Ha! FI and I have always said if/when I am pregnant instead of calling the bump 'peanut' or 'bean' or whatever it would be Stormie. Short for Stormageddon Dark Lord of All. And no one would understand. And it would be fantastic.
Ha! FI and I have always said if/when I am pregnant instead of calling the bump 'peanut' or 'bean' or whatever it would be Stormie. Short for Stormageddon Dark Lord of All. And no one would understand. And it would be fantastic.
Wifey has been liking Amelia Rose for a girl for awhile. She didn't get at first until I sat her down and was like WATCH.
Ha! FI and I have always said if/when I am pregnant instead of calling the bump 'peanut' or 'bean' or whatever it would be Stormie. Short for Stormageddon Dark Lord of All. And no one would understand. And it would be fantastic.
Wifey has been liking Amelia Rose for a girl for awhile. She didn't get at first until I sat her down and was like WATCH.
FI put both Amelia AND Clara on the list. I gave up arguing with him over it.
Ha! FI and I have always said if/when I am pregnant instead of calling the bump 'peanut' or 'bean' or whatever it would be Stormie. Short for Stormageddon Dark Lord of All. And no one would understand. And it would be fantastic.
Wifey has been liking Amelia Rose for a girl for awhile. She didn't get at first until I sat her down and was like WATCH.
FI put both Amelia AND Clara on the list. I gave up arguing with him over it.
Amelia, Clara, and Rose have been on my list for AGES. Like, before I even watched Dr. Who. They're BEAUTIFUL.
Ha! FI and I have always said if/when I am pregnant instead of calling the bump 'peanut' or 'bean' or whatever it would be Stormie. Short for Stormageddon Dark Lord of All. And no one would understand. And it would be fantastic.
Wifey has been liking Amelia Rose for a girl for awhile. She didn't get at first until I sat her down and was like WATCH.
FI put both Amelia AND Clara on the list. I gave up arguing with him over it.
Amelia, Clara, and Rose have been on my list for AGES. Like, before I even watched Dr. Who. They're BEAUTIFUL.
Rose is already a given for a baby girl child's middle name. It's Wifey's middle name, it was her grandma's middle name, so she wants to keep it going. And I think it's a pretty name. So I'm down with it.
Our boy name is Gerard. Something. My dad is pushing for Gavin. But Gerard Gavin just...doesn't sound right.
Ha! FI and I have always said if/when I am pregnant instead of calling the bump 'peanut' or 'bean' or whatever it would be Stormie. Short for Stormageddon Dark Lord of All. And no one would understand. And it would be fantastic.
Wifey has been liking Amelia Rose for a girl for awhile. She didn't get at first until I sat her down and was like WATCH.
FI put both Amelia AND Clara on the list. I gave up arguing with him over it.
Amelia, Clara, and Rose have been on my list for AGES. Like, before I even watched Dr. Who. They're BEAUTIFUL.
Rose is already a given for a baby girl child's middle name. It's Wifey's middle name, it was her grandma's middle name, so she wants to keep it going. And I think it's a pretty name. So I'm down with it.
Our boy name is Gerard. Something. My dad is pushing for Gavin. But Gerard Gavin just...doesn't sound right.
It's the vibe they each have that's causing the clash, I think. Gerard is kind of fancily classic, where Gavin is more modern-feeling to me.
Try Owen? Or Silas. Or maybe Declan. Except the Gerard Declan double-d sound may be jarring too... I dunno.
ETA certainly not trying to name your little bit. Just offering some suggestions if you haven't already considered them.
I love seeing everyone's name preferences! So fun.
I have liked Charlotte since forever, I think. And I'm on board with PP's decisions to use "Charlie" as a nickname--I kind of dislike it for a boy, but love it for a girl, go figure.
I used to be obsessed with gender-neutral names when I was a wee proto-feminist child, but now I am a bit more neutral about gender-neutral. I like Alexandra/Alex, but some other neutral names just don't do it for me.
I have a lot of weirdo visceral reactions to the feminine vs. masculine versions of names. For example, I dig Patrick for a boy. But Patricia just sounds awful to me! And the reverse is true, too--Alexandra is lovely, Alexander is meh. Jack is great, Jackie is a no. I'm a weirdo.
I have the same problem with Spanish/French/foreign versions of names vs. their English counterparts. Mariana is gorgeous, but Mary Anne does nothing for me. Noemi is a delight to the ear, but Naomi introduces all those broadened American vowels into the picture, and it stops being so nice. And for the life of me I could not tell you why I prefer Elodie to Melody.
