One of my bridesmaids agreed quite some time ago to be in the bridal party. Since then, she's been going through some personal things. She shared she's not sure if she's up for being a BM, and I told her I wanted her to take care of herself first and foremost, and would 100% understand if she did not want to be a BM. She's been waffling back and forth for months now. Every time, I encourage her to do what's best for her, that I understand, that I support her, etc. This is not just lip service, she's my friend no matter if she's in or out, and I've made that clear to her. Throughout this she has made basic comments about how it would be hard to stand there with me, to be happy for me, etc., which after my continuous support just feels mean.
The deadline to order the dresses and receive them in time for the wedding is coming up. The other BMs have ordered. Can I give my friend a deadline?