I realize this is an odd question, but hang with me.
Fiancé and his ex wife divorced 8yrs ago. They were married for a year and a half. After the divorce, she kept her ring and he kept his wedding band. No idea what she did with the ring; I assume it's in a drawer somewhere. Frankly, I'm happy she kept it because I know fiancé would have proposed with that ring.
Now, I have decided just to wear my engagement ring and not get a band. When fiancé and I were discussing this, he brought up that he still kept the tungsten wedding band from his previous marriage and he could wear that. He doesn't see it as a reminder of her, he just genuinely likes the band. It's also a thousand dollar band. My fiancé is very "cost driven analysis" and doesn't see the point in buying a new ring when he has a perfectly good one already.
I agreed, because hey-free ring. Its also gorgeous and he likes it. I know he holds no feelings towards her. But the more I think about it, the more I think this is not a good idea. If ex wife were on another continent, I would be fine with it. But she's in the same town and snarky/high conflict as ever. She paid for the ring, so I could see her noticing it at stepdaughters soccer game and making comments, or straight up telling her daughter it is rightfully her ring, and he needs to give it back.
So how do I go about doing this? I think the best option is to sell the ring and buy a new one. How do you sell wedding bands with no paperwork? Craigslist? I know it's my fiances decision, but I don't think he will be upset to sell it?
I know this is a weird situation. Nobody would know know except him, myself and ex wife. I guess the only thing that bothers me is that ex wife would know and either constantly hold it over our heads or involve their daughter.