Ultimately I think I would rather have veto power than shoulder the responsibility of coming up with names. I am totally okay with letting FI take the lead on the offspring situation, as long as I can say no to stuff. In general I think it's easiest on the kid if you save the super uniquely spelled/non-Supreme Court (realizing of course that this is a reflection of our dumb society and not a problem with the names themselves, but this is the world we're in for now) names for the middle name, and keep the first name more traditional.
I like Samuel, Sam for short, for a boy. A girl, I don't know - if we were to have a kid, DH would love a girl, but I think I'd prefer a boy. I like classic names though, nothing too edgy. Maybe Sophia for a girl, although I don't know what DH likes for names currently (he'd have to have a vasectomy reversal so we're a long ways off from names).
I like Samuel, Sam for short, for a boy. A girl, I don't know - if we were to have a kid, DH would love a girl, but I think I'd prefer a boy. I like classic names though, nothing too edgy. Maybe Sophia for a girl, although I don't know what DH likes for names currently (he'd have to have a vasectomy reversal so we're a long ways off from names).
Samantha is lovely, if you like Samuel. Sophia is beautiful too. Unfortunately, it's one of those names I have a visceral negative reaction to due to having known a person I didn't like with that name, so I could never use it.
We're not planning on kids, but we've still had the name discussion. We both like classic names, and I would insist on a common spelling, since mine is always spelled wrong. Sophia or Clara for a girl. My middle name is Lynn, as is my mom's and nana's, so that would carry on. The prevalent middle name in J's family is Marie, so we'd probably try to fit that in somehow... J's middle name is Daniel, and my dad's middle name is Wilson, so those are good options. Plus my maiden name is a guy's name, so I like that idea, too.
My sister IS planning on kids, and she has had the idea of naming a girl Dru Marie - Drew was our brother who was stillborn, and Marie is her MIL's middle name. I like it.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
Honestly I don't even consider Kate a "full name." They're all short for Katherine-derivatives (Catherine, Kathryn, Kathleen) and mayyyybe Kaitlin, as far as I know (and Kaitlin is stretching it, okay!).
ETA: and yes, my legal name is one of the longer ones. Clearly not Kaitlin though.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
Honestly I don't even consider Kate a "full name." They're all short for Katherine-derivatives (Catherine, Kathryn, Kathleen) and mayyyybe Kaitlin, as far as I know (and Kaitlin is stretching it, okay!).
ETA: and yes, my legal name is one of the longer ones. Clearly not Kaitlin though.
I don't either, but I guess of the two, I see Kate as a better choice than Katie for the full name. I think your full name should always be the more mature sounding version.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
Honestly I don't even consider Kate a "full name." They're all short for Katherine-derivatives (Catherine, Kathryn, Kathleen) and mayyyybe Kaitlin, as far as I know (and Kaitlin is stretching it, okay!).
ETA: and yes, my legal name is one of the longer ones. Clearly not Kaitlin though.
I was a Katie-Kaitlin for a while in my younger years. It is definitely a stretch.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
Honestly I don't even consider Kate a "full name." They're all short for Katherine-derivatives (Catherine, Kathryn, Kathleen) and mayyyybe Kaitlin, as far as I know (and Kaitlin is stretching it, okay!).
ETA: and yes, my legal name is one of the longer ones. Clearly not Kaitlin though.
I don't either, but I guess of the two, I see Kate as a better choice than Katie for the full name. I think your full name should always be the more mature sounding version.
Hey, what are you sayin', I'm immature????
(Totally get it. I even tried to go by my "real" name in college but I just couldn't hang. I felt like I was in trouble all the time, or like I couldn't hang loose and be relaxed and goofy. Tried being a Kate, couldn't make it fit. Weirdly, I kind of hate "Katie" in general--sounds so frivolous and cutesie! But I have decided that I make it work for me...)
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
Because we don't really care for the name Kate or any of the longer versions... and couldn't "Kate" technically be short for "Katie", not the other way around? It seems like it would be super easy to drop that "i" if she wanted to go with something a bit more mature. Plus, it's like our sixth choice for a daughter we're not planning to have, so...
