I need a little help with this situation so hoping someone has some input. My MOH has offered to host a wedding shower and has asked for a list of people I would like to invite. FI works out of state and summers are impossible for him to get time off so it will have to be a more traditional only women shower. Our wedding guest list is almost 100% family and MOH lives in the state that my side lives in. I am thinking my aunts/cousins/BMs but I'm stuck on the MOG.
She is currently going through chemo and will be for the next 6 months. She wants to throw a BBQ at her house for his side of the family and was going to do it this summer but with this diagnosis she has asked if I would be OK with her doing an after wedding gathering for them which is completely fine.
Originally she was on the list, but with everything going on I'm not sure what to do since she would have to fly for the shower. Should I just talk to her about it over the phone? I feel bad having MOH send an official invite because I know how she is and I don't want her to feel bad not being able to attend, but I also don't want her to feel like she isn't wanted there.