Sorry, its a long one.
Let me start off by saying my mother and I have a rocky relationship and I have been seeing a therapist for almost two years to work on it and myself. She acts in line with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and I also believe she may be bi-polar but is undiagnosed at this time.
With that being said.....she gifted me $5k for my wedding. She gave it me BEFORE I got engaged. I tried to refuse the money, she said she didn't know if she would have it to give to me when the time came and she has it now, please take the money. It's only fair, I gave your sister the help, I want to help you.
So I took the check. I waited about 3 weeks before cashing it and putting the money in a separate account. She has a history of dangling sugar plums and pulling them back when you don't act the way she wants.
I get engaged on Vday.
So about 6 weeks after she gave me the money (3 weeks after getting engaged) we got in a fight. She called me to ask if she had ever told me I was a terrible daughter because she had gotten in a fight with my sister and said it to her. I was honest with her, not mean but honest. Yes, she has said it to me many times. She told me I was lying and I was making things up.
The fight escalated, she demanded the wedding money back. After having a discussion with my therapist about the best way to handle it, I told her that I would not return the money as it was a gift.
WWKELD? (what would knot etiquette ladies do?)
CN:Mom gave me wedding money, 6 weeks later we got in a fight and now she is demanding the money back...WWKELD?