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
My parents named me Julia and have NEVER NOT ONCE in my whole life called me that. They never intended to; they just wanted that as option, just in case. I have and always will be been Julie. Totally FWP, but it was always so annoying to have to correct the teachers in school.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
My parents named me Julia and have NEVER NOT ONCE in my whole life called me that. They never intended to; they just wanted that as option, just in case. I have and always will be been Julie. Totally FWP, but it was always so annoying to have to correct the teachers in school.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
My parents named me Julia and have NEVER NOT ONCE in my whole life called me that. They never intended to; they just wanted that as option, just in case. I have and always will be been Julie. Totally FWP, but it was always so annoying to have to correct the teachers in school.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
Yes, and I think that's what bothers me most. Of course people develop nicknames, but I don't get naming your kid something you don't plan to call them. One acquaintance I know calls her kid a nickname of his middle name. I'm just like WHY???
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
My parents named me Julia and have NEVER NOT ONCE in my whole life called me that. They never intended to; they just wanted that as option, just in case. I have and always will be been Julie. Totally FWP, but it was always so annoying to have to correct the teachers in school.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
Yes, and I think that's what bothers me most. Of course people develop nicknames, but I don't get naming your kid something you don't plan to call them. One acquaintance I know calls her kid a nickname of his middle name. I'm just like WHY???
IF we have kids (big if) we're tossing around the idea of doing this. H is the fifth William in his family, except he's not a "true" VI, each one has a different middle name (maternal grandfather's name). H really wants a junior, same middle name and all - so the baby's name would be William John. H's dad is Bill and H is Billy and it's already confusing (MIL will yell "Bill!" and both answer) so - H wants to call him Jack - Jack is my MIL's father's name and H adored him. Represents his family on both sides and I'm fine with it.
Honestly, you can have every intention of naming your kid what you want everyone to call them and so many will end up with a nickname by choice, or forced nicknames, or completely different names. My sister's name is a typical male name and she hates it so she feminized in high school and hasn't gone by her given name since. I'm a Caitlin and my mom hated Katie so I was never called that at home. But guess how many people over my lifetime have called me Katie? SO. MANY. H gets William, Bill, Billy, Will and answers to all of them. To me, a name is just a name and as long as I'm not saddling the kid with some crazy spelling, I'm cool with it. If the kid doesn't like going by his middle name, he can make the decision to go by his first name. Or a nickname. But like I said, we'll probably never have kids so it'll most likely be a non-issue.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
My parents named me Julia and have NEVER NOT ONCE in my whole life called me that. They never intended to; they just wanted that as option, just in case. I have and always will be been Julie. Totally FWP, but it was always so annoying to have to correct the teachers in school.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
Yes, and I think that's what bothers me most. Of course people develop nicknames, but I don't get naming your kid something you don't plan to call them. One acquaintance I know calls her kid a nickname of his middle name. I'm just like WHY???
IF we have kids (big if) we're tossing around the idea of doing this. H is the fifth William in his family, except he's not a "true" VI, each one has a different middle name (maternal grandfather's name). H really wants a junior, same middle name and all - so the baby's name would be William John. H's dad is Bill and H is Billy and it's already confusing (MIL will yell "Bill!" and both answer) so - H wants to call him Jack - Jack is my MIL's father's name and H adored him. Represents his family on both sides and I'm fine with it.
Honestly, you can have every intention of naming your kid what you want everyone to call them and so many will end up with a nickname by choice, or forced nicknames, or completely different names. My sister's name is a typical male name and she hates it so she feminized in high school and hasn't gone by her given name since. I'm a Caitlin and my mom hated Katie so I was never called that at home. But guess how many people over my lifetime have called me Katie? SO. MANY. H gets William, Bill, Billy, Will and answers to all of them. To me, a name is just a name and as long as I'm not saddling the kid with some crazy spelling, I'm cool with it. If the kid doesn't like going by his middle name, he can make the decision to go by his first name. Or a nickname. But like I said, we'll probably never have kids so it'll most likely be a non-issue.
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I guess I just don't get the point of giving your kid a special name that has meaning if you aren't going to call him that. Why not just name him Jack if that's what you're going to call him?
And of course nicknames develop, but that's much different that choosing to name your kid one thing and call them something else.
@littlepep (not quoting because boxes are nuts) - because it's important to H. He really wants to do that and I love the name Jack so I'm compromising. He wants to carry on the tradition of William from his dad's side but also honor his mom's side. He also grew up having the same name as his dad and grandpa (both very well-known in our town) and it's a giant PITA. So he wants to spare our hypothetical child the pain of having the same name as his dad, grandpa and great-grandpa but still preserve the memory - he's incredibly close with this family. It's a thing he wants to do and it's not worth fighting over. But like I said, we'll probably never have kids and never have to worry about it. And he could also change his mind by the time we do have kids and just want to name him Jack.
