 2015

I buy almost all of Fi's clothes, or at least go with him when he buys them. He just hates shopping and isn't really sure what to buy. We did Trunk Club for him a couple of times and he absolutely loved it, the whole experience of receiving the box to having somebody put together outfits for him. So we will probably do that again.

I love to shop and buy new clothes fairly frequently, so most of the time Fi just isn't there. But he likes to look through my catalogs that come through the house or peek over my should while I'm shopping online and tells me what will look good. And he's always right!

afox007 · April 2015

I think about 90% of Fi's wardrobe was purchased by me. I usually don't have to pick out anything from him since I made an effort to make sure everything is pretty interchangeable. He HATES shopping so when I met him he had clothes as old as FSS. When I suggested replacing things with newer/nicer he told me if I wanted I was free to go shopping, but the mall makes him stabby.

Occasionally I do still have to kindly point him in the right direction in the morning. Camo shorts and a plaid button up are a bad look as it is, but even worse if that's what you plan to wear to brunch with my grandma.

Cookie Pusher · April 2015

DH dresses himself for day-to-day but I usually do the shopping/outfit picking when we go out. He's a jeans and t-shirt guy, so he sometimes needs a little bit of help.

larrygaga · April 2015

lolo883 said:
I can't really buy clothes for H because he's super hard to fit - tall and muscular with broad shoulders and a small waist. Tough to get the balance of fitting through the arms without being huge at the waist. He's pretty good at picking out his own clothes though, so the most I'll do is help with tie/shirt/suit combinations. He's always hesitant about mixing patterns.

He hasn't really picked out anything for me, but lets me know what he likes.

My FI is the same kind of build. Eddie Bauer tall shirts fit him so well I don't even buy anything else. They just have plain stuff but at least it fits!

southernbelle0915 · April 2015

I like buying clothes for DH. Sometimes its hard to find his size because he's tall (6'3") and skinny on bottom but cut up top. So pants are hard and "classic" fit shirts fit through shoulders but are baggy in the middle. I've found that dockers has good pants he likes. And he's gotten some really nice fitting shirts from brooks brothers.

He bought me the tank tops I love today, actually. Yay! I like dressing in things I think he'll like but mostly what's comfy.

VulgarGirl · April 2015

Wifey and I are always picking out clothes for each other. I find her a dress, she finds me some shorts. And if we have to dress fancy (usually for her work events) she's in charge of wardrobe.

FiancB · April 2015

DH is pretty fashionable, actually. I give a little input here and there but overall he definitely knows a lot more about men's clothes than I do. He is colorblind so sometimes he needs some help there but he mostly pulls things off on his own. I've never bought him clothes.

He's also really good at finding deals. When we're shopping, I always seem to gravitate toward the most expensive thing in the store. He then finds me something even better, but way cheaper. He hasn't bought me clothes either, but he has said he likes some of my stuff more than other stuff.

amelisha · April 2015

FI handles his own wardrobe although I'll give input or drag him to a sale. He's picky too and hard to fit so I just don't bother too much.

I let FI pick stuff out of my closet but he's hopeless in stores. For one thing, he thinks that everything in "my size" will always fit the same no matter where we are. For another, his taste is much sexier than mine. So if it were left up to him I'd constantly be in super-low necks and tons of my clothes would be too big of too small. He means well but it's better for me to buy stuff and then ask him about my outfits after.

TrixieJess · April 2015

I have bought FI clothes. Jeans and t-shirts, some underwear if I'm out and I see something on sale in his size that I know he'll like. He hates shopping.

That being said, FI has amazing taste and he knows my style well enough that he could easily pick out clothes for me.

climbingsingle · April 2015

I do buy clothes for my H, because I know what he likes. But a lot of times, we go shopping together. We both ask for each other's opinion - does this look good, does this shirt look too big, etc. If we're going out, he'll ask how dressy he has to be. But that's pretty much it. We don't pick out outfits for each other.

flutteringinfl · April 2015

FI's daily wear is usually pretty casual. Lots of nerdy t-shirts. I've bought him one or two that I knew he would like. Other than that I don't really "dress" him, except for the one time last year I made his Halloween costume. I also bought him a bathing suit once, but that's just because there happened to be a good sale at the store I was at and his old one was falling apart. We might judge whether the other one is wearing a casual/fancy enough outfit for whatever we're going to, but other than that we pretty much just dress ourselves.

amelisha · April 2015

I should add that I also do go with FI to his suit fitting appointments and help him decide on fabrics and lapel styles and all that because he gets overwhelmed with the options his tailor gives him and we're both afraid he's going to accidentally choose pleated pants or something. But he only does that once a year.

jenna8984 · April 2015

I'm surprised how many of you buy clothes for each other. We never do. I mean, my husband is a "dirty mechanic" so all he wears is jeans and plain black Hanes t-shirts. If we go somewhere nice, he will throw on a flannel over his t-shirt (no, I'm not kidding). We went to a wedding a few weeks ago and we had to go to Target the night before and buy him dress pants and a button down shirt.

I mean, it works for me because that's my taste in men. I'm personally not attracted to men who wear polo shirts, slim fit jeans, square toe leather shoes. I have no interest in that. Give me a beard and a pair of Nike dunks and I'm turned on hahah.

He knows how picky I am with clothes so he would never buy me pants or a dress or anything like that. But he seriously kicks ass with buying me hoodies/ robes/ slippers/ scarves.

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