Ok, so as most of you know, when your pregnant, your hormones get all crazy, so I'm going to hope thats why I'm upset with my MIL, but if any of you knotties feel I have a reason to be upset, then please let me know LOL.
So DH is abroad for work, he has been since Saturday. He had to leave the day after we returned from our vacation. No problem. We knew about it for a few weeks now.
His mom called me Sunday to see how I was feeling (I returned from vacation with a headcold). Then she asked if I heard from DH and how he was doing. I explained that with the time difference it is hard to talk, that we were able to exchange a few texts but that was it.
She called last night and began the call with: I called the other day but you didn't answer and I left a voicemail. My response was: I'm sorry, I didn't receive the call nor the voicemail, but my sister has also been saying she has been texting me, but I haven't been receiving those so maybe I just have a connection issue.
Here was the rest of the phone call:
MIL: oh, ok. Have you heard from DH?
Me: Yes. Since I didn't have to work aftercare today we were actually able to have a conversation and the time difference not affect us too much.
MIL: Have you talked to him throughout his stay in Switzerland?
Me: We have texted back and forth when he can, but again, with the time difference it was hard.
MIL: Oh, well I'm glad he's doing well. He hasn't called me at all to check in.
She then asked how I was feeling and that was the end of the conversation.
I hung up and was just flabbergasted. I felt like no matter how many times I told her the time difference took a toll on us actually communicating, not to mention he was filming video so its not like he can just text me back throughout the day, she didn't get it.
And what bothered me the most was the last statement about him not calling her to check in. I'm sorry, but he has a wife now. He checks in with me, not mommy.
Sad part, the last time he traveled internationally (only to Canada), she constantly called to see if I had heard from him.
Again, I feel like its just my hormones that have me so upset, but part of me does feel like I have a right to be bothered. Set me straight knotties! LOL
Re: NWR: Vent, Maybe its Just my Hormones
Maybe it's just because I have a phenomenally weird mother myself, but to me there are just so many idiosyncrasies that many parents have that I've long ago learned to compartmentalize them and not let them get to me.
Just to echo what PP's have already said, I'm sure she isn't intentionally trying to irritate you but she probably just wants to hear from her son. My SO and I often check in with our parents when we travel because parents don't stop worrying just because you're all grown up and married. I also have a little boy so I am totally going to be this mom 30 years from now.
Formerly martha1818
Eh...I see this more as general curiosity. Honestly, I think you are really blowing everything a little out of proportion.
SO's dad can be like that but mainly only when we go camping. He bought this device that lets you press a button that sends a message that says you're okay and has your location. He always wants us to use it every day so he doesn't worry as much about us getting eaten by bears or whatever the hell he thinks will happen. I hard core roll my eyes at this because I don't even usually let my parents know when I'm going camping but if it makes SO's parents less worried I just go along with it.
Like PPs have already suggested, I would just encourage him to check in with his mom when he's traveling. He doesn't even have to call just send a text or e-mail so that she doesn't worry.
And it doesn't sound like she's saying he should check in with her instead of you but that she just would like for him to check in with her as well.