ETA - I would put my foot down on doing the same with any other hypothetical children, however.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
My parents named me Julia and have NEVER NOT ONCE in my whole life called me that. They never intended to; they just wanted that as option, just in case. I have and always will be been Julie. Totally FWP, but it was always so annoying to have to correct the teachers in school.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
There's a big difference though between planning to call your kid by their middle name (in which case I agree - just make it their first name) and naming a kid Billy. I think that was super dumb. It's a diminutive and he hated it as a grown man. Look FORWARD a little to what your kid might be called as an ADULT, apply the "Supreme Court Justice" or POTUS test to it. President Billy ain't gonna happen.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
Honestly I don't even consider Kate a "full name." They're all short for Katherine-derivatives (Catherine, Kathryn, Kathleen) and mayyyybe Kaitlin, as far as I know (and Kaitlin is stretching it, okay!).
ETA: and yes, my legal name is one of the longer ones. Clearly not Kaitlin though.
Kate is my baby name for a girl. not Katherine, Kathleen or Kaitlin. Just Kate. I love the name. I think it's a full name.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
My parents named me Julia and have NEVER NOT ONCE in my whole life called me that. They never intended to; they just wanted that as option, just in case. I have and always will be been Julie. Totally FWP, but it was always so annoying to have to correct the teachers in school.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
There's a big difference though between planning to call your kid by their middle name (in which case I agree - just make it their first name) and naming a kid Billy. I think that was super dumb. It's a diminutive and he hated it as a grown man. Look FORWARD a little to what your kid might be called as an ADULT, apply the "Supreme Court Justice" or POTUS test to it. President Billy ain't gonna happen.
I definitely agree. However, DH and I picked pretty traditional and classic names anyways so that if they did become POTUS, it'd sound nice, haha!
I think the main reason my parents named me Mary Emma is because Emma Mary didn't sound as nice? Who knows though.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
I don't understand this. I know this is a hypothetical person, but why not name her Kate and use Katie as a nickname?
My grandpa's legal name was Billy. His mom thought "if that's what I'm gonna call him, that's what I should name him!" Buuuut... then he wasn't a baby anymore, and it was super embarrassing for him, and a hassle whenever people got it wrong on official documents. He HATED it.
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
My parents named me Julia and have NEVER NOT ONCE in my whole life called me that. They never intended to; they just wanted that as option, just in case. I have and always will be been Julie. Totally FWP, but it was always so annoying to have to correct the teachers in school.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
There's a big difference though between planning to call your kid by their middle name (in which case I agree - just make it their first name) and naming a kid Billy. I think that was super dumb. It's a diminutive and he hated it as a grown man. Look FORWARD a little to what your kid might be called as an ADULT, apply the "Supreme Court Justice" or POTUS test to it. President Billy ain't gonna happen.
So President Stormageddon Dark Lord of All is a no-go then?
Re: Baby names
Try Owen? Or Silas. Or maybe Declan. Except the Gerard Declan double-d sound may be jarring too... I dunno.
We're not planning on kids, but we've still had the name discussion. We both like classic names, and I would insist on a common spelling, since mine is always spelled wrong. Sophia or Clara for a girl. My middle name is Lynn, as is my mom's and nana's, so that would carry on. The prevalent middle name in J's family is Marie, so we'd probably try to fit that in somehow... J's middle name is Daniel, and my dad's middle name is Wilson, so those are good options. Plus my maiden name is a guy's name, so I like that idea, too.
My sister IS planning on kids, and she has had the idea of naming a girl Dru Marie - Drew was our brother who was stillborn, and Marie is her MIL's middle name. I like it.
We're not planning on having any more, but if we did have a third boy, it would be William (I've since learned that that is my biological father's name - I'm adopted - but it's always been near the top of my list). I like James/Jamie, but I'm a Jaime so I probably wouldn't go there.
Our girl list includes Charlotte (and I LOVE Charlie for a girl), Anna, Fiona, Willow, Sophie, Lila, Isobel, Veronica, and Katie (yes, Katie - she can still shorten it to Kate or Kat!).
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
I don't either, but I guess of the two, I see Kate as a better choice than Katie for the full name. I think your full name should always be the more mature sounding version.
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
I was a Katie-Kaitlin for a while in my younger years. It is definitely a stretch.
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
I don't either, but I guess of the two, I see Kate as a better choice than Katie for the full name. I think your full name should always be the more mature sounding version.
Hey, what are you sayin', I'm immature????
THIS THIS THIS. Please just name your kid what you are going to call them.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
DH and I are very adamant about this. DH is James but goes by Jay. My first name is Mary but I go by my middle name, Emma. It's kind of annoying. So we're naming our hypothetical children with what we intend to call them. Obviously, some nicknames can develop over time and that's fine. But both of us were named knowing we wouldn't go by our legal first name.
Yes, and I think that's what bothers me most. Of course people develop nicknames, but I don't get naming your kid something you don't plan to call them. One acquaintance I know calls her kid a nickname of his middle name. I'm just like WHY???
Yes, and I think that's what bothers me most. Of course people develop nicknames, but I don't get naming your kid something you don't plan to call them. One acquaintance I know calls her kid a nickname of his middle name. I'm just like WHY???
IF we have kids (big if) we're tossing around the idea of doing this. H is the fifth William in his family, except he's not a "true" VI, each one has a different middle name (maternal grandfather's name). H really wants a junior, same middle name and all - so the baby's name would be William John. H's dad is Bill and H is Billy and it's already confusing (MIL will yell "Bill!" and both answer) so - H wants to call him Jack - Jack is my MIL's father's name and H adored him. Represents his family on both sides and I'm fine with it.
Honestly, you can have every intention of naming your kid what you want everyone to call them and so many will end up with a nickname by choice, or forced nicknames, or completely different names. My sister's name is a typical male name and she hates it so she feminized in high school and hasn't gone by her given name since. I'm a Caitlin and my mom hated Katie so I was never called that at home. But guess how many people over my lifetime have called me Katie? SO. MANY. H gets William, Bill, Billy, Will and answers to all of them. To me, a name is just a name and as long as I'm not saddling the kid with some crazy spelling, I'm cool with it. If the kid doesn't like going by his middle name, he can make the decision to go by his first name. Or a nickname. But like I said, we'll probably never have kids so it'll most likely be a non-issue.
IF we have kids (big if) we're tossing around the idea of doing this. H is the fifth William in his family, except he's not a "true" VI, each one has a different middle name (maternal grandfather's name). H really wants a junior, same middle name and all - so the baby's name would be William John. H's dad is Bill and H is Billy and it's already confusing (MIL will yell "Bill!" and both answer) so - H wants to call him Jack - Jack is my MIL's father's name and H adored him. Represents his family on both sides and I'm fine with it.
Honestly, you can have every intention of naming your kid what you want everyone to call them and so many will end up with a nickname by choice, or forced nicknames, or completely different names. My sister's name is a typical male name and she hates it so she feminized in high school and hasn't gone by her given name since. I'm a Caitlin and my mom hated Katie so I was never called that at home. But guess how many people over my lifetime have called me Katie? SO. MANY. H gets William, Bill, Billy, Will and answers to all of them. To me, a name is just a name and as long as I'm not saddling the kid with some crazy spelling, I'm cool with it. If the kid doesn't like going by his middle name, he can make the decision to go by his first name. Or a nickname. But like I said, we'll probably never have kids so it'll most likely be a non-issue.
I guess I just don't get the point of giving your kid a special name that has meaning if you aren't going to call him that. Why not just name him Jack if that's what you're going to call him?
@littlepep (not quoting because boxes are nuts) - because it's important to H. He really wants to do that and I love the name Jack so I'm compromising. He wants to carry on the tradition of William from his dad's side but also honor his mom's side. He also grew up having the same name as his dad and grandpa (both very well-known in our town) and it's a giant PITA. So he wants to spare our hypothetical child the pain of having the same name as his dad, grandpa and great-grandpa but still preserve the memory - he's incredibly close with this family. It's a thing he wants to do and it's not worth fighting over. But like I said, we'll probably never have kids and never have to worry about it. And he could also change his mind by the time we do have kids and just want to name him Jack.
ETA - I would put my foot down on doing the same with any other hypothetical children, however.
There's a big difference though between planning to call your kid by their middle name (in which case I agree - just make it their first name) and naming a kid Billy. I think that was super dumb. It's a diminutive and he hated it as a grown man. Look FORWARD a little to what your kid might be called as an ADULT, apply the "Supreme Court Justice" or POTUS test to it. President Billy ain't gonna happen.
Resident Katie, reporting for duty!
Kate is my baby name for a girl. not Katherine, Kathleen or Kaitlin. Just Kate. I love the name. I think it's a full name.
I definitely agree. However, DH and I picked pretty traditional and classic names anyways so that if they did become POTUS, it'd sound nice, haha!
So President Stormageddon Dark Lord of All is a no-go then?